“Behind every able man, there are always other able men.”

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“Behind every able man, there are always other able men.”

– Chinese Proverb

Whether you read the acknowledgements section of a book, observe an acceptance speech, or observe someone who looks back on a life well lived, one thing is clear: no one accomplishes anything great alone.

Who are the family members, mentors, colleagues, coaches, advisors, etc who have assisted you along the way?

Exercise:

How clear are these people about the difference they have made in your life?

Which of these people might you want to acknowledge today?

Of these people, who would put you on their list?

“The winds and waves are always on the side of the ablest navigators.”

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“The winds and waves are always on the side of the ablest navigators.”

– Edward Gibbon

Although we all know that it is impossible to control the wind and the waves of life, I do like the concept that as we travel life’s journey, we can still be capable navigators.

Exercise:

What adjustments can you make to your life’s rudders and sails to pursue your personal and professional goals, in spite of rough seas and strong headwinds?

From Douglas Everett

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“There are some people who live in a dream world, and there are some who face reality; and then there are those who turn one into the other.”

– Douglas Everett

This quote sums up a primary reason why I am a coach. It may have been the reason I was inspired by the 1992 Olympic Games to pursue a coaching career.

The fundamental idea of turning one’s dreams into reality puts a smile on my face whenever I see the realization of this through the individual and collective efforts of my clients.

Two books related to this subject by Wayne Dyer are The Power of Intention and Manifest Your Destiny.  What will your dreams include as you envision a gold medal life?

Exercise:

Consider reading Dyer’s books and some other recommended books from my website to further realize your dreams:

http://www.dempcoaching.com/recommended-reading

To My Loyal Readers:  The Quotable Coach will be taking a few days off to enjoy the Thanksgiving Holiday, and I encourage you to do the same.  You will be receiving my next broadcast on Monday, November 26.  Have a great week!

“The human spirit is stronger than anything that can happen to it.”

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“The human spirit is stronger than anything that can happen to it.”

–George C. Scott

What does the human spirit mean to you? Consider the following:

  • The capacity to achieve great and wondrous things
  • The ability to learn and apply what you learn
  • The capacity to forgive
  • The ability to love and be loved
  • The capacity to be creative and innovative
  • The ability to dream and envision a better future
  • The capacity to endure pain and life’s difficult or even tragic moments
  • The ability to be resilient and try again and again in spite of repeated failures or defeats

Exercise:

Who are some of the people you know who demonstrate a strong human spirit?

What qualities do they demonstrate that you admire and wish to emulate?

“In the face of uncertainty, there is nothing wrong with hope.”

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“In the face of uncertainty, there is nothing wrong with hope.”

–Dr. Bernie Siegel

Many people would agree that we live in uncertain times. Consider the economy, politics, terrorism, technology and globalization as examples of dramatic and rapid change.

Insert humans into this mix and you find both the reasons for such change, and a solid foundation of faith, security, resilience and hope for a brighter future at our core.

This hope for a brighter future is like a beacon of light from a lighthouse on a stormy day, showing us the way into a safe harbor.

Exercise:

How can you further develop and fully express your most hopeful spirit in today’s uncertain world?

“Act so as to elicit the best in others and thereby in thyself.”

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“Act so as to elicit the best in others and thereby in thyself.”

–Felix Adler

This quote is perhaps one of the closest to the core message regarding coaching, which is “bring out the best in others.” Most people have an inherent desire to be their very best and to realize their fullest potential.

Many of our schools, our religious institutions, even our families, utilize an “outside-in” training method for development. This approach fosters conformity, and often limits creative self-expression.

Coaching comes from the place that many answers and capacities already lie within us. When others elicit these answers and capacities, the growth we experience is both more enjoyable and sustainable.

Exercise:

Who are the people in your life that elicit the best from you?

Where can you be a coach and elicit the best from others?

Forget to be Afraid

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“Become so wrapped up in something that you forget to be afraid.”

–Lady Bird Johnson, Former First Lady of the USA

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My journey into the coaching profession is definitely an example of getting so wrapped up in something I almost forgot to be afraid.

At the ripe old age of 35, I threw caution to the wind and left a 12-year career with a Fortune 500 pharmaceutical company to sign up for the job of “coach” with:

1. No salary (You ate what you killed!)
2. No benefits
3. No coaching clients
4. No general agreement about or awareness of the profession – it was truly in its infancy
5. A wife and two young children, plus a considerable mortgage
6. Modest savings, with about 6 months of living expenses

In spite of these factors, I found myself enthusiastic and excited to partner with people and help them achieve breakthroughs in their personal and professional life – just as Olympic athletes work with coaches to achieve their full potential.

Exercise:

What can you be so wrapped up in something that you forget to be afraid?

Our Greatest Glory

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“Our greatest glory consists not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.”

–Ralph Waldo Emerson

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One of my favorite movies of all time is Rudy,  in which the main character is a small and very feisty football player with a passion for the University of Notre Dame. Through dogged determination, persistence, and a tenacity rarely seen, he takes quite a beating by being a veritable practice dummy for the first team – and eventually rises to glory in the final hours.

Exercise:

What are your passions and commitments to which you give your all, no matter how often you fall?

What inspiring “Rudy” stories have you participated in or observed?

What stories are yet to be written, in which you will experience future glorious moments?

From Mick Brown, journalist and author

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“Ultimately the measure of every human being is their capacity to awaken the love in themselves and to extend it to their fellow man.”

– Mick Brown, journalist and author (paraphrasing Bede Griffiths)

As a business and executive coach, I tend to deal with many practical and quantifiable issues facing my clients. Beneath the surface of these objective details are the softer sides of things.

The term “love” is often consider off-limits in business – yet I find that it is often the hidden foundation of outstanding results. There is great power and connectivity that brings great possibilities to life, when we awaken and extend love to those around us.

A smile, a caring ear, a helpful act of service, a thank-you and even a hug from time to time are some simple things we can do.

Exercise:

What are some other ways you can extend your loving nature to others?

“A friend is a loved one…”

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“A friend is a loved one who awakens your life in order to free the wild possibilities within you.”

– John O’Donohue, poet, philosopher and Catholic priest

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Someone once told me that friends are the family we choose for ourselves. That puts friendships in a very special category of relationships.

One of the key attributes of our friends is that they are tuned into our personal life frequencies. We are far better together than apart.

Exercise:

What are two to three areas of your life that need to be awakened? What would you consider to be a wild possibility in these areas?

Who are the friends that bring this special spark to your life, and how can you be this kind of friend for others?