“More people would learn from their mistakes if they weren’t so busy denying them.”
—Dan Sullivan, founder and president of The Strategic Coach Inc.
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Having a bias for being right and making others wrong seems to be one of the fundamental challenges facing the majority of people throughout history. Although most of us prefer to consider ourselves self-aware and open-minded, we often fall into the trap of seeing the mistakes of others far more often than viewing our own shortcomings.
Instead of closing our eyes to our own responsibilities for certain failures, what if we could shift our perspective from one of embarrassment and shame to one of learning and growth? How would this support the courage it takes to be vulnerable in those moments we fall short in our efforts?
Where and on what life issue are you, or perhaps someone you know, in denial about a significant mistake? What would be the benefit if you or they would more frequently embrace the life changing magic and important lessons in such situations?
“Creativity is inventing, experimenting, growing, risk-taking, breaking rules, making mistakes, and having fun.”
—Mary Lou Cook, late Peace Activist
During the Personal Excellence Workshop that begins each of my coaching programs, my clients list their personal strengths. I am somewhat surprised that less than half of them include creativity in their list.
When prompted about their level of creativity, they humbly deflect, stating things like, “On Occasion / Not Really,” or “That is why I do _____ for a living.”
I suggest that we all are far more creative than we believe and that we all create our lives each and every day, for better or for worse.
How can you take Mary Lou Cook’s coaching to increase your daily level of inventing, experimenting, risk-taking, rule breaking, and mistake making to expand your creative capacity and make your life a lot more fun?
“One thorn of experience is worth a whole wilderness of warning.”
—James Russell Lowell, 20th Century American poet, critic, and diplomat
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Perhaps the single most significant reason the coaching profession has grown to over a $2 billion industry is the fact that it focuses a great degree on experiential learning. Although there is still a substantial value in telling and showing, it seems the stickiness and sustainability of the lesson comes from experiencing things firsthand, where we actually get on the field, run a few plays, and see what happens.
Where and how can you include far more experiential learning opportunities to help you progress even further in your life?
“The life you have led doesn’t need to be the only life you have.”
—Anna Quindlen, American author and journalist
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One of my favorite movies is Ground Hog Day with Bill Murray. I always laugh as he lives February 2nd over and over again.
Through countless chances, he tends to make many of the same mistakes over and over, which leaves him in the same place as the previous day.
Eventually, he learns that his future can be altered for the better. By choosing actions that are consistent with his commitment, he takes new and better actions that lead him to a different future, where in the end, of course, he “gets the girl.”
Take the time today to examine the life you have lived and determine what you wish to continue and what you wish to change. Select a close friend, family member, mentor, or coach to examine what you discover. Consider developing a plan over at least 90 days, to make the coming years more fulfilling and remarkable.
Many years ago I attended a presentation by Benjamin Zander, who, along with his wife, authored “The Art of Possibility”.
At the time, he was also the conductor of the Boston Philharmonic, where he worked with and literally orchestrated the talents of some of the finest young musicians in the world.
His presentation was light, joyful, and even a bit zany. Of particular note was his suggestion that instead of trying to always do things perfectly, we allow and delight in the learning that can occur from making occasional mistakes.
He coaches his proteges and helps them joyfully discover and learn from the mistakes along their artful journey toward musical mastery.
How can you bring your own lighthearted and even playful fascination to the efforts and mistakes you make on a daily basis to expand your own portals of personal and professional discovery?