“Never let success get to your head. Never let failure get to your heart.”
—Ziad K. Abdelnour, Lebanese-American Activist
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Using our head and our heart to make wise decisions and navigate life is good counsel. How often do you use this dynamic duo to evaluate the options and opportunities that present themselves at home and at work?
If you are fortunate to have achieved significant levels of personal and professional success, where may you have experienced a heightened sense of importance and a bit of a swelled head?
Alternatively, where have you experienced setbacks, stumbles, or thwarted intentions? Where have these difficulties penetrated to your heart, leaving you with doubts and disappointments?
Please take a listen to the Tim McGraw song, “Humble and Kind.” Let me know what you think or how it makes you feel by replying to this post.
“Set a daily quota of fun. Positive activities act as a happiness supplement.”
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Where do you use metrics, milestones, scoreboards and quotas to measure your achievements and level of success?
Examine both your professional and personal life. What activities produce these results, and how many of them do you consider fun and a source of happiness?
What are some of the fun activities that come to mind that seem to be reserved for weekends, vacations, or other special occasions? Examining how you feel on Friday and Sunday evenings can be one way to see if your work has the positive elements of fun you look forward to.
What activities can and will you add to your days or begin doing to score more fun in your life?
What activities can you do less of or stop entirely to make room for these happiness supplements?
“Ignore the cup and just enjoy the coffee.”
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Product packaging is big business. In so many product categories, it can make the difference between super success and a big fat flop.
Long gone are the days when packaging was meant to only protect and preserve what was inside. Now, the container must scream BUY ME! I’M SPECIAL! I WILL MAKE YOUR LIFE BETTER!
How often does selling the sizzle actually meet your expectations, or better yet, exceed them?
Where, too often, is the added price of the cup not really worth the premium price to get the coffee?
If you enjoy a good cup of coffee check Google for the brands that have the highest rating with the lowest per ounce price.
Where and with whom in your worlds would looking closer at what’s on the inside make the biggest difference?
“You cannot teach a crab to walk straight.”
—Aristophanes, classic Athenian poet and playwright
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Picture a crab scurrying across a beach, searching for food or a mate, or avoiding a predator.
With claws and legs of different sizes and functions, getting to their destination in a straight line is not the point for this creature—being a successful crustacean living from one day to the next is.
Perhaps our changing world has altered our own way of getting around. Many direct routes to our objectives are not open or have significant detours, causing us to adapt and adjust our course.
What can we learn from the crab? Perhaps if we took more lefts, rights, and zig-zags, would we not only survive, but thrive as we headed into the future?
Where in your personal or professional world is taking the straight path not working?
Where might a less direct path lead you to where you wish to be?
“Although he may not always recognize his bondage, modern man lives under a tyranny of numbers.”
—Nicholas Eberstadt, American political economist
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What time is it? What did you weigh when you stood on the bathroom scale this morning?
How fast or slow is traffic moving on your commute to work? How much money do you earn and how much have you saved?
What are some other ways you measure your life and whether you are successful?
To what degree do you feel the bondage and tyranny of our world of metrics, milestones, and the quantification of everything?
Where in your life do you experience the freedom and simple pleasures of the subjective, qualitative, and more soulful aspects of life?
Consider discussing these questions with friends and family. What are the most appropriate and useful ways for you to measure your life?
“Opportunities are seldom labeled.”
—John A. Shedd, 19th Century American author and professor
For most of my life, I have been fascinated by the subject of personal and professional success.
I’ve read hundreds of books, attended dozens of seminars and conferences, and can hardly count the number of blog posts, podcasts, and TED talks I’ve explored.
In his book, Barking Up the Wrong Tree, Eric Barker digs into the science of success, to mess a bit with the conventional and unconventional wisdom on this subject.
One seemingly universal tenet of success does, however, point to the idea of taking massive action and trying many things along the way to stir up far more possibilities and opportunities to pursue.
To what degree are you waiting or being too passive, hoping for an opportunity to reveal itself?
Where would taking far more action and trying many more things help you bark up and climb the right trees for you?
“Wisdom is often times nearer when we stoop than when we soar.”
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Achieving new levels of professional and career success is almost always a primary reason people seek coaching. They of course wish to soar, create more value for others, and better provide for themselves and their families.
In the course of pursuing these goals, most people see considerable spill over into their personal life priorities, sometimes right within arms reach.
It turns out that wisdom is far nearer than they thought. Reaching out to serve their friends, colleagues, neighbors, and other communities helps them experience greater passion and purpose in their lives.
How might you gain far greater wisdom by doing a bit more stooping rather than soaring? What actions can and will you take today?
“Success today requires the agility and drive to constantly rethink, reinvigorate, react, and reinvent.”
—Bill Gates, founder of Microsoft
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Imagine you are Aladdin with a magic lamp and three wishes to dramatically enhance your life. How many of your wishes would be extrinsic rather than intrinsic in nature?
What internal qualities and personal characteristics would you seek to more fully realize your vision of a brighter, more fulfilling future?
Consider that you already have your own internal magic lamp within you. Where will you begin, today, to use it to rethink, reinvigorate, and reinvent whatever aspect of your world you choose?
“Work hard in silence. Let success be your noise.”
—Frank Ocean, American singer/songwriter
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I hope you love your life. I hope all your personal and professional efforts are rewarding in themselves, and that there is no need to brag or boast to call attention to your successes. After all, tooting your own horn can often backfire in our world of considerable judgement.
Ask yourself the following questions regarding your current work efforts:
- How much impact, influence, and say do I have in my work?
- How much am I learning, growing, and bettering myself through my work?
- What difference, contribution, and purpose does my work provide to others in my various communities?
Take one minute tonight after you brush your teeth to look in a mirror and reflect on all your silent successes. You may notice how others in your world often toot your horn for you.
“There’s no ceiling on effort.”
—Harvey C. Fruehauf, President of HCF Enterprises
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Are you at the absolute pinnacle of success in all areas of life? If you answered “no,” or “not really,” today’s quote may get you a bit closer to your goals.
I’ll share with you three key attributes to success I learned from a wise coach and mentor early in my life, when I worked in the pharmaceutical industry as a sales person.
It uses the acronym: A.S.K. to point to the elements that lie within us or that can be developed to reach higher levels of achievement in virtually any are we desire.
The “A” stands for activity. It points us to the fact that the level of effort we put forth on any particular task is up to us. I like the idea that there is no ceiling or limit placed on us, and that through persistence, tenacity, and grit, we can all achieve far more of what we most desire.
It is through such massive efforts we can progress on to the “S” and “K,” which stand for skills and knowledge.
Where and on what important personal or professional goal can and will you raise the ceiling on your current efforts to gain the skills and knowledge to reach new levels of success?