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“Just because you can doesn’t mean you should.”

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“Just because you can doesn’t mean you should.”

—Author Unknown

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You can say yes to every client, every project, every invitation. You can fill your calendar, your plate, and your mind until there’s no room left for you.

You can push your body past exhaustion and call it “commitment.”

The real question is not “Can I do this” but “Does this align with who I am and who I am becoming?”

Every yes that isn’t grounded in your values is a quiet no to your integrity, your health, and your happiness.

Today, dare to disappoint others before you betray yourself.

EXERCISE:

Consider reading “The Power of a Positive No” by William Ury. He shares a powerful three-step method for saying “no” in a way that protects your core needs while preserving important relationships and opening the door to better yeses.

“Never allow a person to tell you no who doesn’t have the power to say yes.”

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“Never allow a person to tell you no who doesn’t have the power to say yes.”

—Eleanor Roosevelt, longest-serving first lady of the United States

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Today’s quote is a refreshing reminder to choose wisely whose opinions shape our path.

Too often, we hand our energy to people who can’t see the full picture — or worse, can’t make a difference even if they wanted to.

Today’s nugget of wisdom nudges us to check the source before accepting rejection.

The next time someone tells you “No” pause and ask: Does this person even have the power to say “Yes”?

If not, keep going until you find someone who does. Life’s too short to stop at the wrong gatekeeper.

EXERCISE:

Treat each “No” as a chance to rethink your approach.

Sometimes rejection means the method needs tweaking, not abandoning the goal.

Be prepared to adjust your pitch, timing, or your audience to align better with what will get the “Yes” you want.

 

Your values are whatever you actually do

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“Your values are whatever you actually do. You don’t need clarity to start; you need to start to get clarity.”

—Eric Barker, author of Barking Up The Wrong Tree

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The truth is simple: your real values are revealed by your actions. What you choose, day after day, speaks louder than any good intention or thoughtful plan.

Don’t wait for perfect clarity before making your move — waiting often leads nowhere. Start where you are, with what matters most to you right now.

As you step forward, the fog lifts, and your path becomes more visible with every decision and habit. Meaning isn’t found in hesitation in the doing, but in the trying, and especially in the learning from each step. So, if you’re uncertain, begin anyway — the clarity you seek will grow out of action. Your journey defines your values, shaping tomorrow as you go.

EXERCISE:

Investigate your core values by exploring Brené Brown’s list of values from her book Dare to Lead.

Select the top 20, top 10, and top 3. Write and post the sentence “My three core values are ……….”

 

We often think that we want an open road

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“We often think that we want an open road and the ability to choose any direction for ourselves. But sometimes, what we need is a tunnel that can reduce our choices and send us in a focused direction.”

—James Clear, American Author

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The pursuit of endless possibilities often feels thrilling — a wide-open road promising freedom and self-determination.

Yet, in moments of overwhelm, too many choices can breed indecision and anxiety. Sometimes, what we truly need isn’t boundless options, but a tunnel: a clear path guiding us forward.

By narrowing our focus, we eliminate distractions and can pour our energy into meaningful progress. Constraints can be empowering, transforming what feels like limitation into a sharp sense of purpose.

EXERCISE:

Where might greater clarity and direction — a purposeful tunnel — offer you greater fulfillment than a wide-open road ever could?

Consider reading “The Paradox of Choice: Why More is Less” by Barry Schwartz for additional ways to combat the overwhelming abundance of choices we all face each day.

At crossroad moments consider which response will best produce the outcomes you desire

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At crossroad moments consider which response will best produce the outcomes you desire.

—Calm App Reflection

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Life is full of crossroads — moments when our choices shape our futures.

When standing before a big decision, pause and ask yourself: Which response will lead me closer to the outcome I truly desire?

Instead of acting on impulse or fear, step back, envision your goals, and let them guide you.

Sometimes, the brightest path isn’t the easiest or most obvious one, but the one that aligns best with your deepest aspirations. You have the power to choose not just your direction, but your attitude, as well.

Approach each crossroad with hope, clarity, and intention. Take a breath, trust yourself, and boldly choose the response that moves you toward the life you want.

EXERCISE:

Map your options using the Eisenhower Matrix: Categorize choices by urgency and importance.

This tool helps highlights which responses are most aligned with your goals and which are distractions, guiding clearer and more impactful decisions.

Friday Review: Choices

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Friday Review: CHOICES

What important choices have you made this year? Here are a few related posts you may have missed.

“I am the me I choose to be.”

 

 

 

 

 

“Don’t ever work for someone you don’t want to become.”

 

 

 

 

 

There are many paths to the same destination. When one path is blocked, we simply choose another. How many WAZE are available to you at this moment?

 

 

 

 

Better waves make better surfers.

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“Better waves make better surfers. Are you on the right beach?”

—Seth Godin, American author, marketing expert, and entrepreneur

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Today’s quote reminds us that much of our personal and professional growth depends on the challenges we face, just as surfers improve by riding bigger, more challenging waves.

We, too, develop skills and resilience by stepping out of our comfort zones.

It goes further to ask a crucial question: Are you in the right environment to grow?

Many times, staying in a familiar but stagnant place limits our potential. Finding the “right beach” means seeking opportunities that push you, inspire you, and help you evolve.

Whether in your career, relationships, or personal goals, choose the waves that challenge you to become better, embrace the right environment, and watch yourself grow and transform into a stronger, more skilled version of yourself.

EXERCISE:

To what degree are you surfing better waves on better beaches?

What actions can and will you take to be even more intentional about your growth trajectory?

When you meet someone who doesn’t make excuses

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“When you meet someone who doesn’t make excuses, who doesn’t complain, who just rolls up their sleeves and grits their teeth, the difference is night and day.”

—Dan Cullem, Product Manager at Facebook

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The person described in today’s quote owns their circumstances, no matter how tough the game gets.

They don’t sit back and hope for change, they make it happen. That grit, that relentless drive, separates the dreamers from the doers.

If you want to win in life, start by dropping the excuses and embrace life’s rough edges to smooth your path in the coming days.

EXERCISE:

Where in your life would not making excuses or complaining make the biggest difference?

What gritty roll-up-your sleeves efforts will you take today to rise above your current challenges?

Sooner or later we all sit down to a banquet of consequences.

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“Sooner or later we all sit down to a banquet of consequences.”

—Robert Louis Stevenson, 19th Century Scottish novelist, essays, and poet

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Today’s quote is a powerful reminder that our choices — big and small — ultimately shape our lives.

It encourages us to see every decision as a seed planted for the future. Some yield sweet fruit, while others may bring lessons wrapped in challenges.

The “banquet” is not just about judgement — it’s an invitation to take responsibility and learn from our actions.

In the process of coaching, we focus on intentionality, choosing wisely, acting with integrity, and embracing accountability.

When we reflect on our daily choices, it’s helpful to ask: What kind of banquet am I preparing for myself and other?

Your future self will thank you for the care you take today.

EXERCISE:

In what ways do you accept and demonstrate accountability and responsibility in your personal and professional life?

How does embracing these qualities provide a banquet of positive consequences for yourself and others☹?

When you find yourself at a fork in the road

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When you find yourself at a fork in the road, do you decide or slide?

—Calm App Reflection

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Today’s quote prompts us to reflect on our decision-making processes.

In life, we often encounter moments in which choices must be made. Deciding involves taking control, weighing options, and moving forward with intention.

Sliding, on the other hand, can lead to missed opportunities and regret by mindlessly staying the course we happen to be on.

Embracing decision-making empowers us to shape our futures and grow from our experiences.

By choosing to decide, we assert our agency and move closer to our goals, fostering personal growth and fulfillment.

Our choices define our journey.

EXERCISE:

Where are you at a critical juncture in your life?

Where can intentional decision making versus passively drifting through life’s choices make all the difference?