“Who in your life deserves a sincere apology and a shift in your behavior?”
—Calm App Reflection
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Apologizing is an act of generosity. It acknowledges a wrongdoing and seeks to make amends. We cannot change the past, but a sincere apology and a request for forgiveness can create the foundation for a better future.
Make note of the word “can.”
Words alone without a definitive and observable change in behavior aren’t usually enough to mend life’s fences for long.
To whom might you owe a sincere apology? What do you plan to say and what new promises regarding your future behavior will make things right?
“Life becomes easier when you learn to accept an apology you never got.”
—Robert Brault, American Freelance Writer
We all recognize that life can be difficult at times. Take a few moments and look into your past, to a time when someone wronged you, personally or professionally. Examine all the details of this event to see if it still has any grip on you, especially if you never received a proper apology.
For many people, reliving such events in their minds can be particularly upsetting and painful, even if the occurrence happened years or decades ago.
How could you make your life easier and travel lighter by developing the talent to accept apologies you never received?
“Never ruin an apology with an excuse.”
—Ben Franklin, American Founding Father
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Don’t ever add the word “But” to an apology. The act of making excuses or justifying your actions has you actually blaming the other person for your poor behavior rather than offering a genuine apology.
Here are a few suggestions to consider when apologizing:
- Beginning your apology with the words, “I’m Sorry,” or “I Apologize” expresses genuine remorse. Make sure you do this as soon as possible.
- Put yourself in the other person’s shoes and imagine how they felt. The ability to empathize with others makes it far easier to admit responsibility.
- Take action to make the situation right. You can ask the person you wronged what you could do, beyond your apology, to make things right.
- Promising that you won’t repeat the action or behavior helps rebuild trust in the relationship.
Examine a situation in which you can summon the courage to offer a sincere apology to someone who matters in your life, personally or professionally.
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