“Tweak the balance between your dance and your march.”
—Michael Bungay Stainer, Founder of BoxofCrayons
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What comes to mind when you consider the word dance? For me, it’s playful, fun-loving, and self-expressed.
Now what about the word march? Perhaps thoughts of the military, or simply disciplined work not necessarily of your choice come to mind.
As a young boy in grade school, the though that I could or should not play until all the work was done was prominent.
Given that for most of us the work never seems to be done, where would tweaking your own dance/march ratios make the biggest difference?
How might you bring more play to your work, or dance into a more enjoyable and productive life?
“He who will not economize will have to agonize.”
—Confucius, ancient Chinese Philosopher
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Over many years of coaching, I’ve noticed several interesting trends.
In general, my clients in their twenties, thirties, and forties are most often on a highly intentional growth trajectory. They want to build wealth, pursue success, and increase their standard of living. This almost always involves accumulating possessions, and often increases the demands and complexity of their lives.
As they reach their fifties, sixties, and seventies, they seem to be more focused on scaling back, simplification, and greater balance. It is often because their many years of living in the fast lane, carrying too much stuff and stress, has become more of a burden than they care to shoulder going forward.
Where would a “less is more” strategy, regardless of your stage of life, provide you the added freedom and peace of mind you desire?
“Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving.”
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Take a moment to recall the day you learned to ride a bicycle. If you cannot recall this event, perhaps the experience of teaching your own children is more vivid in your mind.
Sitting on a bike in a stationary position is never an option, although at first it might appear a safe way to proceed.
Only with some speed and forward momentum does the elusive concept of balance become apparent, with all sorts of new places to visit and explore!
Where in your personal or professional worlds have you lost your sense of balance because of lack of movement?
Where would forging forward help you regain the balance you deeply desire?
“…but are instead people whose one driving enthusiasm is so great it makes their faults seem insignificant.”
– Charles A. Cerami, author
Many years ago, I read an article in a magazine entitled “Life Balance is Bunk!”
When I work with clients, many indicate that living a balanced life is one of their primary objectives. But if you study the world of personal and professional high achievement, you’ll find two things.
First, high achievers lead very imbalanced lives. Second, they are very happy and have actually chosen this imbalance at this point in their lives.
Rebalance your life by adding more of some things and reducing – or even stopping – certain other activities. If you do this exercise often, you will find that you too will have a somewhat unbalanced but happier life.
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