Friday Review: Fear

FRIDAY REVIEW: FEAR

How often do you let fear stop you from achieving your goal? Here are a few fear-related posts you may have missed.

 

“Everyone is a moon and has a dark side which he never shows to anybody.”

 

 

 

“There are plenty of obstacles in your path. Don’t allow yourself to become one of them.”

 

 

 

“What is the cost of getting it wrong? What are the payoffs of getting it right?”

 

 

 

“We get what we pay for, and sometimes we pay for what we get.”

“We get what we pay for, and sometimes we pay for what we get.”

—Seth Godin, American Author

Image from Unsplash by Christian Wiediger

In January, we experienced a considerable snow storm. While shoveling the eight inches of wet, heavy stuff from my driveway, I saw very few vehicles trying to navigate the roads, other than Amazon Prime vans. They seemed to be everywhere, delivering what we conveniently pay for sitting at our computers or other digital device.

What is this instant gratification approach to getting what we want costing us? In what ways may it be impacting our self-centeredness, impatience, clutter, and the emotional roller coaster of debt?

EXERCISE:

Where and how would taking a “the best things in life are free” approach to living help you get far more out of life?

“I wish you way more than luck.”

“I wish you way more than luck.”

—David Foster Wallace, late American writer and university professor

Image from Unsplash by George Pagan III

Eliyahu Goldratt has a provocative quote about luck that has a bit more meat on the bone. It states: Good luck is when opportunity meets preparation, while bad luck is when lack of preparation meets reality.

Who hasn’t, from time to time, wished others good luck on some personal or professional objective?

Being nice, courteous, polite, and positive seems like a good thing to do but how much of a difference does it actually make?

Similarly, how much of an impact does liking or retweeting a social media post have?

EXERCISE:

What does wishing someone more than luck look like to you? How might it include supporting someone’s preparedness, or foster greater opportunities for those you wish to support?

Feel free to reply to this post to share your perspective.

Friday Review: Criticism

FRIDAY REVIEW: CRITICISM

How critical are you? How do you react to criticism from others? Here are a few criticism-related posts you may have missed.

 

“Praise does wonders for our sense of hearing.”

 

 

 

 

“If criticism is needed, do it tactfully. Don’t use a sledgehammer when a fly swatter will do the job.”

 

 

 

 

“Dogs bark at those they do not know.”

 

 

 

 

 

“Anyone who keeps the ability to see beauty never grows old.”

“Anyone who keeps the ability to see beauty never grows old.”

—Franz Kafka, 20th Century German-speaking Bohemian novelist

Image from Unsplash by Mitchell Maglio

The phrase Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder can only take us so far in life. Given the increasing pace of our lives, many of us struggle with even taking the time to perceive and fully appreciate the beauty around and within our world.

Considering beauty as a fountain of youth may cause all of us to take a far more comprehensive look at this skill, much like our current efforts to eat better, exercise more, and get the rest we need to be our best, for ourselves and those we love.

EXERCISE:

Where and in what ways can and will you more fully experience and delight in all the miraculous beauty around and within you?

Hopefully, just the anticipation of doing so will put a lot more youthful pep in your step!

“A surplus of effort could overcome a deficit of confidence.”

“A surplus of effort could overcome a deficit of confidence.”

—Sonia Sotomayor, U.S. Supreme Court Justice

Take a few minutes to reflect on your level of confidence regarding your personal and professional skills, abilities, and talents.

In which areas are you most or least confident?

Examine the levels of effort, practice, and overall experience you have put forth in each of these areas.

What factors seem to be most associated with higher versus lower confidence?

EXERCISE:

Where and on what personal or professional matter would a surplus of effort increase your effectiveness and your confidence?

What actions can and will you take to do just that?

“The next move is yours.”

“The next move is yours.”

—Author Unknown

Image from Unsplash by Robert Coelho

Imagine your life as a board game that involves successfully navigating different frontiers or territories in order to win.

The frontiers are:

  • Optimal health
  • Quality relationships
  • Professional achievement
  • Contributions to your community
  • Spirituality, faith, religion
  • Family
  • Life balance and peace of mind

EXERCISE:

Where are you falling behind, keeping up, or ahead of your current expectation for yourself?

What is your next move in these and other priority areas of your life?

Consider picking up a copy of Seth Godin’s book What to Do When it’s Your Turn to help you see and pursue your next move.

Conflict is essential to progress

“Conflict is essential to progress. No matter how much the engine revs, without friction the wheels cannot move forward.”

—Rob Reinalda, Executive Editor at Lawrence Ragan Communications

Image from Unsplash by Simon English

Here in Michigan, especially around the Detroit area, the Car/SUV/Truck is still king of the road. Toward the end of January, we had a bit of foul, frigid weather, including one particular morning in which my driveway was a sheet of black ice.

Without the expected traction from the driveway, I struggled to make it to my car and barely avoided falling, which was probably a comical sight to neighbors who may have been watching!

EXERCISE:

Where are you experiencing a lack of traction, or feel you are spinning your wheels?

Where do you notice conflict or areas of friction related to an important relationship or project?

How might this gritty or challenging situation actually be the source of friction that helps you move things forward?

Friday Review: Mistakes

FRIDAY REVIEW: MISTAKES

What have you learned from mistakes you have made? Here are a few mistake-related posts you may have missed.

 

“Just because you’ve made mistakes doesn’t mean your mistakes get to make you. Take notice of your inner critic, forgive yourself, and move on.”

 

 

 

“One thorn of experience is worth a whole wilderness of warning.”

 

 

 

 

“We should learn from the mistakes of others. We don’t have time to make them all ourselves.”

 

 

 

“Let no one keep you from your journey.”

“Let no one keep you from your journey.”

—Mark Nepo, American poet and spiritual adviser

Image from Unsplash by Clemens van Lay

Where are you headed today, this week, this year?

What are your short and long term goals and objectives, personally and professionally?

Toward the start of each year, questions like these are asked so frequently that we often drown them out much like the safety instructions before a flight.

What if we now answered these questions on a far deeper level than at any other time in our lives?

What are your answers? If they don’t ignite a spark or engulf you in flames of passion and excitement, you’ve got more work to do and could perhaps use the support of a coach, mentor, close colleague, or family member.

EXERCISE:

What could possibly stop you from pursuing and fully realizing what you deeply desire?

How will you prevent anyone – including yourself – from keeping you from your journey?

Consider looking up Mark Nepo and exploring his work more fully.