“If you don’t understand what makes people tick, they won’t tick.”
—Robert Swan — British explorer & the first person to walk to both Poles
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Ever since I can remember I’ve been fascinated by how things work. I distinctly recall, as a child, taking apart a Baby Ben alarm clock to see what was inside that made it tick.
These days, I’m far more interested in what makes the people around me tick, to better discover how to improve my relationships, understand their motivations, and to help bring out their best through my coaching efforts.
Although there are multitudes of tools and assessments to help in this process, I’ve found the simple but often not easy work of collaborative conversations — where seeking to understand and be sincerely interested — works best.
How masterful are you in the art of dialogue and conversation? Where and with whom would greater skill and practice help you understand what make these people tick even better?
“When you get tired learn to rest, not quit.”
—Banksy, an anonymous England-based street artist & political activist
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How tired are you at this very moment? How tired have you felt physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually this past year? Besides your overall levels of energy, how would you rate your health, mood, ambition, motivation, and productivity?
These days, few of us are at our best. Some of us may be at one of our lowest points ever, with many having quit due to exhaustion and burnout.
Banksy’s coaching at such times is to rest, to take better care of ourselves, and to help others do the same.
We all may also wish to lower our expectations of ourselves and others, embrace our humanity, and know that our best can differ from time to time.
Where would more sleep, a few more naps, and more “you time” for rest and recharge keep you moving forward even if it is at a more moderate pace?
“Happy millionaires do what they love.”
—Ken Honda, Japan’s best selling zen millionaire
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Someone once told me that money is a scoreboard for value. A second concept that I’ve taken to heart is: “Time is the Coin of Life.”
How are you spending your time, and what value are you creating in the world?
What is your current level of happiness and life satisfaction?
Research has proven time and again that intrinsic motivation – that based on deeply held values and beliefs – creates far more sustainable and lasting rewards than any external scoreboard could measure.
Consider taking a look at Ken Honda’s work, including his book, Happy Money. Lynn Twist’s book, The Soul of Money, is another excellent resource to help you live a more richly rewarding life.
“Profit is the applause you get for taking care of your customers and creating a motivating environment for your people.”
—Ken Blanchard, internationally-known management consultant and author
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Without question, loyal customers and happy employees are foundational for a successful business. Companies that go from good to great and are built to last support these critical stakeholders, in most cases, far better than their competition.
To determine the basis for your own current level of applause/profit, ask yourself and your colleagues two questions:
- How extraordinary is our care and attention to the things our customers want, need, and desire?
- How inspired and motivated are our people to leap out of bed each morning to come to work?
What actions can and will you take to deserving and receive more standing ovations from these groups, now and into the future?
“Success is not to be pursued. It is to be attracted by the person you become.”
—Jim Rohn, 20th Century American motivational speaker
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Jim Rohn, who passed away in 2009, was a personal development pioneer.
His over 6,000 seminars, countless books, tapes, learning programs and, of course inspirational quotes, have influenced millions.
Many of his wisest lessons were focused on our abilities to work on ourselves and contribute to others in our various communities.
One of his many students was a young, broke, down-and-out Tony Robbins, who has said many times that Rohn was the man who turned his life around. Tony, as we all know, has been working on himself for decades, and has paid forward similar lessons to millions.
What are the strategies, habits, and behaviors that help you continue your personal best journey?
What additional approaches can you incorporate in your days to both contribute to others and attract the success you desire?
“When we do what we have to do we are compliant. When we do what we choose to do we are committed.”
—Marshall Goldsmith, American Leadership Coach
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To what degree are you an “extra credit” type of person? Recall your early educational experiences, in which a special teacher or a special subject motivated you well beyond just meeting expectations and passing the course. They motivated you to experience new levels of excellence, achievement, and of course, greater personal growth.
What about today in your vocational and avocational efforts? Where do you choose to go the extra mile and exceed expectations versus simply doing just enough to maintain your employment (for the moment) and get by?
To help you make the shift from compliant to committed, consider exploring the work of Dan Pink in his book, Drive, to see how greater autonomy, mastery, and purpose will help you choose and eventually realize a far more fulfilling and rewarding life.
“Plant the seeds of beautiful ideas in your mind and water them with belief and action.”
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The X Prize Foundation’s tag line is “We Make the Impossible Possible by Incentivizing Great Minds to Make a Difference.”
The Foundation and its supporters believe that the solutions to some of the world’s biggest challenges will only be reached through the ideation and realization of critical solutions by pioneering individuals and organizations around the world.
Some of the current projects include:
- Discovering the mysteries of the deep sea
- Empowering children to take control of their own learning
- Transforming the lives of low-literacy adults
- Transforming CO2 into valuable products
What beautiful ideas for a better world inspire you?
Regardless of the size and scope, how can your belief and motivation to act help you and others reap the harvest of a better world?
“Men are not against you; they’re merely for themselves.”
—Gene Fowler, 20th Century American journalist
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Do you have any enemies? Is there an archnemesis in your personal or professional community? What is it like to be around this person, or even to simply think about them?
What have you done to contribute to the rift between the two of you? What have you tried to perhaps mend fences?
Instead of being against one another with all the damage it can produce, how would a better understanding of what this individual stands for help?
Once you better understand their motivators and beliefs, perhaps you can break the vicious cycle of making each other wrong.
FRIDAY REVIEW: MOTIVATION
Are you self-motivated, situation-motivated, or motivated by others? Here are a few posts about motivation you may have missed. Click the links to read the full messages.
“Do a little more each day than you think you possibly can.”
“Inspiration usually comes during work, not before it.”
“Work for a cause, not for applause.”