“You own an army if you know how to win people’s trust and support.”
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Social capitalism and masterful networking are cornerstone skills of many successful people. Take a moment to examine the variety of people who have trusted and supported your personal and professional efforts up to this point in your life.
In his book, Achieving Success Through Social Capital, Dr. Wayne Baker documents the fundamentally understood concept that relationships are valuable not just qualitatively, but also quantifiably. When others help us, we tend to reciprocate by making efforts to help them.
With this giving and supportive perspective in mind, we can all build and foster our own armies to support our personal and professional objectives. We can also act as foot soldiers in the armies of our supporters.
Consider checking out Wayne Baker’s book, or email me and I will send you a PDF copy of my Masterful Networking Workbook, which can be read in 15-20 minutes.
“Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start.”
—Nido Qubein, President of High Point University
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In one or two sentences, please describe your present circumstances in the following areas:
- Your health
- Your relationships at home
- Your relationships at work
- Your personal finances
- Your level of happiness
- Your emotional well-being
Feel free to add a few more priority categories that come to mind. Based on your description, which of these areas would you rate as Poor, OK, Good, Great, or Outstanding?
Select the one area in which you most wish to progress. Note that your current circumstances are simply the place where you will begin. Consider developing an action plan for the next week or month that will take you toward your desired objectives.
Feel free to send me a copy of your plan and I will be happy to look it over.
“Every man is a volume, if you know how to read him.”
—William Ellery Channing, 19th Century Unitarian Preacher
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How well do you really know the people in your personal and professional communities?
Which ones do you know only on the surface of things, perhaps analogous to a tweet? Or maybe you know a bit more, along the lines of a blog post or professional resume?
Going deeper, you may be familiar with their book summary, or for those who remember them, their Cliff or Monarch notes.
Who do you know on the level of War and Peace, or some other weighty volume?
Who knows you in that level of detail?
Where and with whom is it time to read the full volume of their life story? Perhaps this process will help you write a few extra chapters together in the days and years ahead.
“The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other’s life.”
—Richard Bach, American 1970s Author
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During a recent trip out of the country for two weeks, my wife Wendy and I had very limited contact with our family. We did, however, travel with two good friends and a little over 700 other shipmates to explore Greece and Israel.
In addition to our fellow passengers, we were served and supported by over 400 staff and crew from over 40 countries.
To our delight and joy, we both experienced a new level of friendship and a genuine sense of a global family.
Where and how can you experience far greater respect and joy within your extended communities beyond your immediate family? What would be the value and impact of this expanded family bond in your life?
“We don’t find soul mates like some shell on the beach. We become them.”
Gretchen Rubin, American author/blogger
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Are you a fan of reality TV shows like The Bachelor and The Bachelorette?
These shows, and dozens more, are artificially forced scenarios in which men and women are placed together with the hope—and the desire of their viewers—of finding true love and living happily ever after.
Despite the exotic locations, extravagant dating scenarios, and roller-coasters of passion, the vast majority of these couples do not succeed. The percentages are even lower than the 50% divorce rate often described in general conversation and the media.
To what degree are you doing your part to give 100% to your relationship, in order to become the soulmates you desire?
Consider studying and practicing the work of John Grey – Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus, or The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, for steps to take to realize the more soulful relationships you desire.
“Don’t gain the world and lose your soul; wisdom is better than silver or gold.”
—Bob Marley, 20th Century Jamaican singer/songwriter
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How strongly do you “fit” and experience a sense of belonging in your personal and professional communities?
To what degree do your beliefs and core values align and resonate with others at home and at work?
Where may you be looking the other way or squinting a bit as you view your world, due to the benefits and payoffs some of your communities or associations provide?
What, if any, soul-diminishing effects are you experiencing due to certain decisions or indecision?
What wise and perhaps courageous choices and actions can and will you take to strengthen your soulful foundations toward an even more richly rewarding life?
“Help me understand that better.”
Today’s quote can be extremely helpful in the development and enhancement of relationships, especially for men.
A few months ago, I attended a coaching conference. One of the key “conversation starters” was John Gray, author of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.
Given the importance of relationships to maximize the benefits of the coaching process, we were “all ears and all in,” seeking greater mastery for ourselves and our clients.
If you are a student of Gray’s work, it is pretty apparent that many men have a limited attention span in certain conversations, and almost always seek to solve or fix problems even when the other party has made no request of them to do so.
Where and with whom would seeking to understand others better make a significant difference in both your professional and personal relationships?
“What would happen if you doubled down on service?”
—Robert Richman, keynote speaker and culture architect
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Did you know that it takes 5-7 times the effort and resources to obtain new customers than to keep existing customers?
With this statistic in mind, how much effort have you and your organization focused on new customer acquisition rather than making sure your current customers are delighted with you, your products, and of course, your level of service?
Customer loyalty is worth billions, however, we often slack off on our best behaviors once we close the deal. Much like when we say our “I Do” to our life partners. Given the divorce rate of about 50%, we all can see the need to maintain and more appropriately improve these relationships if they are to prosper.
What are some ways you can and will double down on your levels of service in your professional and personal communities? What would be the value of the loyalty generated?
—Bob Chapman, founder of Truly Human Leadership
Where do you stand on the two words of today’s quote?
More specifically, where do you stand as it relates to the following communities:
- Your organization or place of employment
- Your city, state, country
- The upcoming 2020 census
- The world and all global citizens
- The plants and animals that share our earth
As a boy, I attended Creighton Elementary School in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania. One of my fellow students was Kim Sledge of the singing group, Sister Sledge, who became pretty famous for their hit song, “We are Family.”
Where can and will an “everybody matters” family approach to your various communities improve your world? What difference could this make to improve our planet if we all treated each other this way?
Consider checking out Bob Chapman’s book, Everybody Matters: The Extraordinary Power of Caring for Your People like Family.
“How can I help more people?”
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Research has shown that a critical component to a purposeful, happy life is helping others.
Consider how you currently help others in your personal and professional communities.
What contribution and difference have you made at this point in your life?
Each day, we allocate our time and energies. At some point we run out of gas and need a recharge. Beyond our own efforts to efficiently use these resources, how might you leverage yourself to make a ten-times or 100-times impact?
The Quotable Coach Blog and the book based on this series is one way I’ve chosen to assist people well beyond my geographic reach to better their lives.
You are welcome to explore the almost 2,000 posts written over the past 8 years, by checking out the drop-down category list when you scroll down the home page.
What leveraged activity can and will you pursue to help even more people in the years ahead? Feel free to reply to this post with some actions you intend to take.