Category Archives: Motivation

Some of the best advice we can take

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“Some of the best advice we can take is the advice we offer to others. Some of the best advice we offer to others is the advice we ourselves end up ignoring.”

—Stephen St. Amant, author of the Savenwood Blog

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Have you ever noticed how easily wisdom flows when we’re helping a friend or colleague?

As a coach, I often find that my own words — shared to inspire and motivate others — are exactly what I need to hear the most. Yet, it’s all too easy to overlook our own guidance.

Why is this?

When helping others, we often see their situation with clarity and objectivity. We draw on our own experiences, values, and hard-earned wisdom to guide them, but when we’re faced with our own challenges, emotions and self-doubt can cloud our judgement.

Suddenly, the advice that seems so obvious for someone else feels impossible to apply to ourselves.

EXERCISE:

The next time you feel stuck on an important matter ask yourself: What would I tell a friend in this situation?

Chances are, the answer may be just the coaching you need and deserve.

Motivation has perfect attendance

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“Motivation has perfect attendance. It always shows up after you.”

—Shane Parrish, Author of Farnum Street Blog

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Motivation often feels elusive, like it’s hiding just out of reach.

Too often, we wait for inspiration to strike before taking action.

In reality, the simple act of starting is what invites motivation in.

When you push through resistance and begin, even if you don’t feel ready, you create momentum.

That momentum attracts motivation, fueling you to keep going.

Instead of waiting for the perfect moment or a burst of inspiration, take the first step and trust that motivation will follow.

Action breeds motivation, not the other way around.

EXERCISE:

In what areas of your life would it be useful to recognize that motivation is a follower, not a leader?

How can and will you best leverage this idea in both your personal and professional pursuits?

Success is no Hocus-Pocus

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“Success is no Hocus-Pocus. Success is Focus-Focus.”

—Author Unknown

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Focus is the cornerstone of both personal and professional success.

By concentrating on specific goals, individuals and groups can achieve clarity and direction, leading to more efficient use of time and resources.

A focused mindset helps prioritize tasks, overcome distractions, and maintain motivation.

In a world with constant distractions, cultivating focus allows you to stay on track and make meaningful progress.

Whether in career achievement or personal growth, maintaining focus is essential for realizing ambitions and reaching our full potential.

It’s a key that unlocks the doors to our dreams and can help makes them a reality.

EXERCISE:

To help you discover the magic of this important skill, please check out the book The Power of Focus written by Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, and Les Hewitt.

Men go to far greater lengths to avoid what they fear than to obtain what they desire

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“Men go to far greater lengths to avoid what they fear than to obtain what they desire.”

—Dan Brown, author of The DaVinci Code

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Loss aversion is rooted in prospect theory, which indicates that people fear losses twice as intensely as they value gain.

Neuron-scientific evidence shows the brain’s amygdala reacts more strongly to losses which amplify emotional discomfort. These biases drive risk-adverse behavior such as clinging to familiar routines or avoiding investments due to fear of failure.

The pursuit of dreams is fueled by intrinsic motivation and self-determination theory which emphasizes aligning actions with personal values and autonomy. Although these kinds of actions foster self-actualization and long-term fulfillment, such efforts usually require confronting loss aversion’s gravitational pull.

EXERCISE:

In what ways can you overcome the primal risk-averse response of loss-aversion and be more intentional and self-aware of your intrinsic motivation to realize far more of your desires?

 

In your attempts to achieve and succeed, celebrate the efforts not just the outcomes

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In your attempts to achieve and succeed, celebrate the efforts not just the outcomes.

—Calm App Reflection

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In my most active business development years I invented a point system to keep me motivated and in action. Instead of only looking at my sales metrics for how I was doing, I gave myself points for all actions that could and often did lead to quantifiable results.

Phone calls, emails, social media efforts, and even research on prospective customers all counted. Attending networking functions, scheduling meetings, and even getting business cards and contact information scored points.

At the end of each day, I could quantify my level of activity and knew that my efforts would eventually pay off.

EXERCISE:

Where and how do you celebrate and give yourself credit for your attempts and efforts, regardless of the outcomes?  How would such a practice help keep you motivated when you might otherwise become discouraged?

“Just keep swimming.”

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“Just keep swimming.”

—Dory, in Finding Nemo

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I recently watch the Netflix series Live to 100: Secrets of the Blue Zones. During his exploration, author Dan Buettner travels around the world to places such as Okinawa, Sardinia, Singapore, the Greek islands, and even places in the U.S. to discover the secrets of a long and vibrant life.

Among the variety of strategies for living longer, healthier lives is a focus on movement. Unlike many western societies where lifestyles can be fairly sedentary, it is pleasing to see the simple practices of physical daily chores and walking comprise a majority component of their fitness endeavors.

EXERCISE:

Where and how can and do your incorporate movement into your days?

How might a few more laps, a bike ride, walking with friends, or taking the stairs add a few more years to your life and life to your years?

Take a broader view of your track record

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Take a broader view of your track record. What did you pick up and learn when you fell? How quickly did you stand again to give things another go?

—Calm App Reflection

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Just before 7:00 each morning you can find me playing Wordle. I consider it a form of cerebral stretching that helps me warm up my mental muscles. My interest in its statistical feedback is one of the reasons I haven’t missed a day in over a year.

In the early stages of my Wordle-ing efforts it often took more attempts to solve each puzzle. On a number of occasions, I failed completely.

Every few months I evaluate my progress with some grade school arithmetic to get a broader view of my running average score.

EXERCISE:

Where would taking a broader view of your track record over time serve you best? What critical lessons have your learned? What motivates you to keep going when you occasionally stumble or fall?

“If you don’t understand what makes people tick, they won’t tick.”

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“If you don’t understand what makes people tick, they won’t tick.”

—Robert Swan — British explorer & the first person to walk to both Poles

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Ever since I can remember I’ve been fascinated by how things work. I distinctly recall, as a child, taking apart a Baby Ben alarm clock to see what was inside that made it tick.

These days, I’m far more interested in what makes the people around me tick, to better discover how to improve my relationships, understand their motivations, and to help bring out their best through my coaching efforts.

Although there are multitudes of tools and assessments to help in this process, I’ve found the simple but often not easy work of collaborative conversations — where seeking to understand and be sincerely interested — works best.

EXERCISE:

How masterful are you in the art of dialogue and conversation?  Where and with whom would greater skill and practice help you understand what make these people tick even better?

Friday Review: Motivation

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Friday Review: Motivation

To what degree are you self-motivated, situation-motivated, or motivated by others? Here are a few posts about motivation you may have missed.

 

“Plant the seeds of beautiful ideas in your mind and water them with belief and action.”

 

 

 

“When we do what we have to do we are compliant. When we do what we choose to do we are committed.”

 

 

 

“Work for a cause, not for applause.”

 

 

 

 

“Happy millionaires do what they love.”

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“Happy millionaires do what they love.”

—Ken Honda, Japan’s best selling zen millionaire

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Someone once told me that money is a scoreboard for value. A second concept that I’ve taken to heart is: “Time is the Coin of Life.”

How are you spending your time, and what value are you creating in the world?

What is your current level of happiness and life satisfaction?

Research has proven time and again that intrinsic motivation – that based on deeply held values and beliefs – creates far more sustainable and lasting rewards than any external scoreboard could measure.

EXERCISE:

Consider taking a look at Ken Honda’s work, including his book, Happy Money. Lynn Twist’s book, The Soul of Money, is another excellent resource to help you live a more richly rewarding life.