“Our mortality ironically is a life coach.”
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When I was a young boy I was fortunate to go to Camp Indian Lake in the Pocono Mountains of Pennsylvania. My father was the camp Director and as one of his perks, the whole family had a two-month vacation each year.
On Saturday evenings, there was a movie and each camper was given five tickets to exchange for candy to eat during the film — and perhaps to keep us from talking! Deciding what treats were worth two or three tickets seemed monumental back then.
Time, in many ways, represents the tickets we are given to experience the sweet and sour patches of our lives. Not knowing just how many tickets we have left makes our life choices even more important and urgent.
How can recognizing your own mortality help coach you to make the best possible life choices with the precious tickets remaining?
“And now let us believe in a long year that is given to us, new, untouched, full of things that have never been.”
—Rainer Maria Rilke, 19th Century Bohemian-Austrian poet and novelist
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Five hundred twenty-five thousand six hundred minutes.
Five hundred twenty-five thousand six hundred moments so dear.
Five hundred twenty-five thousand six hundred minutes.
How do you measure? Measure a year?
The Broadway show Rent was ahead of it’s time when it premiered in 1996. The cast contained characters who were black, white, brown straight, gay, bisexual and transgender.
What would be possible if we all believed in the five hundred twenty-five thousand six hundred minutes that is given to us, new and untouched each year, full of things that have never been?
Listen to Seasons of Love
“The more balls you try to juggle, the more you’re likely to drop.”
—Mohit Pandey, The Scrabbled Thoughts
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Did you know that you can become a lifetime member of the International Juggler’s Association for only $1,250? As a bonus, you can include up to five additional members of your family (if they live at the same address) at no additional cost. The world records for juggling various numbers of balls are:
|# of Balls
||12 hours, 5 minutes
||2 hours, 46 minutes, 48 seconds
||2 hours, 41 minutes, 27 seconds
||25 minutes, 17 seconds
||16 minutes, 25 seconds
||1 minute, 13 seconds
How many balls are you trying to keep up in the air, and how many are dropping? To what degree have you already become a lifetime member of the association without paying the membership fee? What are the right balls, and the right number of balls, to put in your juggling rotation for an optimal life?
“Perhaps the truth depends on a walk around the lake.”
—Wallace Stevens, 20th Century American modernist poet
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In recent months, I’ve had considerably more time to think. My daily routines have changed a bit with my health club closing, and working from home.
Instead of my normal fitness efforts I have introduced a 50-minute walk. Although it is not around a lake, it allows for significant, peaceful contemplative time.
Although I am getting plenty of steps and fresh air, of greater interest and value seems to be my mental, emotional, and spiritual explorations. Taking this time to look far more closely and clearly at the truths of my life and our world has been profound.
Consider taking a walk around your own lake or neighborhood and see what truths are revealed. Feel free to reply to this post and let me know what you discover.
“Time is how you spend your love.”
—Zadie Adeline Smith, Creative Writing Professor, New York University
The Serenity Prayer
So much has changed in our personal and professional lives over the past months.
How we spend our time has dramatically changed, and the normal routines and momentum we previously expected have been thwarted.
How are these events impacting you and those you love?
What aspects of your world can you control and influence? Which can you not?
Revisiting the Serenity Prayer might prove useful as a mindful exercise. How you are spending your time with your head, hand, and heart?
Despite the hard realities presented by this global crisis, I am delighted to see the outpouring of love within and between communities at all levels around the world.
Where and in what ways can and will you spend your life and time today to make a difference in your communities?
“Often the relationship that needs the most work is the one we have with ourselves.”
—Robert Tew, American writer
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How much time do you spend in a typical day with your work colleagues, significant other, children, and friends?
Please do the actual math to count the hours, minutes, and perhaps even the tiny moments of your day.
If you expand days to weeks, weeks to months, and months to years, what do the numbers look like?
Now you know the question is coming…
How much time do you spend alone?
Have you ever wanted to get away from yourself and realized, in particular moments, that you felt a bit trapped or stuck, and were looking for some form of escape?
Knowing that wherever you go, there you are, how and in what ways can you make this most important relationship with yourself an even higher priority each and every day?
“When was the last time you had some ME time?”
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George Washington once said, “It is better to be alone than in bad company.”
These days it may also be better to be alone than in even good company.
To what degree is finding “Me” time a significant challenge for you? How often may this be due to your selfless, giving nature? Where are you burning the candle at both ends to serve and support others in your various communities?
What is this costing you? What may it be costing those you care about because you are often running on or near empty?
Do your own Google search for “Me Time” activities that suit you. Select at least one strategic activity for when you have one, five or fifteen minutes. For advanced activities look at longer blocks of time to fully recharge and be your best.
“God gave us our memories so that we might have roses in December.”
—James M. Barrie, 19th Century Scottish author of Peter Pan
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It is February, and Michigan is in the grip of winter. The blooming flowers of spring and summer are months away. For many, the weather can be physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually draining, making it feel that a good bit of our “get up and go” has gotten up and gone.
Our minds can, in such situations, operate as time machines, in which we experience some of those sunny days in which our lives were far rosier.
Consider a three-to-five minute daily meditative journey today, and for the rest of the weeks of winter. Reminisce and bask in some of the sunnier days of your past. How can and will you take this energy boosting experience into your day and spread its beauty to those in your personal and professional communities?
“Some books should be tasted, some devoured, but only a few should be chewed and digested thoroughly.”
—Sir Francis Bacon, 16th Century Lord Chancellor of England
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I have a math problem for you on the subject of books. According to Google’s advanced algorithms, about 130 million books have been published in all of modern history.
Consider multiplying 130 million by the number of hours it takes you to read an average book, giving your reading speed. To keep it simple, let’s assume it takes you ten hours. Multiply 130 million by ten and you see that it would take you one billion, three hundred thousand hours to read all the books published in modern history.
Now let’s pretend you began reading at birth, and that, given advanced medical breakthroughs, you live to be 100.
If my math is correct, it would take 876,000 lifetimes to read them all – far more if you took time to sleep, work, eat, or do anything other than read.
As you examine your book tasting efforts, which new books, or perhaps a few oldies but goodies, are worth your valuable time in the years ahead?
“My goal, with whatever I am working on, is to lose track of time.”
—Ben Marcus, American author and professor
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How often do you experience a sense of flow through your vocational and avocational efforts?
In his book, Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience, Psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi explores the topic of “optimal experiences” and what makes them extremely satisfying.
In this state, most people totally lose track of time and experience a powerful sense of deep enjoyment, creativity, and engagement.
Where do you lose track of time throughout your day? To what degree are these engaging times both productive and pleasurable?
Where do your efforts actually detract or limit you from being your best or cause problems due to the somewhat addictive qualities of certain behaviors?
What adjustments can and will you make to your flow-meter to make an even more positive and pleasurable difference in your life?