My wish isn’t to mean everything to everyone

“My wish isn’t to mean everything to everyone but something to someone.”

Oscar Wilde, 19th Century Irish poet and playwright

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When we compare ourselves to others, we often focus on how many of them are ahead of us.

By trying to make up ground and get to the front of the pack, we often spread our efforts very thin and rarely make the significant difference we intend.

Sometime when we try to go big we and others would be far better off if we stayed home.

EXERCISE:

How would focus on fewer relationships at home be far more impactful than going an inch deep and a mile wide?

There is no tomorrow, only a string of todays

“There is no tomorrow, only a string of todays.”

Mark Nepo, Author of Book of Awakening

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A few weeks ago, I spent three days at Sea World in Orlando with my wife Wendy, our daughter Rachel, and our two grandchildren.

With a double stroller as our base of operations, we adults got in far more than our 10,000 steps as we took in all the sun and sights!

Peak experiences — including our hands-on interactions with dolphins and Beluga whales — kept our full attention, with plenty of opportunities for photos to save these moments for posterity.

EXERCISE:

How would living your life as a string of todays help you squeeze more satisfaction from all the todays and tomorrows to come?

We live in an ocean of opportunity

“We live in an ocean of opportunity. Being mindful of which waves to take will give you the ride of your life.”

—Author Unknown

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According to the U.S. Geologic Survey, there are over 332 million cubic miles of water on our planet.

Of this vast volume of water, NOAA’s National Geophysical Data Center estimates that 321 million cubic miles are in our oceans.

Waves on water are caused primarily by wind. If you’ve ever been on a boat or at the beach you’ve surely seen and felt their power.

EXERCISE:

What winds of change have you experienced over the past several years?

How have you embraced the abundance of opportunities all around you?

What support structures are available to help you travel toward new horizons?

The slogan “Have It Your Way” is not only for burgers.

The slogan, “Have It Your Way” is not only for burgers.

—Calm App Reflection

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Burger King’s Whopper was launched the year I was born (1957).  The food chain’s initial positioning — “Have it Your Way” — lasted 40 years.

Their new slogan —”Be Your Way” — is designed to remind people that no matter who they are, they can order how they want, and they can and should live how they want anytime.

EXERCISE:

To what degree do you experience a life of autonomy and freedom, to be and have what you desire?

What other slogans have you embraced over the years to live the life you love?

If you become restless, speed up. If you become winded, slow down

“If you become restless, speed up. If you become winded, slow down.”

Robert Pirsig, late American writer and philosopher

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What is the current pace of your life?

To what degree are you running the rat race or crawling along at a snail’s pace?

Perhaps the tempo of your world is just right — you’ve found your groove and there is not much more to do other than put things on cruise control.

If you are on an entrance or exit ramp of life you know when it’s time to hit the gas or pump the brakes.

EXERCISE:

Where are you restless and need to speed things up?

Where are you out of breath and need to slow things down?

What is the optimal speed for you at this point in your life?

Impatience is an argument with reality

“Impatience is an argument with reality.”

—Sue Heatherington, quietdisruptors.com

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A few weeks ago, Wendy and I were scheduled to attend a sweetheart dance beginning at 5:30 PM. As the clock approached our time to leave for this event, the skies opened up with a torrent of rain. I pride myself on being on time or early, so I forged out the door — umbrella in hand — to fulfill our commitment.

Needless to say, my impatience soaked me anyway, especially my feet which provided a sock-squishing reminder throughout the dance. To my surprise and dismay, the rain stopped completely the moment we arrived!

EXERCISE:

When do you find yourself arguing with reality?

Where has the lack of patience caused you more trouble than a pair of soggy socks?

Where would a good dose of equanimity serve you best?

To be happy you must let go of what’s gone

“To be happy you must let go of what’s gone, be grateful for what remains, and look forward to what is coming.”

—Author Unknown

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How would you rate yourself on a one-to-ten scale of happiness?

How has this number varied over the last several years due to personal, professional, and global events?

Consider how today’s quote offers significant wisdom to level up your score with small mindfulness adjustments.

EXERCISE:

How can you more completely let go of what’s gone?

How can you more fully appreciate what you have?

What are the small and big things that you look forward to in the future?

Embrace beauty wherever you find it. It can magically uplift your

Embrace beauty wherever you find it. It can magically uplift your life and sweeten your world.

—Calm App Reflection

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Do you have a sweet tooth? What are your favorite desserts, candies, or sugary beverages?

When and where do you indulge in these treats? How do they make you feel before, during, and after you devour them?

We all enjoy taking in the sweetness of life, and delicious food is certainly one way to do this. Consider — as an alternative to a tasty treat — consuming a little more beauty in your world to put smiles on your mouth instead of putting something in it.

EXERCISE:

How can you discover and consume more beauty from the world around you?

Who are the people and what are the places and things that uplift and sweeten your life?

Eating a scoop of ice cream during this exploration works even better!