“A day of worry is more exhausting than a week of work.”
—Sir John Lubbock, 19th Century British politician
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Imagine you are a cell phone.
You begin your day with a full charge, and prepare to productively navigate your day. All of a sudden, a Worry App is opened on a family matter. Then two more open on your way to work. After your first cup of coffee, a couple more Apps open, due to an email and a text you’ve received.
Following a day of such events, your reserves of power are low or completely exhausted.
You’re in need of a recharge.
Unless you can limit or eliminate the open Worry Apps, you may find yourself headed to bed mentally and emotionally exhausted, sometimes unable to turn them off so you can rest.
How can you more efficiently and effectively allocate your physical, mental, and emotional energies throughout the day?
How would greater awareness of your worries limit or prevent you from experiencing these draining factors?
“There are many ways of going forward, but only one way of standing still.”
—Franklin D. Roosevelt, 32nd President of the United States
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As part of my customized Personal Excellence Training — which sets the stage for the majority of coaching engagements — I introduce a self-coaching tool called “The Pivot Point.”
This technique uses the concept of “creative tension” described by Robert Fritz in his book, The Path of Least Resistance.
Essentially, the pivot point involves asking yourself — or perhaps a group — these three questions:
- What is the current reality?
- What is the vision or goal?
- What actions can and will I/we take to move forward?
The leverage of our vision provides the impetus to move forward, and creates the opportunity to better our situation.
Select at least one personal or professional front-burner issue or project to try out the Pivot Point technique. Please consider replying to this post to let me know how things go.
“If you only have a hammer, you tend to see every problem as a nail.”
—Abraham Maslow, 20th Century American Psychologist
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When was the last time you needed to repair your car, an appliance, or some other device in your home?
In days gone by, we would sometimes give these items a good whack in hopes of getting them going again.
Sometimes it actually worked!
These days, it is rare that any single tool or technique can get the job done, given the multitude and complexity of the many technologies and challenges we face.
In our use of communication, leadership, management, and coaching tools, it almost always takes a tailored and customized approach to optimize our outcomes.
Where in your life is being a hammer not working?
Consider asking a friend, colleague, family member, or coach for guidance regarding what other tools might be a better choice.
“Don’t gain the world and lose your soul; wisdom is better than silver or gold.”
—Bob Marley, 20th Century Jamaican singer/songwriter
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How strongly do you “fit” and experience a sense of belonging in your personal and professional communities?
To what degree do your beliefs and core values align and resonate with others at home and at work?
Where may you be looking the other way or squinting a bit as you view your world, due to the benefits and payoffs some of your communities or associations provide?
What, if any, soul-diminishing effects are you experiencing due to certain decisions or indecision?
What wise and perhaps courageous choices and actions can and will you take to strengthen your soulful foundations toward an even more richly rewarding life?
“If you call failures experiments, you can put them on your resume and claim them as achievements.”
—Mason Cooley, 20th Century American Aphorist
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Are you failing enough?
On a daily or weekly basis, how likely are you to try something new, take a risk, or experiment with something that may work just fine?
Being wrong, looking bad, and of course, losing, is to be avoided at all cost. Due to the potential for striking out, many of us never suit up and step on the playing fields of life, never swing away at our goals.
Today’s quote flips this idea on its head, to empower us to wear our setbacks and failures as badges of courage and honor.
How can and will you build an even more impressive resume given this expanded perspective?
“Every silver lining has a cloud.”
—Mary Kay Ash, Founder of Mary Kay Cosmetics
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Living in Michigan for over 30 years, I have come to fully appreciate all four seasons. For many who live here, the joke goes that there are only two: Winter, and Construction.
I also see the down side of this perspective, yet most Michiganders are a pretty hearty, upbeat bunch.
Folks around here seem to find a good number of silver linings on a day-to-day basis despite those cloudy days and episodes in life. We are pretty good at making lemonade and of course experience gratitude for all the good things around us.
How can you more fully notice and appreciate the silver lining moments in your life? Looking for clouds may be a good place to start.
“Wisdom is often times nearer when we stoop than when we soar.”
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Achieving new levels of professional and career success is almost always a primary reason people seek coaching. They of course wish to soar, create more value for others, and better provide for themselves and their families.
In the course of pursuing these goals, most people see considerable spill over into their personal life priorities, sometimes right within arms reach.
It turns out that wisdom is far nearer than they thought. Reaching out to serve their friends, colleagues, neighbors, and other communities helps them experience greater passion and purpose in their lives.
How might you gain far greater wisdom by doing a bit more stooping rather than soaring? What actions can and will you take today?
“Accept this moment as if you had chosen it.”
—Eckart Tolle, Author of The Power of Now
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What percentage of your day do you find yourself irritated, upset, or even angry about how things are going?
Consider your thwarted intentions and unfulfilled expectations as precursors to such feelings.
What benefit might you experience if you stopped resisting how things are and chose instead to accept and allow them to be as they are?
What people and events are occurring in your life in which acceptance would provide you the greatest value?