Take a moment today to write a Thank-Me note

Take a moment today to write a Thank-Me note, a conscious expression of gratitude toward yourself.

—Calm App Reflection

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As a business professional for over 40 years, I’ve come to learn the value of a courteous “Thank You.”

I fully support the idea that we work best with people we know, like, and trust. If your upbringing was like mine, your parents and others strongly encouraged — and most likely exemplified — this grateful gesture throughout their days.

We were always taught to focus on others and not ourselves, and most people learned to place their gratuitous efforts elsewhere.

When we experiment with this idea and flip it around to thank ourselves it feels awkward and a bit narcissistic.

If we ask ourselves objectively who did the work and took the necessary actions to get where we are, we can justifiably pat ourselves on the back and truly appreciate our disciplined efforts.


Take out a piece of paper and write a Thank Me note to yourself.

Begin by listing the things you do each day without thinking that serve you in being your best. If you are willing, send a copy of your letter to barry@dempcoaching.com

Friday Review: Self-Determination

Friday Review: Self-Determination

How has self-determination shaped your life? Here are a few posts you may have missed.


“People who are empowered don’t go along to get along.”




“You can’t expect to hit the jackpot if you don’t put a few nickels in the machine.”




“Learning how to think really means learning how to exercise some control over how and what you think.”







I invented ideas early on I synthesize ideas mine and others now

“I invented ideas early on; I synthesize ideas — mine and others — now.”

—Arthur C. Brooks, faculty member of the Harvard Business School

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Where are you on the bell-shaped curve in your life?

Based on your age and other factors you are either moving up, plateauing, or descending. Don’t worry just yet that you may be over the hill.

When you take a look at Nobel Prize winners over the years, it is remarkable how many received their recognition at a relatively young age — especially those who won a solo prize.

In more recent years I’ve been paying closer attention to when these awards are given to pairs or groups of individuals for their collective accomplishments.


To what degree are you an inventor or a synthesizer of ideas at this point in your life?

It may depend on how fast or how far you wish to go and not just your age.

We take care of the future best by taking care of the present now

“We take care of the future best by taking care of the present now.”

Jon Kabat-Zinn, Mindfulness Meditation

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I am currently reading The Carbon Almanac, edited by Seth Godin, who also wrote the Forward. It is a 300+ page book of facts about climate change.

Representing the global efforts of more than three hundred volunteers in over 40 countries, it is the most up to date and well-vetted resource that presents where we are and how we got here, in language that we can all understand.

This book is a call to action to have all people, organizations, and governments come together to meet this moment in time to take care of our world and each other.


Please order, read, and discuss this important book with others in your various communities.

Encourage others to actively participate in this urgent global effort.

We can choose to be courageous whether we are ready or not

We can choose to be courageous whether we are ready or not.

—Calm App Reflection

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Today’s thought reminds me of Hugh Laurie’s quote, “There is no such thing as ready. There is only now.”

How much of the time do you find yourself in a state of preparation before you shoot, ship, or act? When we wait to actually feel ready and 100% confident on our success, we are probably too late.

We recently saw and enjoyed the new Elvis movie. I was surprised to learn about how nervous and fearful Elvis was before getting on stage to shake things up in his unique and controversial style.


In what parts of your life are you waiting to be ready?

Where is it time to shake things up?

How would choosing to be more courageous help you realize more of your full potential?

It may be Now or Never.

Friday Review: Conscience

Friday Review: Conscience

How strong is the voice of your conscience? Here are a few related posts you may have missed.


“The ultimate test of a man’s conscience may be his willingness to sacrifice something today for future generations whose words of thanks will not be heard.”




“When a man is wrapped up in himself, he makes a pretty small package.”




“Labor to keep alive in your breast that little spark of celestial fire called conscience.”




The forced separation from ordinary ambitions

“The forced separation from ordinary ambitions temporarily right sizes one’s life.”

—Arthur C. Brooks, faculty member of the Harvard Business School

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How often do you wake up in the morning with a strong sense of peace and calm?

What percent of the time do your thoughts spring into action with all the to-dos for the day, before your feet even hit the floor?

When do you first check your phone for texts or emails that have piled up overnight?

How many truly important messages do you receive each day, and how many do you consider clutter of junk?

Although we are now well into summer, there is always time to do a bit of spring cleaning.

How would some forced separation from your ordinary ambitions that clutter your various inboxes help you right size your life?


Where would unsubscribing and removing various barriers to your aliveness make the biggest difference?

Where can and will you begin today?

If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality

“If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?”

—Arthur Aron — A More Beautiful Question

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We are all works in progress if we choose to be.

From the day we are born, we have the capacity to take in all types of inputs and mix them with our previous experiences. This ongoing journey helps us become a better version of ourselves.

When it comes to our prized abilities and qualities, we all likely have some level of competency.


What qualities and personal characteristics do you value most?

How would you rate yourself in these areas?

Where can and will you choose to focus your attention and efforts today?

You have to wait for the falling tide

“You have to wait for the falling tide.”

—Arthur C. Brooks, faculty member of the Harvard Business School

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As a young boy, Arthur Brooks was fishing along the shore without success. After a while an elderly fisherman from the area came along, and noticed his frustration that nothing was biting.

Today’s quote was the wisdom offered, indicating that when the tide recedes is when all the plankton and bait fish gets stirred up, making the game fish crazy and willing to bite at everything.

How might this idea relate to your life?

Where do the tides in your personal and professional worlds seem to be headed out to sea?

How could this be a time where things are getting stirred up with new possibilities to catch a big one?


Where in your life are the falling tides offer you some new fertile opportunities?

How can you avoid the mistake of not having your line in the water?

 Become one with your point of focus and fall into flow

Become one with your point of focus and fall into flow.

—Tamara Levitt, Calm App Reflection

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Our grandson Weston has been taking swimming lessons at a local aquatic club since last fall. Over the past few months, we’ve noticed a plateauing effect on his progress. His weekly 30-minute classes have a single instructor and three other students, thus limiting his individualized attention.

With the warmer weather, he now swims outside on a regular basis with the family and gets many more hours of personal attention and wrinkled fingers. To our delight, his progress has taken a giant leap and he is quickly moving from a guppy to a dolphin in his abilities.


Where do you demonstrate the greatest level of focus?

How does your single-minded attention impact your experience of these events and your ability to perform at your best?