“As children we are taught not to play with fire, not how to play with fire.”
—Steven Kotler, American Author, Journalist, and Entrepreneur
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Looking back to childhood I remember two times when playing with fire got me in big trouble. The first time was when Mom caught me playing with matches. The second was when I decided it would be interesting to put my paper napkin into our lit Hanukkah candles.
The control and use of fire was a pivotal point in human evolution and cultural advancement. Providing heat and the ability to cook food are just two factors that permitted the expansion of human activity across our planet.
How and in what ways can we shift our thinking regarding the potential risky fires of life, and harness their power more fully?
How would doing so with our children inspire greater creativity, innovation, and achievements to better our world?
“Don’t just go with the flow, take some dares through the rapids.”
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If your life were a movie or TV show, how likely is it that it would be a blockbuster everyone talks about?
Mine would probably not be a big hit with most people. When I ask people who know me best to describe me, some words that pop up often include: dependable, disciplined, reliable, steady, cooperative, honest, loyal, and friendly.
Being a “Steady Eddie” has served me well, and I consider myself very happy with my reasonable, predictable life.
On the other hand, there are many displays in my office of my favorite quote: “When patterns are broken, new worlds will emerge.” This thought constantly reminds me to keep checking in to see where I am committed to something bigger, better, or just different from “going with the flow.” It’s at these times I periodically jump into the fast-moving or riskier waters of life, and go for it. It’s interesting to note that a high percentage of these times are associated with some of my most memorable and significant accomplishments.
What is one important area of your life in which it is time to jump into the rapids and be a bit more daring?
“Creativity is inventing, experimenting, growing, risk-taking, breaking rules, making mistakes, and having fun.”
—Mary Lou Cook, late Peace Activist
During the Personal Excellence Workshop that begins each of my coaching programs, my clients list their personal strengths. I am somewhat surprised that less than half of them include creativity in their list.
When prompted about their level of creativity, they humbly deflect, stating things like, “On Occasion / Not Really,” or “That is why I do _____ for a living.”
I suggest that we all are far more creative than we believe and that we all create our lives each and every day, for better or for worse.
How can you take Mary Lou Cook’s coaching to increase your daily level of inventing, experimenting, risk-taking, rule breaking, and mistake making to expand your creative capacity and make your life a lot more fun?
“Sometimes your only available transportation is a leap of faith.”
—Margaret Louisa Vanderbilt Shepard, 20th Century American Heiress
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Helping high-integrity, growth oriented individuals pursue and realize their vision of life excellence is my passion.
This special coaching partnership with each individual includes many aspects, which can be summarized in a three step process, which I call a “Pivot.”
Assessing the client’s current situation, including emotions, feelings, and of course, objective evidence of what is and isn’t working.
Determining their preferred view of the future – where they wish to be at some point down the road – professionally and personally.
Exploring, choosing, and taking committed actions to move from their current reality toward their vision.
If you happen to not be progressing sufficiently toward your desired goals, or if you perhaps feel stopped entirely, take the leap to secure a coach or other supportive individual. Find someone who can help you “pivot” to continually and faithfully leap each and every day toward the life you deeply desire.
Napoleon Hill is considered by many to be one of the greatest writers on the topic of success. His most famous work, Think and Grow Rich, has sold over 20 million copies. His work on personal beliefs and the role they play in success is legendary.
This quote goes a step further than his famous “Anything the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve,” in that it points to summoning the courage to act and take risks to achieve what we desire.
If you are “waiting for your ship to come in,” how can you suit up, jump in the risky waters, and swim out to it instead?
When my children were young, we would often play a searching game with them called “Where’s Waldo?” The books in this series consisted of detailed double-spread illustrations depicting dozens or hundreds of people doing amusing things at a given location.
Readers were challenged to find Waldo, a slender, glasses-wearing, nerdy character sporting a red and white striped shirt, bobble hat, and blue trousers.
Unfortunately, most people don’t like taking the time to find the “Waldos” of opportunity in their world. They much prefer opportunities to stand out in the world shouting, “Here I am!”
What special efforts can you make or what goal can you accomplish today that will have you stand out from the crowd?
Safety and security are strong values for many people. They represent part of our collective comfort zones that play an important part in who we are. Unfortunately, there is often a very limiting and sometimes painful consequence to this “better safe than sorry” approach to life.
If a flower misses the rain and sunshine by not blooming, what are you potentially missing by not summoning the courage to blossom into your full expression of yourself? What actions will you take today to blossom?