“When you live on a round planet, there is no choosing sides.”
—Dr. Wayne Dyer, late American self-help author and motivational speaker
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The health of our planet and therefore ourselves depends on many factors.
Astronauts speaking from their experience in space say there are no lines separating us like on our maps. Our air, water, and even the network of fungi below the surface of our world connects us in ways we don’t always recognize.
Within the past century or so, man’s use and often abuse of this planet’s resources have created an increasingly urgent cascade of climate and environmental issues that are affecting us all.
Where do you find yourself taking sides in your various communities?
What can you do to help them come together to make things better for everyone?
Consider listening to the 2010 song “We are the World” as a good reminder that we are all in this together.
Please read The Carbon Almanac and help carry its information and message of hope to others.
If you enjoy fiction you may also want to check out The Ministry for the Future by Kim Stanley Robinson.
“People may hear your words, but they feel your attitude.”
—John Maxwell, New York Times bestselling author, coach and speaker
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In many ways all living things—including ourselves—are like machines.
We run on fuel and generate billions of electrical impulses each second. Even when we examine ourselves on an atomic level, electric and magnetic fields are constantly flowing.
When two particles—and in the case of today’s quote two people—interact, the energy fields between them can fluctuate.
Words alone compared to words with a positive attitude can be felt, and an experience of alignment and resonance can be experienced.
How and in what ways can and do you generate the feelings of excitement and engagement in others?
How do the people you know use their positive attitudes to offer you their magnetic personalities to engage your deepest listening?
“It takes two people to create a pattern, but only one to change it.”
—Esther Perel, Belgian psychotherapist
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Take a few minutes today to do a relationship review.
Closely examine the health of your most significant personal and professional interactions.
What word or phrase would describe the pattern of these engagements?
Where do you experience difficulties getting along and find yourself judging and being critical of others?
Most of us would love — from time to time — to have a magic wand to wave over others, to have them think and behave as we’d like.
Although we have no such power over anyone else, we do have the magic touch when it comes to our own ability to change ourselves.
Display Tuli Kupferberg’s quote, “When patterns are broken new world will emerge” in a well-trafficked place in your life.
What patterns can and will you break to have a new world of more successful relationships emerge?
“I wish getting along with people was as simple as enjoying their food.”
—Valerie Bertinelli, Award-winning American actress
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Consider the importance of food in your life. Chow down on this topic to examine how much it influences us beyond providing the nutrients to keep us alive.
How does food compare to the other essentials of water and air? What are the sensory experiences of each and how much pleasure and enjoyment do they offer? Food — and our rituals around it — provide us so much more than fulfilling a biologic need.
Although we sometimes find ourselves standing at the fridge eating alone, we most often seek out the company of others to deepen our bonds and create community. It is these bonds that we all need desperately to truly thrive.
When was the last time you attended a pot luck dinner where everyone brought a favorite dish to share? Consider hosting such a gathering in the coming weeks. I hope you enjoy many delicious dishes and the people that brought them!
“Trust is a product of vulnerability that grows over time and requires work, attention, and full engagement. Trust isn’t a grand gesture — it’s a growing marble collection.”
—Brene Brown, American research professor, lecturer, and author
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The development of trusting relationships is considered by most people a highly worthy pursuit. Considering how it might be metaphorically related to a marble collection intrigued me.
As a boy, I never collected marbles although I played with them from time to time. For me, it was bottle caps and baseball cards. Examining my efforts, to shoot, flip, and throw these objects with increased mastery, I can recall the various friendships surrounding these times. The connections with the kids in the neighborhood had a richness that went well beyond us simply growing our collections.
What are some of the ways you develop and grow your own treasured collection of trusting relationships? Consider reviewing my trust-o-meter assessment for additional ideas to grow in this area.
“When things feel heavy, reach out to whomever is near and distribute the weight.”
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This past spring and summer Wendy and I began and eventually finished our move from Michigan to Pennsylvania. Our last move prior to this was 29 years earlier and we had the services of a corporate relocation company that handled all the details — including most of the heavy lifting.
The added years and the lack of corporate support made this move far more demanding physically, mentally, and emotionally. Thankfully we were blessed with the help of our amazing children, friends, and some interesting out-of-the-blue strangers who came to the rescue to lighten our load.
Where have certain aspects of your life become heavy and difficult to manage? Who are some of the people in your various communities that can and would happily let you distribute this weight? Who in your life needs your assistance at this heavy time in their lives?
“We need to stay current with each other.”
—Angeles Arrien, PhD, late Basque-American cultural anthropologist
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I hope you had a happy holiday and the chance to safely be with family and friends. Catching up with those you love is a great bonus to the food, drink — and of course — your favorite sporting events and binge-watching interests.
How many holiday cards did you send and receive? How many of these well-wishing cards had photos of families with kids growing like weeds or even a separate insert with the highlights of the past year?
Staying current with our close and extended communities has been considerably more difficult due to Covid. Even with texting, e-mail, and video chats, many of us still feel isolated and alone.
What efforts can and will you make this year to remain current with the people you care about the most? Who could your reach out to today that you may have missed over the holidays?
“A life well-lived is firmly planted in the sweet soil of moments.”
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This year has included many significant moments for myself and my family. Some landmark moments included the passing of my dear dad, the move from Michigan to Pennsylvania after 34 years, and the birth of our new granddaughter.
With the dramatic change in venue and our routines, Wendy and I have been paying even closer attention to all the sweet and sometimes sour moments that make up our days.
We see ourselves as gardeners carefully and lovingly planting many new seeds and tending to our plot of the world. We intend to sink deep roots into the sweet soil of our many blessings especially during this holiday season.
How mindful and grateful are you about your life?
How connected and deeply rooted are you within your various communities?
How might you better cultivate the sweet soil of each moment to live an even more richly rewarding life?
“To be a good fisherman you must detach yourself from the dream of the fish. This makes whatever is caught or found a treasure.”
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I have a client and good friend named Rich, who loves to fish. Hearing him talk about his passion is a blast. Last year, he invited me to join him in his passion at a local lake.
With an early start on a promising day, we switched places and Rich became my coach. During our five-hour excursion he caught numerous fish and I — with all my giggling — came up with a single small-mouth bass, just prior to us calling it a day. Later, over a meal, I came to the realization that it was our treasured friendship that was the big fish I caught that day.
Where have you caught or discovered new things to celebrate and appreciate on your way to some other intended place? Where might detaching yourself from things you expect open you up to new people and experiences to treasure?
“If you don’t understand what makes people tick, they won’t tick.”
—Robert Swan — British explorer & the first person to walk to both Poles
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Ever since I can remember I’ve been fascinated by how things work. I distinctly recall, as a child, taking apart a Baby Ben alarm clock to see what was inside that made it tick.
These days, I’m far more interested in what makes the people around me tick, to better discover how to improve my relationships, understand their motivations, and to help bring out their best through my coaching efforts.
Although there are multitudes of tools and assessments to help in this process, I’ve found the simple but often not easy work of collaborative conversations — where seeking to understand and be sincerely interested — works best.
How masterful are you in the art of dialogue and conversation? Where and with whom would greater skill and practice help you understand what make these people tick even better?