Friday Review: Behavior

FRIDAY REVIEW: BEHAVIOR

What do your behaviors say about you? Here are a few behavior-related posts you may have missed.

 

“We have a tendency to want the other person to be a finished product while we give ourselves the grace to evolve.”

 

 

 

“A bad attitude is like a flat tire. You can’t go anywhere until you change it.”

 

 

 

“Throw me to the wolves and I will return leading the pack.”

 

 

 

 

 

“When you throw dirt at people, you’re not doing a thing but losing ground.”

“When you throw dirt at people, you’re not doing a thing but losing ground.”

—Zig Ziglar, late American author, salesman, and motivational speaker

Image from Unsplash by Eddie Kopp

Ted Koppel once said that we all see the same events through different lenses. He seemed to be perplexed that although we live in the same country, we often seem to live in different worlds.

What are you observing in your various personal and professional communities?

Where are you seeing or even participating in dirt throwing?

I recently did a bit of pro-bono coaching to support the organization, Search for Common Ground. With such a great name and organizational purpose, I noticed even highly committed team members occasionally finding themselves on opposite sides of certain issues.

EXERCISE:

How and in what ways can you dig deeper to find common ground with others in your communities? Where can you plant the seeds of a better more unified world in your own back yard?

“Worry is just imagination used in an unproductive way.”

“Worry is just imagination used in an unproductive way.”

—Andy Andrews, The Noticer

Image from Unsplash by Ethan Sykes

These days, many people have been pulled to the dark side of imagination. Instead of using our wonderful imagination for creative and positive purposes, we easily slip into worry.

Imagine you are a special kind of meteorologist. You can easily report on inclement weather and potential storms, but you can also change the forecast to sunnier skies with your power of positive intentions and optimism.

EXERCISE:

Where is your imagination causing you to worry about future events in unproductive ways?

How can and will you bring greater creativity and a positive bias to your thinking when you notice the clouds of worry headed your way?

“Action Precedes Passion.”

“Action Precedes Passion.”

—Bill Burnett & Dave Evans, Designing Your Life

Image from Unsplash by Ian Schneider

What are the things in life you love the most? What inspires you? What are you passionate about?

Asking these questions of anyone will likely lead to a highly engaging discussion with eyes wide open and perhaps some energetic and animated gestures.

How does one person find passion in fly fishing, while another finds it in preparing sushi?

Where and when did you first notice an initial interest in your passions?

How did this spark lead to the raging fires of engagement over time?

EXERCISE:

Take note of the early actions you and others took to get hooked on your current passions. Where might future actions and trying new activities generate a few more passionate pursuits in the years ahead?

“When you seek to advance your own position in life, character is the best lever — perhaps not in the short term, but certainly over the long term.”

“When you seek to advance your own position in life, character is the best lever — perhaps not in the short term, but certainly over the long term.”

—Ryan Holiday, Author of The Daily Stoic

I am reading The Daily Stoic for the third time.

History’s greatest minds — including George Washington, Fredrick the Great, Ralph Waldo Emerson, and today’s top achievers — embrace the practical wisdom of the ancient stoics.

The timeless wisdom of Marcus Aurelius, Seneca, Epictetus, and others offers all of us a practical philosophy for living a better life.

The stoics were individuals of great character who navigated their lives by core principles and guiding tenants, not simply by what was easy in the moment.

Their long-term perspective on what was morally right and served society at large guided their thoughts and deeds.

EXERCISE:

Where and how can you more fully leverage your own strongest character traits to advance your own life and that of others in your personal and professional communities?

“Why do you get up in the morning?”

“Why do you get up in the morning?”

—Dan Buettner, New York Times-bestselling author

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I like to start each day as purposefully as possible to learn and grow, to express gratitude and especially to find ways to serve others.

Writing The Quotable Coach post most mornings over the last nine years is one important expression that meets all of the criteria. Today I am getting up a bit early to go shopping for food for us and a close friend.

What are some of the important reasons you get up each morning? What goals and intentions empower and energize you, make your day special for yourself and others? How will spending your day this way put a smile of satisfaction on your face when you lie down to sleep tonight?

EXERCISE:

Consider exploring the 2200 Quotable Coach posts that are sorted by categories. Please consider sharing this resource with others whom you wish to support and serve in the coming year.

Thank You!

“Run marathons in the footwear of others.”

“Run marathons in the footwear of others.”

—Author Unknown

Image from Unsplash by Joshua Coleman

Most of us have been taught to walk a mile in others shoes before we are quick to judge. If you have done this during the past year, how has it impacted your life and the way you treat others?

What if, instead of a mile of walking, you ran 26.2 miles in the footwear of some of these individuals, to more fully explore their difficulties and heartaches?

Have you ever watched a marathon in person, or seen the Olympic or Boston event? If so, you would have seen thousands of people lining the routes, encouraging and supporting each competitor to run the best race possible, and reach their goal.

EXERCISE:

How and in what ways can you more fully appreciate the marathons others are running in your world? How can and will you reach out more generously and compassionately to support their courageous efforts?

“The challenges that we face test us and help reveal our true potential.”

“The challenges that we face test us and help reveal our true potential.”

—Jon Gordon, Author of The Carpenter

Image from Unsplash by Taylor Wilcox

In school, we receive a lesson and then take the test. In life, we are tested and challenged—and only then do we sometimes embrace the lesson.

How and in what ways are your personal and professional circumstances testing your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual capacities? Where are you being pushed and pulled to stretch beyond your perceived limits?

Where does your true potential lie beyond your current view of yourself?

Answering these questions many not always give us a full picture of our potential growth opportunities. Sometimes members of our communities who act as sounding boards or mirrors can reveal even more than we can visualize on our own.

EXERCISE:

Identify at least one family member, professional colleague, mentor, or coach to explore the various challenges and tests you are facing. Explore how such relationships can reveal even more of your true potential. Consider how taking on such a role for others can also enhance your own growth.

 

“How can you break out of old patterns and learn to look at life anew?”

“How can you break out of old patterns and learn to look at life anew?”

—Author Unknown

Image from Unsplash by Simon Launay

Today’s quote is cousin to one of my favorites, by Tuli Kupferberg:

“When Patterns, are Broken, New Worlds Will Emerge.”

Examining these nuggets of wisdom may have some shortcomings if we use them only as thought exercises. Shifting our paradigms, altering our mental models, and simply looking through different perceptional filters is not enough.

We must also act in new and different ways if new worlds are to be realized.

An intention to act without action leaves us where or how we are—or perhaps worse.

EXERCISE:

As you look at life anew, what do you plan to actually do?

Feel free to reply to this post regarding the actions you took today.