“It is far more impressive when others discover your qualities without your help.”

—Miss Manners (Judith Martin), American journalist, author, and etiquette authority

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Someone wise once told me that if you say something nice about yourself it is bragging, yet if others say the very same thing about you, it is the truth!

In my years of coaching, I have seen that there is no single critical factor more important to the building and sustaining of relationships than a genuine interest in others.

Those individuals who focus on themselves and being interesting rather than interested tend to repel people in their professional and personal lives.


How can you channel your effort and attention in the genuine service of others without calling attention to yourself, and allow others, if and when appropriate, to acknowledge and appreciate your efforts?

Also consider heightening your own focus and awareness on the remarkable qualities of others. Don’t be surprised if they reciprocate!