“When faced with a problem, we can choose to wait on it or we can choose to work on it.”

“When faced with a problem, we can choose to wait on it or we can choose to work on it.”

Stephen St. Amant, author of Savenwood

Image from Unsplash by Karla Hernandez

Taking the time to reflect and ponder on our problems can be a very useful exercise.

Turning our challenges over in our minds can offer us a wider range of perspectives, and ways forward.

At times when we are completely stumped it can be helpful to reach out to others for guidance and assistance.

Taking a wait and see period beyond a reasonable length of time creates a paralysis that can trickle into other areas of our lives.

This often leads to a genderized gridlock and significant loss of confidence and self-efficacy.

EXERCISE:

On what issue have you been waiting too long for your problem to somehow resolve on its own?

Where is it time to take greater initiative and get to work to break-through the obstacles facing you?

What’s the least I can teach that will be the most useful

“What’s the least I can teach that will be the most useful?”

Michael Bungay Stainer, author of The Coaching Habit

Image from Unsplash by Kenny Eliason

My first career after graduating college was as a science teacher. My second career was as a pharmaceutical representative working with physicians and other medical professionals.

For the past thirty-two years, I’ve worked as a business and personal coach supporting individuals and organizations to reach higher and achieve more, personally and professionally. I suppose in many ways I’ve always been a teacher.

These days I am still a coach and teacher to my adult children and more recently as Pop-Pop to our two precocious and rambunctious grandchildren. Today’s quote is especially relevant for these little ones with their often limited attention spans.

EXERCISE:

Where in your life do you play the role of a teacher?

How would focusing on quality versus quantity in your wisdom sharing efforts make the biggest difference with the people you serve and support?

There are many paths to the same destination

There are many paths to the same destination. When one path is blocked, we simply choose another. How many WAZE are available to you at this moment?

—Calm App Reflection

Image from Unsplash by Brett Jordan

The other day I needed to drive from my home outside Philadelphia into the center city district during rush hour. Knowing this, I opened the WAZE app to determine when I needed to leave to provide me a safe margin of time to keep my white-knuckle stress to a minimum.

Although the bee-line distance was only around 25 miles, the time and turns it took was mind boggling.

In all my years, I had never seen the streets and neighborhoods that eventually took us to our destination.

EXERCISE:

How do you navigate your various paths through life when faced with roadblocks and detours?

What strategies do you use to reach your destinations when your usual routes are not available?

Friday Review: Value

Friday Review: Value

What do you value most in your life? How do you determine value? Here are a few related posts you may have missed.

“You cannot talk your way out of something you behaved yourself into.”

 

 

 

“Talk is cheap because supply exceeds demand.”

 

 

 

 

“We are drowning in information and starving for knowledge.”

 

 

 

 

 

Who are the people who make you think and laugh

“Who are the people who make you think and laugh? Be the person who takes the initiative and reach out to them.”

Michael Bungay Stainer discussion with Chip Conley

Image from Unsplash by Surface

I believe the quality of our lives is highly correlated with what we do and those with whom we do them.

For most of us, it is often difficult spending all the time we wish with our favorite people.

We trade our valuable time for other priorities, and often must compromise and settle.

EXERCISE:

How often do you take the initiative to reach out and stay connected to the special people who make you smile and keep you on your toes?

How can you let these people know how important they are so they can also take the initiative to pull you away from people and things not meant for you?

“I’m hungry to find people who are hungry.”

“I’m hungry to find people who are hungry.”

Michael Bungay Stainer, author of The Coaching Habit

Image from Unsplash by Maddi Bazzocco

Going out to eat is a primary pastime during our winter months in Florida.

My preference is to experiment with a wide variety of restaurants and types of food to keep things interesting.

One of my favorite places to go for lunch is an Asian buffet called Chow Time.

Our good friend Mitch has a robust appetite for both food and stimulating conversation. It’s nice to have our hunger satisfied beyond the many items being served over the numerous hours we spend in each other’s company!

EXERCISE:

Who are the people in your life that feed your mind and nourish your soul?

How can you spend more time with these special people — perhaps over a delicious meal?

A worthy goal can be intimate

“A worthy goal can be intimate. Choose the scale that suits you and feel your way into the journey.”

—Author Unknown

Image from Unsplash by Ronnie Overgoor

How do you feel about goal setting?

Do you have multi-page documents on hand with spreadsheets, timelines, and milestones? Or do you avoid such details altogether?

Many people see goals from a “go big or go home” perspective. If it doesn’t make a big enough dent in the universe, it’s not worthwhile.

Although Nobel prizes are nice, it is far more empowering for the rest of us to set our sights on more modest and more personally meaningful targets.

Sometimes even having a general direction for our journeys and putting forth our best efforts is more than enough.

EXERCISE:

What are some of the worthy goals you have been reluctant to pursue?

How can you realize the satisfaction of pursuing your intimate desires without having to tell the whole world?

Being on autopilot can be useful in many situations

Being on autopilot can be useful in many situations. On other occasions, it is necessary to grab the wheel of your life and do your own driving.

—Calm App Reflection

Image from Unsplash by Orkun Asap

What are your thoughts and feelings regarding self-driving cars?

In the last few years, a number of our friends have purchased electric vehicles.

With longer driving ranges, faster and more convenient charging options, and other cool and useful features, more and more folks are making the switch.

Each of these individuals is more than happy to drive when we get together to show off a bit of their new tech.  Among the latest functionalities to get from point A to point B is a hands and foot free option that does all the work for you.

Fortunately, these autonomous driving segments still requires a level of hands-on attention where only an actual person will do.

EXERCISE:

In what areas of your world have you turned the driving over to someone or something else?

Where is the timing right to grab back the wheel and take greater control of where things are headed?

 

Friday Review: Unity

Friday Review: Unity

Where in your life can you create more unity? Here are a few related posts you may have missed.

“A house divided against itself cannot stand.”

 

 

 

“When you throw dirt at people, you’re not doing a thing but losing ground.”

 

 

 

“Human beings are members of a whole, in creation of one essence and soul.”

 

 

 

 

“The gravity of the status quo is so strong.”

“The gravity of the status quo is so strong.”

—From a webinar with Michael Bungay Stainer and Chip Conley

Image from Unsplash by Mark König

Tidal Locking is a term used in astronomy where a planet or moon does not rotate on its own axis as it travels around a star or planet. Two examples of tidal locking are the moon that circles our earth and Mercury as it circles the Sun.

In both cases these celestial bodies only show one side of themselves to the objects they orbit.

Where in your life are you tidally locked to the status quo?

In what ways are you traveling around the world, operating in the same ways, showing the same face in all your interactions?

EXERCISE:

What steps can you take to diminish the gravitational pull of the status quo?

What patterns can you break to have new worlds emerge in your life?