“Quotation is a serviceable substitute for wit.”

“Quotation is a serviceable substitute for wit.”

– Oscar Wilde, writer and poet

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How popular are you? How often do you find yourself at the center of attention?

If your answer happens to be less than you desire, Wilde might have a little coaching for you.

Exercise:

Begin exploring and even studying the great quotes of well-known individuals of today and the past. The selective use of quotes in your conversations will likely raise your popularity quotient in your personal and professional worlds.

Consider purchasing a copy of my recently launched book, The Quotable Coach: Daily Nuggets of Practical Wisdom, and turn to the index, where you can select quotes in your area of greatest interest.

You can buy the ebook from Amazon:

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And the paperback from my CreateSpace eStore – use the discount code 42E47C9N to get 10% off:

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“Remember, man does not live on bread alone: sometimes he needs a little buttering up.”

“Remember, man does not live on bread alone: sometimes he needs a little buttering up.”

– John C. Maxwell, American author, speaker and pastor

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In spite of the joy I find in cooking for family and friends, I really enjoy going out to dinner. Many restaurants serve bread and butter at the beginning of a meal, and in Italian restaurants, it is traditional to accompany the bread with some form of seasoned olive oil.

During our current low-carb craze (at least here in the US), many people are pushing that bread basket away. It turns out that many forms of bread, when consumed quickly, convert to glucose, which stimulates the pancreas to secrete insulin, which causes our body to store the glucose in the form of fat … which we all prefer to avoid.

There is evidence, however, that a modest amount of fat (in the form of butter or preferably a non-saturated fat such as olive oil) reduces this effect by reducing the Glycemic Index (GI) of the bread. There’s your science lesson for the day!

Exercise:

The quote by Maxwell above suggests that we need to attend to our important relationships to smooth the crusty edges of life.

How can you “butter up” some of your key relationships by showing greater interest, listening more fully, and allowing people to fully express their ideas and opinions?

You may wish to download my workbook on Masterful Relationships to help you. Go to www.dempcoaching.com/download-your-free-workbooks and enter the password barrydemp (all lower case).

“The opportunity is often lost by deliberating.”

“The opportunity is often lost by deliberating.”

– Publilius Syrus, Roman writer

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About a month ago, I attended a coaching workshop related to decision making. The speaker pointed to the combined use of our head, heart, and gut in this process.

Examine your own use of phrases such as I think, I feel, or my gut tells me, as a way to determine which of these three voices is the loudest.

A phrase I often hear, and frequently tell myself, is “I need to think this over” – which almost always slows down the decision-making process. It can sometimes help us avoid mistakes, but as the quote above suggests, it may often have us miss out on some of life’s best stuff.

Exercise:

How can you enhance the use of your heart and gut to augment your thinking self, so as not to lose out on some of life’s most wonderful opportunities?

“At the center of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want.”

“At the center of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want.”

– Lao Tzu, founder of Taoism

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Lao Tzu must have been an outstanding coach. Many coaching philosophies have at their core the concept that virtually all answers lie within each individual. If this is the case, why has there been such a phenomenal growth in this industry?

Many coaches, including me, assert that the engaging, committed, and inquiry-based coaching relationship literally draws these answers out of each client to clarify and crystallize this inner knowing.

Once these answers are made clear, the coach provides the ongoing reminder and support system to assist the client to pursue their authentic life journey toward their deepest held desires.

Exercise:

Who are the coaches in your life that will help you answer the important questions regarding who you are and what you want, and support you to realize your best future self?

If you would like to explore my own coaching services, please start by looking at my flagship program, Personal Excellence Training:

http://www.dempcoaching.com/personal-excellence-training