“A single sunbeam is enough to drive away many shadows.”
—St. Francis of Assisi
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Who are the people in your world that light up your life?
Take a minute or more to make a list of these special people, and note the qualities and characteristics they exhibit that caused you to put them on your list.
On the flip side, note the individuals in your personal and professional communities that cast shadows over your world and reduce your aliveness and life satisfaction. What are their specific behaviors and attitudes that cloud your world?
Beyond spending far more time with the first group and less with the second, how can and will you personally bring more sunshine to those around you, for the benefit of all?
This effort will almost certainly attract many more sunbeams from others who also desire brighter days.
“One aspect of a successful relationship is not just how compatible you are, but how you deal with your incompatibility.”
—Daniel Goleman, Founder of the Emotional Intelligence Movement
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Did you know that in western cultures, over 90 percent of people marry? Healthy marriages are good for the couple, and for their children. Unfortunately, 40-50 percent of first marriages end in divorce, and the divorce rate for subsequent marriages is even higher.
During the courting/dating phase of a relationship, compatibility is a key element to the initial connection. Over time, partners begin seeing aspects of one another they were a bit blind to during the “show only your best side” phase.
Goleman and other experts on successful marriage point to numerous success factors – see the list below – that help marriage stand the test of time.
Respecting each other’s differences
Sharing common values
Open and honest communication
Being fair and respectful
Having a sense of humor
Demonstrating appreciation and gratitude
Honesty and integrity
Sensitivity, compassion, empathy
Seeing your marriage as a partnership and working as a team
Forgiveness for your partner and yourself
On this Valentine’s Day, consider having a discussion with your partner regarding this list. What efforts can and will you take to make your relationship more successful and fulfilling?
We are currently in the grips of winter here in Michigan, and today’s quote reminded me of a story a friend shared at a holiday luncheon.
As a little girl, she would often wait outside in the cold for the school bus. To keep her warm, her mom would bake small potatoes in aluminum foil and slip them in her pockets to hold through her mittens, making her wait a bit more comfortable. Once in her seat, she had the extra benefit of a tasty snack to eat on her way to school.
To this day, she attributes this heartwarming story from childhood for her current fondness for hash brown potatoes for breakfast.
What heartwarming strategies can you employ to show your love and care for others this winter, and all year long? If you happen to have one of your own heartwarming stories, please hit reply and send it my way!
Brendon Burchard is a best-selling author and one of the world’s leading High Performance coaches. His latest book, High Performance Habits, was one of Amazon’s top three best business and leadership books of 2017.
Today’s quote hits home for me personally and professionally. Throughout my life I’ve observed that most everyone desires and is committed to contributing to others. This focus seems to be universally required to live a full and meaningful life.
Where are you currently operating well below your “A” game and fullest potential?
Who specifically in your world needs you at your very best?
What specific efforts are required to make this level of contribution?
“Man did not weave the web of life – he is merely a strand in it. Whatever he does to the web, he does to himself.”
—Greg Braden, NYT Best-Selling Author
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If you happen to enjoy history, consider exploring the history of our planet and how animals and plant life have evolved. Consider checking out fossil records and other scientific methods including carbon dating.
A surprising discovery for many is just how recently man – especially modern man – has been around.
Humans, because of our remarkable brains and our ability to coordinate and cooperate, have altered our world far more quickly and dramatically than all other creatures combined.
What positive and negative strand-pulling activities are you observing these days? How and in what ways can all of us contribute and strengthen the web of life to leave a positive and lasting legacy for all future generations and all creatures that share our beautiful world?
“You don’t get harmony when everyone sings the same note.”
—attributed to Doug Floyd
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Do you enjoy music? Perhaps you play an instrument or two. Other than trying my hand at the drums in grade school, I realized quite quickly that I was more satisfied listening to it rather than playing it.
Recently, I was watching a Netflix program called “Explained” on the subject of music. I was amazed to learn just how much I did not know about its workings. Beyond the notes were additional concepts of which I knew little, including pitch, timbre, melody, and rhythm. Combining them all in the appropriate amounts can have us tapping our toes, caught up in its harmonious magic.
Consider your professional and personal communities. Where and how does variety and diversity of thought and capabilities provide for greater levels of harmonious achievement and success?
“A man’s pride can be his downfall, and he needs to learn when to turn to others for support and guidance.”
—Bear Grylls, British Adventurer
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If you were to look up the phrase “rugged individual or adventurer” on the internet, you would likely see a photo and description of Bear Grylls.
He served in the British army, trained in unarmed combat, desert and winter warfare, survival, climbing, and parachuting. He is also noted for his numerous expeditions, including:
Climbing Mount Everest
Circumnavigating the United Kingdom on a jet ski
Crossing the North Atlantic in a rigid inflatable boat
Climbing remote and “unclimb-able” peaks in Antarctica
Although much personal attention has created his celebrity status, he points out most vividly, with today’s quote, that in virtually all cases, his successes involved and were dependent on the support and guidance of others.
Where in your personal or professional life have you been going it alone to achieve what you desire? Where and on what matters it is time to more fully embrace and yes, request the assistance of others in your various communities?