“If your habits don’t line up with your dream, then you either need to change your habits or change your dream.”
—Sam Horn, American author and communications strategist
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Thoughts become things only when we take action.
Wishful thinking is not a good strategy for success. Even new millionaires who won the lottery knew they had first to buy a ticket.
To pretty much guarantee yourself a winning ticket in your life lottery, take a good look at your habits and daily practices.
If you are healthy inside and out, you likely eat well, exercise, get adequate rest, and probably have a few other self-care and spiritual practices.
What are your dreams for this year and beyond? To what degree are you progressing toward them through your daily efforts?
Consider swapping out one new good habit for one that is holding you back. To explore how to do this, consider studying and applying the work of Charles Duhigg in his brilliant book, The Power of Habit.
“If you’re not hungry enough to eat an apple, then you’re probably not hungry.”
—Michael Pollan, Harvard University Professor
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I eat an apple every morning as part of my breakfast routine. Honeycrisp and Jazz are two of my favorite varieties.
It is a bit strange to me that I rarely eat apples any other time of day. Perhaps because I am literally breaking my fast from my last meal or snack, 10-12 hours earlier.
What do you notice about you own hunger trends throughout your day?
What percent of your eating is generated by true hunger verses mindless or emotional eating?
Consider creating a hunger/food log to monitor your daily eating habits. What additional strategies can you use in addition to having a few tasty apples on hand to satisfy your optimal nutritional and hunger needs?
Who have been the most influential people throughout your life, helping to shape your character?
Examine your most favorable and admirable traits to see when they were developed. What made you decide, intentionally or by default, to adopt your temperament, personality, and general approach to life?
On the flip side, what are some of your bad habits and less desirable character traits? What people or other factors influenced these qualities and behaviors to become your less than optimal self?
Take a good long and objective look at the company you keep. Where is it time for an upgrade? Where might you perhaps delete some viruses or other character software running in the background?
“Chains of habit are too light to be felt until they are too heavy to be broken.”
—Warren Buffett, chairman and CEO of Berkshire Hathaway
Image of USS Nimitz anchor from wikimedia
The USS Nimitz aircraft carrier needed some maintenance a few years ago. As part of this effort, the crew had to move its 60,000 pound anchor, and its 57-link chain. Each link weighs 350 pounds. Doing the math, each 90-foot “shot” of chain weighs about 20,000 pounds! By the way, it takes twelve “shots” collectively to hold this anchor.
What are the heavy chains of habit you have yet to break? Consider past New Year’s resolutions that started with enthusiasm and petered out come February.
The good news in that, as in the case with the Nimitz, when the crew came together they were able to move the heavy chains and anchor to get the job done. So can we.
Who are the supportive and helpful crew members on your personal and professional ships? How can they help you notice and become more aware of your habits early on, when they aren’t so heavy a burden?
“Make today so awesome that yesterday is jealous.”
Most mornings when I work out, if I’m not chatting with one of my fitness friends, I find myself watching ESPN’s Sports Center. I particularly look forward to the show’s Top 10 Plays of the Day, to see the awesome feats of athletic excellence.
Consider your life a sport. What awesome events and experiences would make your Top Ten list for this week, this month, and this year?
If your list is not quite as awesome as you would like, you are not alone. On a day-to-day basis, we all get caught up in our routines and habits. One day seems to run into the next, with few, if any, highlights.
How can and will you step up the level of awesomeness today, and perhaps make this effort a new habit, to make all of your yesterdays jealous?
“Do not bite at the bait of pleasure till you know there is no hook beneath it.”
—Thomas Jefferson (Letter to Maria Cosway, October 1786)
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Pleasure seeking and pain avoidance are two of the biggest drivers for most people.
Take a look for yourself at a typical day or maybe a full week to see just how true this may be for you.
Dig deep into your daily habits and rituals at home and work to explore your behaviors in the morning, mid-day, and into the evening. How do your habits and rituals differ heading into the weekend or even as you engage in the holidays and vacation time?
Generate a list of 5-10 behaviors or habits that have a considerable downside or hook beneath their initial pleasure. How would reducing or eliminating one or two make a meaningful difference in your life?
To what degree do you give yourself the seal of approval for who you are and what you do?
These questions are intended to gain an objective perspective on your current habits because in many ways, we are our habits for both better or worse.
One way to get a clearer picture of your own habits is to observe others in your personal and professional communities. Who do you admire and respect? What habits do they exemplify in their daily pursuits?
Conversely, who are the people you dislike or feel critical toward? What habits do they have that cause you to feel this way?
What is a bad habit you want to eliminate or replace with a good habit? Which of your good habits could be even better?
Consider reading Charles Duhigg’s 2012 book, The Power of Habit, to help you form yourself into the person you aspire to be.
“Leave the familiar for a while. Change rooms in your mind for a day.”
—Hafiz, 14th Century Persian Poet
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One of my favorite quotes is, “When patterns are broken, new worlds will emerge,” by Tuli Kupferberg. In a nutshell, it points to a primary reason the coaching process works to support all kinds of professional and personal change initiatives.
Unfortunately, this can be quite difficult due to entrenched ways of thinking and acting that have become habituated over many years.
The good news, supported through today’s quote, is that we all can begin to grow and change by taking baby steps rather than quantum leaps, to better our worlds.
Experiment today by intentionally deviating from the familiar in your thoughts and actions. Please consider replying to this post regarding what occurs when you change things up a bit.