before borrowing money from a friend

“Before borrowing money from a friend, decide which you need most.”

-A Farmers Almanac Philosofact

Image of hands trading money

image from The Storage Facilitator

If you are a fan of Shakespeare, consider the advice Polonius provides to his son Laertes in Act I, Scene III of Hamlet:

Neither a borrower nor a lender be, for loan oft loses both itself and friend.

What has been your experience with such matters? Where did things work out just fine, and where did things go wrong?

How do these sayings influence your point of view and perspective on being generous and helping others in need?

EXERCISE:

Consider responding to this post with your thoughts or perhaps discuss your view on this subject with a friend.

Defining a Friend

“A friend is a person before whom I may think aloud.”

—Ralph Waldo Emerson, 19th Century American Essayist

Image of fingers with faces painted on

Image from www.lesaviezvous.net

How many true friends do you have?

I recently had a coaching session with a new client. He expressed a sense of emptiness due to a lack of true friends in his life, the surface nature of many of his relationships, and the significant lack of depth in his professional and personal discussions.

He also noted the need for greater courage and vulnerability, should he choose to open himself up and chance the risk of being judged.

EXERCISE:

Examine your own risk/reward ratio of thinking aloud more often, to develop and expand the friendships that can enhance your life.

Friday Review Friendship

Friday Review: Friendship

We all get buy with a little help from our friends. Here are a few friendship-related posts you may have missed. Click on the Quote to read the full message:

QC #1016a

 

“A friend is a loved one who awakens your life in order to free the wild possibilities within you.”

 

 

QC #1016b

“A true friend never gets in your way unless you happen to be going down.”

 

 

 

QC #1016c

“Friends are as companions on a journey, who ought to aid each other to persevere in the road to a happier life.”

“You’ve Got a Friend.”

“You’ve Got a Friend”

-Carole King, Grammy Award-winning American singer/songwriter

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Friends:
·         Fight for you
·         Respect you
·         Include you
·         Encourage you
·         Need you
·         Deserve you
·         Stand by you

Someone once said that friends are the family we choose for ourselves. How large a family do you have based on the criteria above? How well do you demonstrate the same qualities?

EXERCISE:

In what ways and with whom can you be the kind of friend that people like Carole King writes and sings about? For a bit of extra credit, Google songs about friends to find a lot more to sing about.

“Are you working to connect the dots or…”

“Are you working to connect the dots or merely collecting more dots?”

—Seth Godin, Author

What is your favorite form of social media? If you go in order of popularity, the usage looks something like this:

  • Facebook has about 1.23 billion users
  • LinkedIn has about 332 million users
  • Twitter has about 284 million users

Please don’t respond saying my numbers are wrong, as they aren’t relevant to the point of this post.

Do you know how many friends, connections, or followers you have on each of your social sites?

Without question, the internet and social media have brought about amazing changes, making our world more connected and noisy to the point, for some, of addictive engagement.

Godin’s question asks if we are collecting friends or followers like dots, or are we truly looking to genuinely connect and contribute to other people’s lives.

EXERCISE:

Examine your skills, abilities, gifts, and talents that contribute to those on the other side of the  monitor or mobile device. Consider that if you create something truly remarkable, you will likely have your very best friends and followers connecting the dots with you.