Do you want to be happy

“Do you want to be happy? Let go of what’s gone, be grateful for what remains, and look forward to what is coming.”

—Author Unknown

Image of five clock on a wall, showing different time zones

Image from Unsplash by Luis Cortes

Through my mindfulness efforts over the past few years, I realize that I live in three different time zones. At certain times, I reflect on the past and hold on or grasp for what seems like “the good one days.”

The bulk of my days, I try my best to remain present, in the moment, so that I can make the most of the here and now, and be grateful for all I have.

Of course, we would not be human if we did not demonstrate a healthy curiosity about the years ahead, knowing that our actions today can manifest our visions for the future.

EXERCISE:

How and in what ways can you increase your own happiness and life satisfaction by letting go of what’s gone, being grateful for what remains, and looking forward to what is coming?

Thanksgiving 2018

Dear Friends:

Thanksgiving Day is more than a holiday, a great meal, and big football games to me.
Thanks-Giving—gratitude—is a way of life, a discipline and for many, a spiritual practice. Today I give thanks for all of you—my friends, followers, clients, and colleagues. You have enriched my life by allowing me into your mind, your heart, and your world. May this Thanks-Giving bring you laughter, love, and gratitude for all that you have and all that comes to you over the next year.

Here are a few Thanksgiving posts from years past. May each of them give you reason for thought and celebration:

 

“Thanksgiving is a time of togetherness and gratitude.”

 

 

 

 

“He who receives a benefit with gratitude repays the first installment on his debt.”

 

 

 

“I am grateful for what I am and have. My Thanksgiving is perpetual.”

 

 

 

 

One looks back with appreciation

“One looks back with appreciation to the brilliant teachers, but with gratitude to those who touched our human feelings.”

—Carl Gustav Jung, 20th Century Swiss founder of analytical psychology

I recently watched the Netflix documentary, Genius of the Ancient World. The three-part series focused on The Buddha, Socrates, and Confucius.

Surprisingly, they all lived about 2,500 years ago, but worlds apart geographically. Many of their teachings and influences are still very apparent in our world today.

Who are the brilliant and soul-touching teachers from your past? Who are the current teachers and mentors that continue to make a meaningful difference in your life?

Where have you, and are you, that brilliant and perhaps more importantly, soul-touching teacher for others, personally or professionally?

EXERCISE:

Reflect on the questions above, and determine some meaningful way to show your gratitude for the teachers who influenced your world.

We can only be said to be alive

“We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures.”

—Thornton Wilder, 20th Century American Playwright and Novelist

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In 1989, Phil Collins, the multi-talented musician and singer, released his popular and catchy song “Another Day in Paradise.” If you have 4 or 5 minutes, watch this video.

Unfortunately for me, I’ve been humming this tune and tapping my hand on the steering wheel of my car for all these years, without really listening to the lyrics.

The key phrase of the song is “Oh, think twice – it’s another day for you and me in paradise.”

Perhaps it was my meditation on gratitude this morning that had me think twice and be far more conscious of the abundance of daily treasures I often overlook.

EXERCISE:

How can you think twice and be far more conscious of your daily treasures, to be more alive and fully appreciative of the paradise around you?

a kind of immortality

“The influence of each human being on others in this life is a kind of immortality.”

—John Quincey Adams, 6th President of the United States

Image of a physician holding a newborn

Image from Unsplash by Alex Hockett

We often hear comments about newborns having their mother’s eyes, or their father’s nose or smile.

Beyond our genetic code living on in our offspring, today’s quote points to the tremendous influence those outside our immediate family can have on us.

Take a few minutes to look at your past and current relationships to see how they have shaped the person you are today. Consider among these friends, teachers, mentors, coaches, neighbors, and religious leaders.

EXERCISE:

Where and with whom do or can you intentionally have a more positive influence within your various communities? Who are some of the individuals you may wish to thank again, or for the first time, for their contribution to your life?

He who receives a benefit with gratitude

“He who receives a benefit with gratitude repays the first installment on his debt.”

—Seneca, ancient Roman Philosopher

"Thank You" spelled out in wooden blocks

Image from Unsplash by Courtney Hedger

On this special day of Thanksgiving in the United States, I hope you are spending time with family and friends.

Throughout the day, consider all the riches you have in your life. Consider, too, the benefits you’ve received from those around you.

Take this time to fully and generously thank those in the kitchen, at the dinner table, and watching the football game, as a small installment on this debt.

EXERCISE:

How can and will you take this attitude of gratitude with you throughout the holiday season and new year to generate a surplus in your account?

Silent Gratitude

“Silent gratitude isn’t much use to anyone.”

-Gladys Bronwyn Stern, 20th Century British Novelist

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If a tree falls in the woods and there is no one to hear it, does it make a sound?

In much the same way, silent gratitude or appreciation without some form of overt acknowledgement seems to miss the mark of making any tangible impact.

In many respects, words of acknowledgement, praise, and gratitude are forms of love. They support the growth and development of enhanced relationships in many aspects of our lives.

EXERCISE:

Where and with whom will you put your silent gratitude on a loud external speaker as a foundation for improved relationships and results in your world?

Friday Review Gratitude

FRIDAY REVIEW: GRATITUDE

What are you grateful for today?  Here are a few gratitude-related posts you may have missed. Click on the link to read the full post.

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“Normal day, let me be aware of the treasure you are. Let me not pass you by in quest of some rare and perfect tomorrow.”

 

 

 

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“I thank you for your part in my journey.”

 

 

 

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“Appreciation is a wonderful thing; it makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well.”

 

 

 

Thanksgiving 2016

“Thanksgiving is a time of togetherness and gratitude.”

—Nigel Hamilton, British Biographer/Broadcaster

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EXERCISE:

Who are those special people that make your life so wonderful? Make an extra special effort today, and every day, to show them and tell them.

THANK YOU so much for being a part of The Quotable Coach Project!

Most Sincerely,

Barry Demp

“You are my sun, my moon…”

“You are my sun, my moon, and all my stars.”

-E.E. Cummings, American poet, painter, essayist & playwright

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The sun, the moon, and the stars emit or reflect light. When light shines upon and around us, we can see and better understand things.

The people closest to us that care the most offer us this opportunity every day, particularly when our eyes are wide open with receptivity and gratitude. It is at these times we discover more about ourselves and can become even more of what is possible for us.

EXERCISE:

Who are the sun, moon, and stars that have made and continue to make a difference in your life? How will you thank them, illuminate their lives, or the lives of others in the same way?