“Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing.”
—August Wilson, 20th Century American Playwright
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Consider the following statement on a one-to-five scale in which one is absolutely not and five is definitely yes.
I have a clear view of where I am and where I am going in my life.
This statement is part of my discovery process to help determine a potential client’s readiness to move their lives forward with a supportive coaching relationship.
For optimal success, these relationships benefit significantly through the deep and thoughtful process of examining and wrestling with their limiting beliefs and habits. Through careful illumination and generous self-forgiveness, each individual will most likely realize far more of their fullest personal and professional potential.
What steps can and will you take to more fully examine your own demons to help your angels sing? Consider picking up a copy of the book Taming your Gremlins by Rick Carson as a way to open this door of deeper discovery.
“You cannot have a beautiful life if you always focus on ugliness in others.”
—Debasish Mridha, M.D. physician, writer, philosopher, and philanthropist
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How much beauty do you see and experience on a typical day? How much ugliness are you observing in your personal and professional communities?
A colleague who happens to be a lawyer recently shared considerable frustration and general unhappiness with the dog-eat-dog, fight-fire-with-fire approach to much of their work, stating that work has become increasingly ugly and that waking each morning to do more of it with no end in sight is crushing their soul.
Where and how can you seek and find more beauty in the people around you?
What shifts in perspective and behavior can you offer others so that they, too, can have a more beautiful life?
“If you want light to come into your life, you need to stand where it is shining.”
—Guy Finley, American self-help writer
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In the northern hemisphere we are headed into winter with both colder temperatures and shorter hours of sunlight. During these months many of us hibernate a bit and the reduced sunlight can often influence our emotions and moods.
What strategies have you tried or seen others use to stand where the light is shining? What approaches beyond bringing more natural lighting sources into your home or going south like migratory birds might help you maintain a sunnier disposition?
Create a list of your closest relationships and communities. How can you make an extra effort to spend more time with these individuals and groups to boost your levels of vitamin D3 all year round?
In late August, Wendy and I had the opportunity to watch our three-year-old grandson Weston for four days. We found it pretty hard to believe that we actually raised two adults—now 36 and 34—given our frequent need to nap when Weston did!
Along with puzzles, toys cars, reading books, and finding clever ways to avoid going to bed, Weston’s favorite toy is Play Doh. Over the years, he has assembled quite a collection of colors, and the other day he had the great idea of mixing them all together.
Being a serious guy, I was sure this was not appropriate. I insisted that he keep the colors separate, which made both Weston and my wife pretty upset.
Upon reflection, I realized that what mattered was the big smile this process brought to his little face, and not the grumpy, rigid method I was holding on to.
What brings a smile to your face?
Take a look at the grins of those you love and consider those smiles even more important than your own.
What can and will you do to bring even more miles of smiles to your world?
“Never bear more than one trouble at a time. Some people bear three kinds — all they have had, all they have now, and all they expect to have.”
—Edward Everett Hale, 19th Century American author and historian
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If you are a negative, half-empty, or pessimistic individual, you may wish to practice your subtraction or division to improve your life. If you lean more strongly toward the positive, half-full, or optimistic scale, consider your addition and multiplication skills.
Many of us travel through time via various mental pathways from the past, to the present, and often into the future. If you happen to be in the half-empty camp, your troubles can easily add up and multiply beyond those present in the moment.
Using your mental muscles, selecting only one trouble at a time on your current doorstep can reduce your worries and lift the load more easily.
For the optimists among you who sees opportunities in most obstacles, feel free to add, multiply, and embrace as many possibilities as you wish.
With the stumbles, delays, and stops presented by COVID over the past year, many of us are looking for a fresh start, to get back on track with various personal and professional priorities.
Consider reading Dan’s book or check out one the many strong YouTube video summaries. Look beneath the many insights from his research and see for yourself where and when your mindset plays an important role in choosing to take on a new activity or task.
With the U.S. elections only six weeks away, the frequency and intensity of personal attacks are at a fever pitch. We are clearly not united.
Through the media and in our own local communities we can observe many types of attacks, including those leading to serious injury and the loss of life.
Even when an attack is not specifically physical, harsh words and verbal assaults cause great harm. Take a minute to look specifically at your own world — examples you have observed over the past week or two.
Mother Teresa once stated that she would never attend an anti-war protest, but would gladly participate in a rally promoting peace.
Instead of attacking what we are against, perhaps a shift to what we stand for could be a critical pivot. We could all come together to solve our most significant collective issues.
Where in your life would attacking issues — not people — be the best approach to bettering our world?