“When furious, get curious.”
– Author Unknown
It seems like there is a lot of anger in the world these days. Consider what you observe each day in such areas as our roadways, parking lots, social media, television – especially news programming – politics, the workplace, and even in our own homes.
How often are you the direct recipient of this anger? How often might you be a contributor to it?
Anger can be seen as the outcome of some triggered portion of our comfort zones, based on past experiences or events. The quote above is suggesting that instead of allowing the trigger to automatically generate an anger response, we enter a state of inquiring and curiosity to see what is behind this response – thus resulting in a more workable and peaceful solution.
Pay particular attention today when you observe yourself (and others) getting angry. Ask yourself one or more of the following questions to engage your inquiring mind and observe what happens:
- What emotions and feelings am I experiencing right now?
- What is occurring that is triggering these emotions?
- When else has that occurred in the past, and what was the end result of my response?
- What alternative responses are possible that will result in a more satisfactory outcome?
Consider picking up a copy of Susan Scott’s book Fierce Conversations to explore additional techniques that can assist you in similar situations.