“Fame has only the span of a day, they say. But to live in the hearts of the people – that is worth something.”
—Ouida, pseudonym of the 19th Century English novelist, Maria Louise Ramé
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In the program for a 1968 exhibition of his work at the Moderna Museet in Stockholm, Sweden, Andy Warhol said, “In the future, everyone will be world-famous for 15 minutes.”
Today, with our celebrity culture and social media mania, it seems a good percent of the world’s population seeks a day, 15 minutes, or even 15 seconds of fame.
Perhaps the short-lived nature of fame is that it tends to be self-centered, where people are much more focused on being interesting to others than being interested in others.
Where and with whom can and will you strive to be a person of significance versus merely a success? Where and how can you become more endearing in the hearts of the people around you?
“Our days are happier when we give people a bit of our heart rather than a piece of our mind.”
—Ritu Ghatourey, East Indian Author
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Wayne Dyer, who passed away on August 29, 2015, was an American philosopher, self-help author, and motivational speaker.
His life was a testament to his own journey of personal, professional, and spiritual growth. In many ways he was a true seeker of wisdom, and did more than many others in his field to pay forward his own lesson to millions of people, through various talk shows, countless speeches, and PBS specials.
One of his key teachings is that we are all connected to a divine source. By tapping into that divinity we can all live better and more richly rewarding lives.
Where and with whom would giving more of your heart instead of your mind become the source of greater happiness, and perhaps make Wayne Dyer smile in his ongoing divine journey?
“It is a rare person who can take care of hearts while also taking care of business.”
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There is a good amount of evidence proving that taking care of hearts is an excellent strategy for business success.
Examine the literature or perhaps the “Best Places to Work” articles in your local papers, to find the superstar companies that prove this point.
The best and most inspiring organizational mission statements point to the values, beliefs, and attitudes they bring to their key stakeholders. These statements always go beyond shareholder value to include their commitments to customers, and of course, the employees and/or team members.
How can you better take care of business by creating and supporting an atmosphere in which people are truly the most valuable asset?
“You don’t protect your heart by acting like you don’t have one.”
— Author unknown
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In my school days, I would often hear the phrase “Big boys don’t cry,” on the playground and in school. Being tough and strong were qualities associated with being a male in our society, even at an early age.
To achieve this outward persona, many boys began building shells—even fortresses—around themselves, so they could never be hurt, and never show what many considered the ultimate shame for a man: weakness.
Although this strategy may have provided some degree of protection against life’s bumps and bruises, it also imprisoned these boys in a world of limited connection. They were often removed from daily experiences of joy, happiness, and fulfilling relationships.
Should you see that you tend to use this strategy to protect your heart, take particular note of what it may be costing you as part of the fullest experience of life.
Consider reading the work of Brene Brown in such books as Daring Greatly, and The Gifts of Imperfection, to move yourself to what she refers to as a “guide to a wholehearted life.”
“When at a conflict between mind and heart, always follow your heart.”
– Swami Vivekananda, Hindu monk
How do you make decisions? Do you come to them through logic, or check in with your gut? Do they make sense or do they feel right? Are you a head or heart decider?
Many people use both, and enjoy knowing that something is consistent with their core values as well as meeting the criteria of logic and critical thinking.
What if these two types of thinking are in conflict? How often have you been faced with such a conflict in your personal or professional life, and how successful have you been in making such decisions?
Where could increasing your emphasis on your heart’s decisions increase your success and satisfaction?