We’re wired for novelty, but rewarded for repetition

“We’re wired for novelty, but rewarded for repetition.”

Shane Parrish, Author of the Farnum Street Blog

Image from Unsplash by Nubelson Fernandes

Humans are wired for the rush of novelty — our brains crave new experiences, surprises, and stimulation. This impulse fuels creativity and curiosity, yet it often distracts from the true rewards hidden in repetition.

Life doesn’t shower us with achievement every time we chase something new. Instead, real mastery, deep connection, and personal growth come through the steady rhythm of repeated effort and consistent behavior.

Repetition builds skill, transforms habits, and fosters meaningful relationships. Those daily rituals — showing up, practicing, listening, trying again — unlock compounding rewards far beyond the excitement of novelty.

What if the next breakthrough isn’t somewhere new, but in showing up again and again, for what matters most?

EXERCISE:

Investigate the books Atomic Habits by James Clear and Tiny Habits by BJ Fogg to learn how little repetitive steps can eventually become giant leaps in your life.

Leave room for the universe to work its magic

Leave room for the universe to work its magic. Seek surprises in serendipity.

—Calm App Reflection

 Image from Unsplash by Brooke Cagle

A couple of weeks ago we traveled about 90 miles from our home to the American Dream Mall outside New York City, with family and friends.

It happened to be my daughter’s birthday, and although I dislike crowds and shopping, I’d do anything for my daughter.

This mall rivals the Mall of America and contains dozens of attractions including an a Nickelodeon theme park, a DreamWorks waterpark, Legoland, a Sealife Aquarium, and an indoor Big Snow skiing facility.

Everything there was big, colorful and loud. It also happened to be a rainy Sunday which seemed to give everyone in the region the same idea.

EXERCISE:

How long has it been since you ventured out beyond your local world into the expanding universe?

How might doing so work its magic and surprise you in ways you never imagined?

The best mirror is a friend’s eye

“The best mirror is a friend’s eye.”

—Gaelic proverb

Rachel & Lesley (l) — Lesley & Ella (r)

My daughter Rachel’s best friend recently came for a surprise visit to see her, and to meet her new goddaughter, Ella.

Lesley and Rachel call each other Big Sis and Little Sis, and have been very close since grade school.

An elaborate plan for this visit was first orchestrated in November. With many of us playing our part, we accomplished the jaw dropping, tear-filled reunion.

Watching these two best friends reconnect over the next few days was a great gift for us as well.

EXERCISE:

Where and when have you experienced the value and joy of having a best friend? In what fun ways can you surprise them and show how very much they have meant to you over the years?