“If you’re not willing to do a wholesale 24/7,100% swap with who that person is, then there is no point in being jealous.”
—Naval Ravikant, Indian-American entrepreneur and investor
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What did you want to be when you were a kid? Who were your heroes, and how often did you imagine being them?
What about these days?
How often do your thoughts detour to trading places with the rich and famous? If you were to find a magic lamp, how would you use those wishes to swap out your life for some alternative picture of perfect?
Where do you currently feel the pangs of envy and jealousy?
Who are the people you actually know that seem to have it all? How do you feel around them when your habit of making comparisons kicks in?
Take a closer look at your life.
If possible, dig below the surface of your initial superlative assessments of others.
Perhaps they may actually be a bit jealous of you.
“The chief prevention against getting old is to remain astonished.”
—Kevin Kelly, founding executive editor of Wired magazine
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Regardless of your age, how do you stay young at heart?
The other day I was feeling my age and didn’t like it very much.
I’m reading Arthur Brooks new book From Strength to Strength, and I’ve reached the chapters where he describes the overwhelming evidence of how we decline from our peak capabilities far sooner than we care to admit.
Putting our heads down and striving even harder is usually not the answer and often compounds our frustrations.
There is considerable evidence that life satisfaction for many people tends to increase once they shift their attention from personal success to a life of significance where they pour their skills and wisdom into others.
Doing this type of work as a coach for many years keeps my moments of astonishment coming and, on most days, puts pep in my steps.
What are the activities that astonish you with excitement and wonder?
How and where can you engage in more of these to remain forever young?
“I am the me I choose to be.”
—Sidney Pottier, first black male to win the Best Actor Academy Award
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Today’s quote seems like a modern version of Shakespeare’s famous line, To thine own self be true.
To what degree are you the “thee” you choose to be?
With all the pushing and pulling on us by outside forces, many of us have exchanged followers and likes for a bit of our souls.
Being a chameleon and constantly trying to please others almost always moves us away from our authentic selves.
In what ways have you or others close to you given away the power to choose and lost your way?
On what issues is it time to more courageously choose your most genuine self to receive the only essential “like” worth pursuing?
“A penny will hide the biggest star in the universe if you hold it close enough to your eye.”
—Samuel Grafton, 20th Century American Journalist
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We all experience hyper-focus from time to time. Some top priority grabs our complete attention and the rest of the world just disappears.
What are the benefits and costs to you personally and professionally in such situations? What is one such priority that comes to mind today or in the recent past where this was an opportunity or an issue?
Where in your life is keeping things too close blocking your view of other stars that need your attention?
“Love, like the ocean, continues beyond the horizon. And life, like the sun, shines where we cannot see.”
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A friend and client named Doug sent me today’s quote in a condolence card upon the passing of my father, Marvin, in early March.
Since my dad’s passing after a remarkable 94 years, I have noticed many significant signs that it was only his body that died. His spirit and soul are still very present beyond the horizon we can see with our mortal capacities.
As I was preparing my breakfast the day after Dad died, I looked out the window and saw a cardinal.
I’ve been told that when God sends a cardinal, it’s a visitor from heaven. Cardinals appear when loved ones are near. When you keep seeing a certain type of bird, it is usually a heaven-sent messenger of love for you. `
Take some time today to reflect on some of the important people in your life who have passed away. Note examples of how they continue to shine and show their love in your life.
Please reply to this post if you wish to share your own perspective and experiences.
“Don’t be afraid of shitty first drafts.”
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Bird by Bird is considered by many the bible of writing guides. It has sold non-stop since it was published in the 1990s. Today’s quote is a poignant nugget of Anne Lamott’s wisdom, gleaned from her many years of trial and error to give voice to her calling to write well.
The subtitle, Instructions on Writing and Life, points to the iterative nature of both. Capturing one’s thoughts, emotions, and feelings in words and deeds can often be pretty messy, especially during the early stages.
Where are you afraid that your initial drafts on some worthy goal or project are pretty awful?
How can and will you continue to develop second, third, and perhaps many more drafts, to fully express yourself throughout the rest of your life?
“Is this necessary?”
—Marcus Aurelius, Roman emperor from 161 to 180
How often do you feel or hear yourself telling others that you are busy, slammed, and overwhelmed with all the demands of life? How often do you ever get to the bottom of your to-do list with energy left over to spend as you wish?
We all crave some wiggle room and respite in our days to recharge, renew, and even play. Many don’t let themselves play until all the work is done — and it rarely is.
Write the question, “Is this necessary?” on a few post-it notes places in strategic spots at home and at work. Now capture all those past to-do items that end up your ‘to-don’t-do” list. Share this list with others to support your new intentions and accountability.