“Politeness is an inexpensive way of making friends.”
—William A. Feather, 20th Century American publisher and author
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How familiar are you with the 10 / 5 Rule?
In the hospitality industry, this rule dictates that when a staff member is ten feet from a guest, they smile and make direct eye contact.
When a staff member is within five feet, they greet the guest with a salutation such as Hello or Good Morning.
My modified version of this rule takes place on my daily morning walks when I wave at the people in cars and say hello to my fellow walkers and their dogs, making sure we are at least six feet apart.
Where and in what ways can and will you apply the polite no-cost gesture of the 10/5 Rule in your world, to make a few more friends?
“Everyone is a prisoner of his own experiences. No one can eliminate prejudices—just recognize them.”
—Edward R. Murrow, 20th Century American Broadcaster
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Edward R. Murrow was an American broadcast journalist and war correspondent. He first gained prominence during World War II with a series of live radio broadcasts from Europe. One of his numerous noteworthy accomplishments was his TV program “See it Now,” which helped expose and censure Senator Joseph McCarthy.
Murrow’s fellow journalists considered him one of journalism’s greatest figures, noting his honesty and integrity in delivering the news. Much of the public at the time agreed.
What news sources do you trust to deliver current events with honesty and objectivity? How can we more fully recognize and appreciate the unconscious biases created through our life experiences?
How might the reporting of Edward Murrow, if he were working today, help release us from theses prisons?
“Being defeated is often a temporary condition. Giving up is what makes it permanent.”
—Marilyn vos Savant, American author
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How many personal or professional battles are you fighting? Where are you winning? Where are you losing? Consider also looking into your past to examine examples from earlier times.
Where have and are you persisting in your efforts with grit, tenacity, and determination?
Where have and are you giving up and throwing in the towel?
The saying goes that lessons in life are only fully learned after you take the test.
How would the perspective of “This is Only a Test” inspire you to rise above and stay the course, to realize even greater current and future victories?
“You cannot antagonize and influence at the same time.”
—J.S. Knox, 19th Century British Author
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How would you rate yourself as a salesperson, a leader, an effective parent, or simply as a person having a positive impact on others?
Fundamental to all those capabilities is the ability to influence others and engender in them an idea that already resonates within them.
Who are the people in your world that influence you to buy in to their ideas and vision, which already align with your own?
Alternatively, who are the people who antagonize or at least rub you the wrong way? How do you respond to their ideas and efforts to persuade you to think and act as they wish?
How can and will you adjust your approach with others in your personal and professional communities to have far greater influence in your world?
“Attack issues, not people.”
—Liz Wiseman, Author of Multipliers
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With the U.S. elections only six weeks away, the frequency and intensity of personal attacks are at a fever pitch. We are clearly not united.
Through the media and in our own local communities we can observe many types of attacks, including those leading to serious injury and the loss of life.
Even when an attack is not specifically physical, harsh words and verbal assaults cause great harm. Take a minute to look specifically at your own world — examples you have observed over the past week or two.
Mother Teresa once stated that she would never attend an anti-war protest, but would gladly participate in a rally promoting peace.
Instead of attacking what we are against, perhaps a shift to what we stand for could be a critical pivot. We could all come together to solve our most significant collective issues.
Where in your life would attacking issues — not people — be the best approach to bettering our world?
“Don’t focus on only one growth path.”
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To what degree are you a one-dimensional or multi-dimensional person?
Take a close look at how you spend your days and who you spend them with.
In which of these communities are you experiencing the greatest engagement and growth?
Alternatively, where do you feel stuck, stopped, or even regressing?
Over the past several months, some of my clients and many people in my professional networks have seen their growth thwarted. Many of us have had our cheese moved by the pandemic and its economic consequences. Many are exploring other options, or are engaged in what I like to call a dual strategy – pursuing alternative and supplemental career options.
Beyond the working world, many of them are also taking the time to invest in personal and professional growth efforts, to better themselves and others.
Consider downloading a copy of Seth Godin’s book, The Bootstrapper’s Bible, to see how you might pursue the idea of starting and growing your own business. The book was originally written in 2004 and while a bit dated, contains many of the fundamentals to get you going.
“When you edit your soul, no one wins.”
—Erin Loechner, Author of Chasing Slow
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To what degree have you done more than a bit of soul searching over the past several months?
What have you discovered about yourself, those you care about, your community, and the world?
It appears that many of us are reading deeper than at any other time in our lives, to a more soulful and sacred place in which passion, purpose, and our very best selves reside.
Another quote from Erin’s book is “Keep slowing down. You’ve got a race to lose.” This may be pointing us to the “rat race” many of us run unknowingly.
Consider your soul as a kind of Pulitzer Prize of Life, which requires no editing. It need only be read and re-read, expressed and shared generously.
What are a few soul-searching activities you engage in on a daily basis?
How can and will you bring forth the very best of you so everyone wins?
“Global Warming = Atmospheric Cancer.”
Seth Godin, American Author
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For the past century—and particularly the last few decades—most of us have been paying increased attention to climate change.
Signs of our industrialized society include increases in local and global temperatures, receding glaciers, and melting Arctic and Antarctic ice shelves. Even the lessening ability to see a night sky full of stars is an indicator.
One non-scientific observation I’ve made recently is the seeming bluer skies and fresher air I experience on my daily walks. My neighbors and their dogs seem to notice as well.
Perhaps taking our feet off the gas pedals of our lives is giving our beautiful planet time to breathe and begin healing.
How can we all continue to take far better care of our extraordinary planet as we continue to combat, treat, and prevent the impact of COVID-19 and other local, national, and global challenges?