Try a little tenderness. Direct kindness to yourself and others throughout the day. We all need it!

Try a little tenderness. Direct kindness to yourself and others throughout the day. We all need it!

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When I hear the word tenderness my initial thoughts go to meat. I remember as a child my mom shaking a canister of Adolph’s meat tenderizer over various cuts of meat, especially those that required a bit more molar action.

These days I think about babies and young children and how we adults act around them and their innocent natures. Noticing our efforts at baby talk and delicate handling, these precious little ones get the lion share of our tenderness and kind attention.

EXERCISE:

Where and with whom could you offer a little more tenderness? How can you be even kinder and more generous with your softer side?

“Who in your life deserves a sincere apology and a shift in your behavior?”

“Who in your life deserves a sincere apology and a shift in your behavior?”

—Calm App Reflection

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Apologizing is an act of generosity. It acknowledges a wrongdoing and seeks to make amends. We cannot change the past, but a sincere apology and a request for forgiveness can create the foundation for a better future.

Make note of the word “can.”

Words alone without a definitive and observable change in behavior aren’t usually enough to mend life’s fences for long.

EXERCISE:

To whom might you owe a sincere apology? What do you plan to say and what new promises regarding your future behavior will make things right?

Every little bit helps

Every little bit helps.

—Calm App Reflection

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What small deed will you perform today to improve someone’s life?

Performing small acts of kindness and generosity is our birthright. Small gestures — even if they go unnoticed — move mountains as they contribute to the people and communities we care about.

Going small and going big are both ways of going.

Everything counts.

EXERCISE:

What small deed can and will you perform today to improve someone’s life?
What would making this a daily habit bring to you and your world?

Friday Review: Generosity

Friday Review: GENEROSITY

How can and will you demonstrate a generous spirit over the coming months? Here are a few related posts you may have missed.

“Ideas, bread, and books are all the same. They’re better when they are shared.”

 

 

 

“Run marathons in the footwear of others.”

 

 

 

“Be frugal and generous.”

 

 

 

 

“Be frugal and generous.”

“Be frugal and generous.”

—Laszlo Bock, author of Work Rules

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The pandemic and its economic repercussions have caused many a family and business to tighten their belts. Being mindful of diminishing or scarce resources has created levels of frugality not seen since the Great Depression.

At the same time, this shared experience has spurred many to extraordinary acts of generosity and selflessness to support those in need.

What examples of frugality and generosity have you observed in your personal and professional communities? Where have you been both frugal and generous at the same time?

EXERCISE:

What life lessons have you learned this past year regarding the virtues of frugality and generosity?

Please reply to this post to share your own stories and insights.

“Run marathons in the footwear of others.”

“Run marathons in the footwear of others.”

—Author Unknown

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Most of us have been taught to walk a mile in others shoes before we are quick to judge. If you have done this during the past year, how has it impacted your life and the way you treat others?

What if, instead of a mile of walking, you ran 26.2 miles in the footwear of some of these individuals, to more fully explore their difficulties and heartaches?

Have you ever watched a marathon in person, or seen the Olympic or Boston event? If so, you would have seen thousands of people lining the routes, encouraging and supporting each competitor to run the best race possible, and reach their goal.

EXERCISE:

How and in what ways can you more fully appreciate the marathons others are running in your world? How can and will you reach out more generously and compassionately to support their courageous efforts?

Friday Review: Generosity

FRIDAY REVIEW: GENEROSITY

How can and will you demonstrate a generous spirit over the coming months? Here are a few generosity-related posts you may have missed.

 

“One of the sanest, surest and most generous joys of life comes from being happy over the good fortune of others.”

 

 

 

 

“To have what you want, don’t want it—give it.”

 

 

 

 

“Ideas, bread, and books are all the same. They’re better when they are shared.”

 

 

 

 

“A level-headed person is one who doesn’t get dizzy doing good turns.”

“A level-headed person is one who doesn’t get dizzy doing good turns.”

—O.A. Battista, 20th Century Canadian-American chemist and author

Image from Unsplash by Dayne Topkin

There is no question that the world is a dizzying place these days. What has recently changed in your personal and professional communities that has turned your life upside down?

To help you stabilize your world and regain some footing, many folks are bringing new levels of empathy, compassion, and generosity to those around them. What good turns are you observing these days in your various communities?

EXERCISE:

How and in what ways can you both acknowledge and actively participate in these efforts to realize a more level-headed world?

Please reply to this post with some examples of the good turns you are seeing and doing to regain your footing.

“Ideas, bread, and books are all the same. They’re better when they are shared.”

“Ideas, bread, and books are all the same. They’re better when they are shared.”

—Seth Godin, American author/business executive

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Two popular holiday stories we all know quite well are A Christmas Carol, and How the Grinch Stole Christmas.

Both stories portray their main character as selfish and self-centered, focusing only on what’s in it for themselves.

As Adam Grant demonstrates in his well-researched book, Give and Take, these characters are definitely takers. They may win in some situations, but lose in the long run.

EXERCISE:

Where and with whom can you generously share your ideas, bread, and books, to have the happiest of holidays and a more richly rewarding new year?

“The charity that is a trifle to us can be precious to others.”

“The charity that is a trifle to us can be precious to others.”

—Homer, ancient Greek author of The Iliad and the Odyssey

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How often do you go out to eat? How often are your restaurant meals served by a waitperson?

What is your normal tip percentage for OK, good, or exceptional service?

In our early dating years, my wife Wendy was a waitress at a Friendly Restaurant outside of Philadelphia. Given this experience, she has always had a special place in her heart for kindhearted and caring servers who bring their authentic selves to their role, to make our dining experience special.

During our 40th anniversary dinner, she shared the story of a young waiter who really impressed her with his authenticity and character. Beyond her usual substantial tip, she handed him an extra 25 dollars to more fully acknowledge her delight in his service. This brought on a flood of tear from the young man.

EXERCISE:

Where might your current and future small charitable acts be even more precious to others than you realize? Where might an even more generous heart make a significant difference in your world today?