“Certain people in our lives could be our biggest speed bumps to living the lives we want.”

“Certain people in our lives could be our biggest speed bumps to living the lives we want.”

Tim Parr, CEO and Founder of CADDIS

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When was the last time you were faced with actual speed bumps on your way to an intended destination?

How did you feel when you were forced to slow down or when you were jolted by the elevation change?

Who are the people in your world that slow you down from moving at the speed you desire?

In what ways do they test your patience and cause you considerable frustration?

Speed bumps are usually put in place to protect us or others from potential accidents and injuries.

The speed kills concept can definitely apply in certain situations!

Sometimes, fast can be slow and slow can offer a much smoother ride.

EXERCISE:

In what ways can the speed bump people in your life actually be helping you get where you need to go versus where you want to go?

Build a life for yourself that doesn’t require validation from others.

Build a life for yourself that doesn’t require validation from others.

—Calm App Reflection

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From the time we are born we seek validation from others.

Getting what we want from parents, teachers, friends, and work colleagues seems to be the key to opening the doors of successful living.

Beyond the nods, smiles, gold stars, and promotions some of us still find our lives lacking.

No matter how many fans we have, the search for more often continues.

How we measure our lives and know when enough is enough can be a very elusive quest.

EXERCISE:

In what ways can you apply more of your own views of your life as the primary validation needed to see yourself as a success?

Friday Review: Momentum

Friday Review: Momentum

Do you find it easy or difficult to get going or keep going? Here are a few related posts you may have missed.

 

“Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving.”

 

 

 

 

“When a dog runs at you, whistle for him.”

 

 

 

 

“It’s hard to build momentum if you are divided in your attention.”

 

 

 

The bond of our common humanity is stronger

“The bond of our common humanity is stronger than the divisiveness or our fears and prejudices.”

Jimmy Carter, 39th President of the United States

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Jimmy Carter is known for his commitment and efforts to enhance human rights at home and throughout the world. He was awarded the Nobel Peace Prize in 2002 for his diplomacy and promoting peace through the Carter Center.

At the age of 100, his life stands as a powerful legacy of extraordinary contributions to global welfare, inspiring others to engage in a wide range of humanitarian work.

EXERCISE:

In what ways does your attitude and efforts support the bonds of our common humanity? How do and can you partner with others in your communities to create a more peaceful and unified world for everyone?

“In what ways do you give more to the world than you take?”

“In what ways do you give more to the world than you take?”

—Author Unknown

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‘Tis the season for pot luck dinners, Secret Santa, and all types of generous acts within our communities.

Although it’s always nice to be on the receiving end at these times, it’s even more rewarding to be on the giving side of the equation.

In what areas of your world have you recently observed people sharing their time, resources, and love with others? How have they prioritized the needs of those around them over their own desires and interests?

EXERCISE:

In the coaching profession, it’s often said that the best coaching is a good example.

Who are the “heart of gold” people in your world that inspire you to give far more than you receive?

How can you acknowledge and give them the recognition they most certainly deserve?

 

What we need is a new model of growth

“What we need is a new model of growth that emphasizes sustainability.”

Thomas L. Friedman, internationally renowned author, reporter, and columnist

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The three primary elements of sustainability are people, planet, and profit, often referred to as “the triple bottom line.” These pillars represent interconnected dimensions of sustainable development.

The focus on people emphasizes fair business practices, employee rights, community well-being, and social equity. This pillar involves creating healthier, more livable communities and ensuring equal opportunities.

The focus on our planet involves minimizing negative environmental impact by reducing waste, using resources efficiently, protecting biodiversity, and adopting green technologies. The goal is to meet current needs without compromising future generations’ ability to meet their own needs.

The focus on profit ensures financial stability and growth while considering environmental and social costs. This pillar involves responsible resource management, transparent accounting, and creating long-term economic value.

EXERCISE:

In what ways do and can you apply the “triple bottom line” like a tripod to create a more stable and sustainable world now and for many generations to come?

The spotlight effect has us think that we are the center of other people’s attention

The spotlight effect has us think that we are the center of other people’s attention. We’re not!

—Calm App Reflection

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Have you ever attended a networking event to promote your business, your product, or even yourself? These are gatherings where you can (hopefully) make a good impression on others by offering your sixty second commercial or a thirty second elevator pitch.

For many people, such events create a bit of fear or trepidation, knowing that all eyes are on you as you speak.

The truth in these situations is that during these moments everyone else is so concerned with what they intend to say that they actually pay little or no attention to you.

EXERCISE:

Where in your personal or professional world do you worry and fret about being in the spotlight?

How can knowing that others are paying little attention to you put you at ease and support your well-being in these social and professional situations?

Friday Review: Memories

Friday Review: Memories

What are your favorite memories? Which memories aren’t so pleasant? Here are a few related posts you may have missed.

“When your past calls, don’t answer. It has nothing to say.”

 

 

 

 

 

“The great man is the one who does not lose his child’s heart.”

 

 

 

 

“Your mind is for having ideas, not holding them.”

 

 

 

 

The mind can take you in a thousand directions

The mind can take you in a thousand directions, but on this path, I walk in peace.

Thich Nhat Hanh, Vietnamese Thiền Buddhist monk

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I’ve been an avid student my entire life. In my early years, I remember being passionately curious about how things worked.

Even today, I get a dopamine hit by looking up and questioning ideas that pop into my mind.

These days, many more of my inquiries center on my inner world.

Going there through guided meditation and other practices can sometimes be a noisy journey with many competing thoughts pulling me away from a peaceful path.

Thankfully, through ongoing practice and taking my lessons off the cushion and into the world, I’ve discovered more of the peace I seek.

EXERCISE:

In what ways does your mind take you in a thousand directions?

How can noticing these detours in your mindfulness efforts lead you toward a more peaceful path?

“Happiness and moral duty are inseparably connected.”

“Happiness and moral duty are inseparably connected.”

George Washington, First President of the United States

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George Washington believed that moral duty was intrinsically linked to human happiness.

He emphasized that promoting happiness requires the practice of moral duty, suggesting that virtue and ethical conduct are essential for individual and societal well-being.

Washington also stressed the importance of private morality, asserting that it is foundational to public policy and the nation’s direction.

His views reflect a belief in immutable moral principles, which he saw as critical for the prosperity and stability of the republic.

EXERCISE:

What are your views about the correlation between happiness and moral duty? Consider discussing your perspective with others within your communities to help foster a happier and more virtuous world.