“In all affairs, it’s a healthy thing now and then to hang a question mark on the things you have taken for granted.”
—Bertrand Russell, 20th Century British Philosopher
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Did you do a year-in-review assessment for 2022?
If you did, where did you notice things not progressing as you had wished? You may have even noticed some areas regressing.
If this is the case, it may be because we keep doing and thinking the same things over and over since they worked reasonably well in the past.
So many things around us have changed in the past year. When we remain fundamentally the same, it’s not surprising that a good number of our efforts miss the mark.
Questioning our thinking and adapting our behaviors accordingly seems like a wiser strategy for the year ahead.
In what areas of life would a few more question marks help you break some of your personal patterns so that new worlds may emerge?
“If you have a pulse, you have a purpose.”
—Richard Leider, Faculty member of the Modern Elder Academy
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Ask yourself the following questions:
- Am I doing what I love to do?
- Is what I do helpful to others?
- Does it energize me or drain me?
Consider modifying these closed questions to open ended questions such as….
- How often do I get to do what I love?
- How are my efforts helpful to others?
- How energized and alive do I feel when engaged in these activities?
What are some ways you can and will increase your heart rate to live an even more inspired and purposeful life?
“The marvelous thing about a good question is that it shapes our identity as much by the asking as it does by answering.”
—David Whyte, Anglo-Irish poet
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What are some of the questions you have been asking yourself and others over the past couple of years?
As a lifelong learner, I marvel at the power and insights offered by provocative open-ended questions. These tools dig below the surface of our day-to-day experiences to uncover new depths of understanding of one another and the world.
In the coaching profession we often say “let your questions do the heavy lifting.” The surprising thing for me, based on Whyte’s quote, is that both parties can be shaped through these exchanges.
What are some of your favorite “stop you in your tracks” questions?
How have these questions shaped your identity and opened up pathways for you?
Two books I’ve found very useful on this subject are A More Beautiful Question by Warren Berger and The Coaching Habit by Michael Bungay Stainer.
“Has the most important thing changed? Am I chasing an outdated target?”
—James Clear, author, entrepreneur, and photographer
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Today’s quote contains two closed-ended questions. Did you answer yes or no to either or both?
Let’s change them a bit to make them open-ended….
What important things in your life have changed in the past year?
Where are you chasing a goal or target that is no longer relevant or essential?
Explore both the open and closed-ended approaches with a friend, family member, mentor, or coach.
Please let me know what new insights and actions result from this inquiry.
“What was the key takeaway from the specific situation?”
—U.S. Dept. of Veteran Affairs: 100 Sample Interview Questions
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Of all the tools in a coach’s toolbox, none gets used more often than powerful questions. Open-ended question — those that begin with who, what, where, when, why, and how — are very handy in establishing and deepening relationships for the rest of us as well.
Today’s quote is commonly used by seasoned interviewers when evaluating candidates for various job opportunities. This question seeks to determine the applicant’s openness and receptivity to various inputs and types of feedback from significant experiences and events in their past.
How can and will you use today’s question to squeeze more teachable moments out of your communities? Please be sure to ask and answer the question yourself, to act as your own coach.
“Be grateful for people’s complaints. Turn a complaint into a question.”
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We all complain from time to time. I’m sure you see a bunch of whining and complaining within your various communities. How often do you think or even say some expletive aloud, to silence all the negativity?
Effective coaches and communicators know the value of questions, especially open-ended questions that can have the power of an “off” switch of negativity and an “on” switch of possibility.
Consider the following questions, and perhaps make up a few of your own:
- How would you like things to be?
- What could you do to improve the situation?
- What ideas do you have to resolve this issue?
- Where could you look for solutions to this challenge?
- What alternative approaches can be taken to improve things?
How can you find more silver linings and gratitude in the complaints you currently experience?
How can the right question at the right moment be used to move your world forward today?
“How will you put your mind and your time to good use?”
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“Good Question!” is a fairly frequent response I receive from the people I coach.
It says, to me, that we have hit on an area where looking more carefully or digging deeper would prove useful or interesting.
Warren Berger’s book, A More Beautiful Question: the power of inquiry to spark breakthrough ideas is one of my favorites on this topic.
Breakthroughs in our mind and our use of time may be two useful places to start.
For the next week, be your own coach. Ask and answer questions like the one that is today’s quote. Consider exploring your answers with others in your personal and professional communities. Consider capturing this heavy lifting in a journal or note book.
Please reply to this post and let me know how you put your mind and your time to good use.
“Questions can be like a lever you use to pry open the stuck lid on a paint can.”
—Fran Peavey, late political Author
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Michael Bungay Stainer is a masterful coach whom I greatly admire. I’ve read most of his books and look forward to his daily “Great Work Provocation” blog, which you can explore for yourself at https://boxofcrayons.com/great-work-provocations-series/. His most recent work – The Coaching Habit – includes seven core questions that can help all of us pry open the lids of new possibilities in both our personal and professional worlds. I fully agree that the seven questions provided below will help us all say less, ask more, change the way we lead our lives, and better support those we wish to serve.
- The Kickstart Question: What’s on your mind?
- The AWE Question: And What Else?
- The Focus Question: What’s the real challenge here for you?
- The Foundation Question: What do you want?
- The Lazy Question: How can I help?
- The Strategic Question: If you are saying Yes to this, what are you saying No to?
- The Learning Question: What was most useful for you?
Please consider applying these questions to build your own coaching habit to open up your relationships and your world and lead a more vibrant and beautiful life.
You can also learn more about Michael’s books and his work at www.boxofcrayons.biz
“A question is a magnet… it draws information to you.”
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Children love the game of Hide and Seek. They are always curious about their surroundings. If you have been around kids lately, you have most likely been the recipient of a barrage of questions. They are human sponges, hoping to absorb as much information as possible to seek the hidden mysteries of their worlds.
Powerful questions are among the most important tools used by coaches, leaders, managers, parents, and other supportive individuals. Open-ended questions – those which cannot be answered with simple “yes” or “no” – tend to be the most magnetic.
How can you exercise and discover more of your own youthful curiosity to seek and find more answers to life’s most urgent and important questions?
One of my favorite books on this subject is A More Beautiful Question by Warren Berger.
FRIDAY REVIEW: QUESTIONS
How often do you question the things you hear or read? Here are a few posts about questions you may have missed. Click the links to read the full message.
“There is more than one right answer.”
“When I look back in five years, which of these options will make the best story?”
“A wise man’s questions contain half the answer.”