You are bigger than your urges

You are bigger than your urges.

—Calm App Reflection

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How true is today’s statement for you? How often do you seek pleasure and avoid discomfort?

What’s in it for us since delayed gratification is challenging and procrastination seems to pay off immediately?

When we give in to our urges there always seems to be a payoff.

These payoffs perpetuate the cycle of giving in to future urges. Unfortunately, there is often a hidden cost we don’t see until it’s late in the game and coming back is even more difficult.


Reflect on the urges you experience throughout a typical day.

Examine both the costs and payoffs associated when you give into these feelings.

How would reevaluating the cost/payoff ratio help you become bigger than many of these urges in the future?

“The gratification comes in the doing, not in the result.”

“The gratification comes in the doing, not in the result.”

– James Dean, American actor


Image from Flickr by Terry Madeley

My son, Dan, is a very special person for many reasons. From the time he was a little boy, he was always fascinated by many forms of mechanical and computer related activities. Dan would literally lose himself in the process of building things with K’nex, Legos, and various other objects or building kits.

He even wrote, illustrated, and self-published his first animal book at age 5. In high school, Dan participated in the robotic club and in college, he was a member of the programming and video game design club, where he would sometimes work 48 hours straight over a weekend to help create a new game.

Today, Dan is a top computer programmer working for one of the most respected health care software development firms in the world.

His vocational and even some avocational software design and programming efforts bring Dan great gratification in the “doing.” This has been and continues to be his passion.


What vocational and avocational activities bring you the greatest gratification and satisfaction in the “doing”, not simply in the result?

How can you do even more of these activities to enhance your professional and personal life?