“Do you want to be happy? Let go of what’s gone, be grateful for what remains, and look forward to what is coming.”
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Through my mindfulness efforts over the past few years, I realize that I live in three different time zones. At certain times, I reflect on the past and hold on or grasp for what seems like “the good one days.”
The bulk of my days, I try my best to remain present, in the moment, so that I can make the most of the here and now, and be grateful for all I have.
Of course, we would not be human if we did not demonstrate a healthy curiosity about the years ahead, knowing that our actions today can manifest our visions for the future.
How and in what ways can you increase your own happiness and life satisfaction by letting go of what’s gone, being grateful for what remains, and looking forward to what is coming?
“Well arranged time is the surest mark of a well arranged mind.”
—Sir Isaac Pitman, developer of the Pitman method of Shorthand
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Time management is almost always one of the top goals of my coaching clients.
They describe their desires with wording such as:
- Life Balance
- Stress Reduction
- Personal Freedom
- Independence and Autonomy
- Peace of Mind
- Spending time and energy on what’s most important
- Work less and make more
All too frequently the tyranny of the urgent, or the pervasiveness of digital distractions, leaves us stressed and exhausted, with less than stellar results and satisfaction.
How can you more fully plan your days and work your plans to realize the life you sincerely desire?
Consider downloading a copy of my Time Management Strategies and Tactics Workbook, to help rearrange your mind and time. Please use the password BarryDemp if prompted to do so.
“Time is the wave upon the shore. It takes some things away, but it brings other things.”
—Amy Neftzger, Author, researcher, drummer
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The other night I couldn’t fall asleep. I tried numerous sleep strategies but still couldn’t catch any zzzz’s. The strategy that finally worked was to listen to an app on my phone that recreates the sound of waves rhythmically lapping against the shore.
Equating time to a wave upon the shore has appeal, a calming effect, as compared to the abrupt and fast aspects of our days.
How can you better and more fully embrace the flow of time and the comings and goings of life?
“If you want your children to turn out well, spend twice as much time with them, and half as much money.”
—Abigail Van Buren, Advice Columnist
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“Dear Abby” is an advice column founded in 1956 by Pauline Phillips under the pen name Abigail Van Buren. The column is carried on by her daughter Jean Phillips, who now owns the legal rights to the pen name.
The column is well known for its sound, compassionate advice delivered with the straightforward style of a good friend.
In addition to your children, who else in your personal or professional communities would benefit most from more quality time with you? What interaction with you would allow them to more fully realize their own inner strength and potential?
“The butterfly counts not months but moments, and has time enough.”
—Rabindranath Tagore, Bengali winner of the 1913 Nobel Prize in Literature
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The life cycle of a butterfly has four stages: Egg, Caterpillar, Pupa, and Adult.
Surprisingly, most adult butterflies live only one or two weeks, but some species hibernate during the winter and may live several months.
Whether their lives are weeks or months long, time to fulfill their purpose is short for these remarkable and beautiful creatures. They must somehow be conscious to this fact and see the importance and urgency of not wasting a single moment.
How can and will you cherish every moment of your life, and take coaching from the butterfly to transform your world?
“Timing is everything. It is as important to know when as to know how.”
—Arnold Glasow, 20th Century American Humor Writer
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Many people, including myself, are information junkies. We have varying levels of addiction to resources such as “How To” books, YouTube videos, TED Talks, and other forms of media, which build on our mountains of knowledge.
Recently, Daniel Pink published his newest book, titled WHEN – The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing. This book sheds light on the importance of knowing when to:
- Schedule your most important work
- Incorporate breaks and even naps in your day
- Change jobs
- Get married
- Start or end a project
- Do analytic versus creative tasks
Consider picking up a copy of WHEN right now, to discover some of your own secrets of your own perfect timing.
“Regret for time wasted can become a power for good in the time that remains.”
—Arthur Brisbane, 20th Century American Newspaper Editor
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How many more years do you expect to live, given your current health status and general life expectancy statistics?
How delighted, satisfied, disappointed or regretful are you regarding your current levels of professional and personal accomplishments?
I’ve found that virtually everyone I coach has a heightened sense of urgency, wanting to squeeze even more out of the time they have remaining.
For whatever the reason, they often seek out the support of a coaching relationship to achieve more, at a faster rate, than they have experienced up to the current moment.
The time we all have on this earth is limited. How will you maximize the use of what remains in order to achieve the success and significance you desire?
“To the wrongs that need resistance, to the rights that need assistance, to the future in the distance, give yourself.”
—Carrie Chapman Catt, 20th Century American Women’s Suffrage Leader
I love the idea that time is the Coin of Life. How we spend this precious resource, and those with which we spend it, makes all the difference in the world.
Fundamental to living a happy life is the need for purpose and having a reason to leap out of bed each morning. In other words, what are we giving ourselves to each day?
Consider these questions as you create and pursue your future:
What “wrongs” in your world need resisting?
What “rights” or causes need your assistance?
Feel free to reply to this post regarding the areas of life you intend to give more of yourself.
“The time men spend in trying to impress others, they could spend in doing the things by which others would be impressed.”
—Frank Romer, History Professor
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If we were to apply the 80/20 rule to today’s quote, it might go something like this:
“80 percent of the effort we put into impressing others creates 20 percent of the value we hope to produce.”
Although it seems pretty wasteful, many people put far too much effort in dressing for success than they should. Perhaps it is because these surface-only pursuits take less time and effort to make us look good. Unfortunately, they rarely produce the deep and significant outcomes we desire.
Consider shopping for a major purchase such as a home or a vehicle as a metaphor. Without a doubt, you would surely get a complete home inspection, or definitely look under the hood before making this kind of investment.
How can and will you flip the 80/20 rule to your benefit by taking more substantive actions to provide the valuable outcomes you desire, and likely impress others as a side benefit?