“The glass ceiling doesn’t apply when you’re building your own house.”
—Heidi Roizen, American Venture Capitalist and Entrepreneur
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Did you know that if you place a bunch of fleas in a jar with a glass lid they will eventually stop trying to jump out even if you remove the lid?
Glass ceilings — and ceilings in general — seem to be a fact of life where the world and even we, ourselves, place limits on how high and how far we can soar.
What do some of these limitations sound like when you hear them from family members, friends, colleagues and even your own inner voice?
In recent years, people have pursued their own personal and professional paths, cleared of many of these ceilings, letting new horizons and sunnier futures of their own creation occur.
Where in your worlds are you limited by glass ceilings?
How can you courageously break through these barriers to have a custom-made house, built just for you?
“We all have our limitations, but when we listen to our critics, we also have theirs.”
—Robert Brault, American freelance writer
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One of the very first personal development programs I attended in my early twenties was Dr. Wayne Dyer’s How to Be A No-Limit Person.
I had recently graduated from college, was just married and entering the working world with great anticipation and excitement. Dyer’s message of being a no-limit person was just the boost I needed to bring my full energy, enthusiasm, and drive to my efforts.
Along the way, I ran into numerous professional and personal speed bumps.
Doubts and discouragement definitely caused me to not shoot as often or as high as before.
Unfortunately, I also began listening to others who put a few more mental barriers in my way, based on their own self-imposed limitations and biases.
Where and on what personal or professional matter are you being limited by your own views or the views of others?
What bold and courageous actions can and will you take to be the no-limit person you want to be?
“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.”
—Lao Tzu, Chinese philosopher
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We all want to be ‘right’ – to have the correct answer, to know the truth. We think that will bring us clarity, stability, and peace of mind.
But what if being ‘right’ only serves to put us in a safe and limiting box?
When we define something, we limit it. Perhaps we could instead distinguish ourselves by being open to the possibility of who we could be rather than placing limits on who we are.
How and in what ways can you disengage from self-limiting beliefs?
If you find this difficult, ask a family member or close friend for their perspective.
“If you see the world in black and white, you’re missing important grey matter.”
—Jack Fyock, PhD, Market Strategies International
When was the last time you had a conversation with a friend, colleague, or family member in which they responded to a statement with “I know”? Not the “I know” that is agreeing with the statement. This is the “I Know!” that indicates they have fundamentally stopped listening and have stuffed what you are saying into a pre-existing black/white category in their mind.
Ask those in your life how often you step into this “I Know” world — we all do this to help simplify our lives and navigate our world with greater ease. Alternatively, as Fyock suggests, we may be missing much of life by not using all of our grey matter to experience the many shades of grey an expansive and diverse life can offer.
Imagine you were an artist who only had black and white paint to work with, and there was a rule forbidding you from mixing them together.
Now remove this limitation and paint away.
How can reducing your black and white “I Know” thinking expand your cerebral canvas to lead a more diverse and expansive life?