“When elephants fight, it’s the grass that suffers.”
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Who are the elephants in your world? Take a look through your personal and professional communities. Look also beyond your immediate communities to national and global elephants that are throwing their weight around.
How are their skirmishes and all-out brawls impacting the grass and smaller, less powerful creatures beneath their feet? How much disruption, destruction, and scars are left that may never fully heal?
Where and how can you use the sunnier, milder days of the coming spring to calm the elephants in your world?
What actions can you take to reseed your world for all creatures to graze in peace?
“Did you ever wonder why no one ever tries softer?”
—Lily Tomlin, American actress and comedian
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If you keep up with books on personal and professional achievements, you will likely have seen an emphasis on deep work, drive, grit, leaning in, and discovering your strengths.
There is no question that hard work, persistence, the power of habit, and putting in those 10,000 hours is correlated with considerable progress and achievement.
What would trying softer look like?
How could this be an access point to a more successful and rewarding life?
Where would quieter behaviors and approaches to your relationships with yourself and others, and the general way you move through life, provide access to new personal and professional possibilities?
“There is no sense in crying over spilt milk. Why bewail what is done and cannot be recalled?”
—Sophocles, 4th Century BC Greek Writer
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Our delightful grandson Weston stayed with us recently to give his mom and dad a break, and give us a treat. He has a particularly robust appetite and often makes messes, as if many children were having a food fight.
With the latest and greatest in bottles and cups, the incidents of spilled milk have gone down considerably.
We all expect to deal with the messes made by young children, but how well do you deal with your own mistakes, or those of other grownups in your world?
How easy is it to accept these mishaps and move on rather than ruminating or beating yourself up?
Where and on what matters would a “Done is Done” approach to your day help you lead a calmer, more satisfying life?
“No one wants to hear everything that’s in your head. They just want you to live up to what comes out of your mouth.”
—Adam Grant, American psychologist and author
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Who are the blabbermouths in your life? Who are the people who go on and on about their ideas, beliefs, and opinions, and never seem to take a breath? How do you feel around them?
To what degree might people in your world place you on their list of those who are more focused on being interesting rather than interested?
What makes these individuals even more troublesome is that on many, if not most, occasions, they appear to be all talk and very little action.
Who are the people in your life who are impeccable with their words? How would your life be enhanced if you and others lived up to what comes out of your mouth more often?
Consider reading or re-reading The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz for some added wisdom on this topic.
“Man did not weave the web of life – he is merely a strand in it. Whatever he does to the web, he does to himself.”
—Greg Braden, NYT Best-Selling Author
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If you happen to enjoy history, consider exploring the history of our planet and how animals and plant life have evolved. Consider checking out fossil records and other scientific methods including carbon dating.
A surprising discovery for many is just how recently man – especially modern man – has been around.
Humans, because of our remarkable brains and our ability to coordinate and cooperate, have altered our world far more quickly and dramatically than all other creatures combined.
What positive and negative strand-pulling activities are you observing these days? How and in what ways can all of us contribute and strengthen the web of life to leave a positive and lasting legacy for all future generations and all creatures that share our beautiful world?
“If you are acting like a sheep, don’t blame the shepherd.”
—Eli Jaxon-Bear, American spiritual teacher and author
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Throughout our lives, we have been taught we have to “go along to get along.” Fitting in, being one of the gang, and literally being “with it” has made us sheep in many of our communities.
Take a moment to identify all the personal, professional, and community-based groups that herd us together. Consider all the new digital communities that foster similar practices and beliefs.
Where does being a sheep actually work for you and serve your best interest? Where does it clearly not support your most genuine self?
In what areas of your life is it time to act like a lion versus a lamb?
What bold, courageous or simply contrarian thing will you say or do to say goodbye to these shepherds?
“Leave the familiar for a while. Change rooms in your mind for a day.”
—Hafiz, 14th Century Persian Poet
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One of my favorite quotes is, “When patterns are broken, new worlds will emerge,” by Tuli Kupferberg. In a nutshell, it points to a primary reason the coaching process works to support all kinds of professional and personal change initiatives.
Unfortunately, this can be quite difficult due to entrenched ways of thinking and acting that have become habituated over many years.
The good news, supported through today’s quote, is that we all can begin to grow and change by taking baby steps rather than quantum leaps, to better our worlds.
Experiment today by intentionally deviating from the familiar in your thoughts and actions. Please consider replying to this post regarding what occurs when you change things up a bit.