“During times of change it is common to look for things we might lose or gain. Considering what will actually stay the same can steady your ship in the frequent rough seas of life.”
Calm App Reflection
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How has your life changed in the past few years?
To what degree have you experienced a wild ride of ups and downs?
When this happens on an ocean voyage, sea sickness is often the outcome. It is for this reason modern ships —especially the popular cruise lines — have a variety of stabilizers to help everyone maintain their footing and their meals.
What areas of your life seem the most steady and stable?
How do these areas offer you a sense of grounding and centeredness when other parts of your lifeboat may be rocking?
“Discover the right balance between effort and ease.”
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Create a list of your favorite sports. Do you or have you played any of those mentioned here? Consider what it takes to perform optimally in each of them.
To what degree do you see the dance between effort and ease in these and other sports?
How are each of these qualities essential to play at a masterful level?
Where in your life is there too much effort or ease being applied?
How can you re-balance these qualities to perform even better moving forward?
“When you change direction radically, the loads can shift, and it can throw you off balance.”
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Think of the many times you have been a passenger.
Include all forms of transportation, from the time you were a kid and went to an amusement park to the planes, trains, and automobiles we use today.
Recall some of the times when you experienced a radical change in direction in which the laws of physics jolted you and the things around you away from your previous trajectory.
How many spilled beverages and other unsecured items found a new home on your lap or the floor? Perhaps you even experienced a deployed airbag or a case of whiplash.
In what ways can you navigate the changes in the direction of your life more smoothly? How can you secure the things you value the most to not lose your balance when things begin to shift?
“Desires that arise in agitation are more aligned with your ego. Desires that arise in stillness are more aligned with your soul.”
—Cory Muscara, instructor of positive psychology at the University of Pennsylvania
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There is nothing wrong with wanting things. The idea that we can separate our desires into two categories seems like a useful exercise if we feel the need to do a bit of re-balancing.
What goals are you pursuing that create a sense of agitation and stress?
Where are you pursuing power, status, or other achievements viewed and scrutinized by others in your communities?
What are some of your quieter goals that bubble up in stillness?
These are likely the ones with no specific metric or scoreboard to measure yourself.
Create two lists of your ego and soul-based desires.
Consider letting your level of agitation or stillness guide you to which items deserves more attention.
“When spinning out, the only thing to do, as hard as it seems, is to get off the mental merry-go-round.”
—Mark Nepo, poet and philosopher
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The Tilt- A-Whirl is a classic carnival ride found at almost every amusement midway in America. As its platform moves through hills and valleys on the track, the free spinning tubs rotate on an axis.
For people who get dizzy easily, the best coaching is to avoid this cochlear disruption altogether or at least avoid eating beforehand.
Many of us take a mental merry-go-round on a daily basis. We have our ups and downs and we often find ourselves going round and round, always returning to where we began.
Last fall we took our grandson Weston to Sesame Place on a fairly unpleasant day. Most rides — including the merry-go-round — had no lines and we could ride multiple times in a row if we wished. We all declined another spin.
Where is your personal or professional life spinning a bit too fast?
How are you making yourself dizzier through your own mental carnival ride?
What do you need to do to stop or slow down the ride to regain your balance?
Balancing, not balance, is the process of coming back to your center over and over.
—Calm app Reflection
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On October 1, 2004, Fast Company Magazine published an article titled: Balance is Bunk!
It has been a central myth of the modern workplace: With only a few compromises, we can have it all. The Fast Company article says this is all wrong, and it’s making us crazy.
The quest for balance between work and life, as we’ve come to think of it, isn’t just a losing proposition—it can be a hurtful, destructive one.
This is not, of course, what many of us want to believe.
In the last few decades, balance has won huge cultural resonance. No longer mere daily conversation fodder, it has become something like a new inalienable right with self-actualization and quality time for all.
Consider the concept of riding a bike as a fitting metaphor with the process of riding successfully is one of constant adjustment.
Similar situational adjustments and iterative shifts in our focus are the norm and we may need to accept and actually choose our imbalances—particularly the ones that make us happy.
How would the act of balancing versus seeking a steady state of balance help you find your center in order to lead a happier and more fulfilling life?
“Getting even throws everything out of balance.”
—Joe Browne, Journalist
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Where are you experiencing conflict? Where are you observing battles at home and in your various communities?
Where do you see others trying to even the score by fighting fire with fire or hate with more hate?
Where may you be headed toward some mutually assured destruction? How would cooler heads and taking fingers off the red buttons of life secure the balance and peace you desire?
Imagine you have just received your own Nobel Peace Prize.
What efforts did you take to receive this honor?
Where will you begin today?
“Surf what is happening versus suppressing it.”
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What do Oahu, Hawaii, Jeffrey’s Bay South Africa, Tahiti, French Polynesia, and Bali, Indonesia have in common?
Given today’s quote, you might have correctly guessed that they are top global locations for surfing.
Closer to home for those of us in the U.S., California, Puerto Rico, Ocean City New Jersey, Virginia Beach and South Padre Island in Texas are places people recommend to hang ten.
It is estimated that there are around 23 million surfers worldwide, compared to the total population of 7.8 billion. That means, if you do the math, less than .003 percent.
Where in your personal or professional life would a few surfing lessons come in handy? How would being steadier and more balanced help you more successfully trim the waves in your world?