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When you’re good at something

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“When you’re good at something, you’ll tell everyone. When you’re great at something, they’ll tell you.”

—Walter Payton, 20th Century American Football Pro

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Our quote today deeply resonates with anyone striving for excellence — in business, sports, or personal growth.

True expertise speaks for itself, transcending the need for self-promotion.

As a coach, I’ve seen how genuine confidence comes not from boasting, but from consistent quality work.

It’s the difference between fleeting bravado and lasting impact.

In a world quick to celebrate overt achievement, Payton’s words remind us to pursue mastery with humility and persistence.

Let your actions elevate you above the noise, and trust that others will recognize excellence on its own terms.

That’s a lesson beyond performance — it’s about character, integrity, and the quiet power of being truly great.

EXERCISE:

In what ways do you demonstrate the character and integrity to let your actions speak louder than words?

What people in your world set a great example of these qualities, to guide and coach you to be an even better version of yourself?

“Trust is earned in drops and lost in buckets.”

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“Trust is earned in drops and lost in buckets.”

—Attributed to several people, including Kevin Kelly and Keven Plank

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Today’s quote is a poignant reminder of the delicate nature of trust.

Building trust requires consistent effort and reliability, with each small act contributing to a reservoir of faith.

Even a single betrayal, however, can drain this reservoir instantly, highlighting how fragile trust can be.

This principle underscores the importance of maintaining integrity and transparency in our relationships.

By recognizing the value of trust and the ease with which it can be lost, we can strive to nurture it with care and honesty, fostering stronger and more resilient personal and professional connections.

EXERCISE:

Consider reading The Speed of Trust by Stephen Covey and The Trusted Advisor by David H. Maister.  I’d also be happy to send you a copy of my trust-o-meter assessment if you email me at barry@dempcoaching.com

Moral authority comes from following universal principles

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“Moral authority comes from following universal principles like honesty, integrity, and treating people with respect.”

—Stephen Covey, 20th century American educator, author, businessman, and speaker

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I looked up the definitions of Moral Authority and Power to see where and how they are being applied in our society.

Here is what I discovered:

Moral Authority is the influence one has based on ethical principles and character, allowing them to inspire or persuade others by appealing to what is right and good. It is internally generated, fragile, and most continuously earned through trust and authentic behavior.

Power, in contrast, often refers to the ability to enforce actions or decisions through formal authority or control over people and resources. It can be granted by position or title, and is more about control than influence.

While power can compel action, moral authority persuades through ethical appeal.

EXERCISE:

How do you react and respond to individuals with moral authority versus power in your personal and professional lives?

What approaches do you find work best to influence or persuade others to follow your lead?

In looking for people to hire, you look for three qualities

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“In looking for people to hire, you look for three qualities: integrity, intelligence, and energy — and if they don’t have the first, the other two will kill you.”

—Warren Buffett, American businessman, investor, and philanthropist

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Warren Buffett has a pretty good record as an investor over many decades. A critical aspect in selecting great companies is to invest in the character and capacities of their leaders.

Hiring super smart people with boundless energy is certainly important. Buffett is adamant that the linchpin quality for these companies and their leaders — especially during challenging times — is integrity.

Without honesty and consistent adherence to strong moral and ethical principles and values, things eventually fall apart.

EXERCISE:

How important is integrity in your hiring decisions and in those with whom you work?

How do you demonstrate personal and professional integrity in your words and actions to be a sure-fire hire in your communities?

Consider reading the book Linchpin by Seth Godin for other ideas on this critical subject.

What gets us into trouble is not what we don’t know

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“What gets us into trouble is not what we don’t know, it’s what we know for sure that just ain’t so.”

—Mark Twain, pen name of Samuel Langhorne Clemens

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Where do you get your news about national and world events?

I asked my new AI App Perplexity for its response to the most objective and trusted news sources, and here are the results:

  • Associated Press: known for neutral language and fact-based reporting.
  • Reuters: Focuses on comprehensive unbiased coverage of global news.
  • BBC: offers balanced reporting with a broad range of topics
  • PBS Newshour: recognized for its factual reporting and public trust
  • The Weather Channel: Consistently ranked as the most trusted news source in the U.S.

EXERCISE:

In addition to the other go-to sources of news we often visit, how might adding a few of these outlets increase the journalistic integrity and minimize the bias we often receive?

Friday Review: Integrity

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Friday Review: Integrity

How do you define integrity in yourself and in others? Here are a few related posts you may have missed.

“Whenever you do a thing, act as if all the world were watching.”

 

 

 

“Live so that when your children think of fairness, caring, and integrity, they think of you.”

 

 

 

“You can lean over backwards so far that you can fall flat on your face.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

“You can lean over backwards so far that you can fall flat on your face.”

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“You can lean over backwards so far that you can fall flat on your face.”

—Ben H. Bagdkian, American educator and journalist

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Are you a pushover? How often do you let others in your world take advantage of you?

Where have you become so flexible to the intentions and interests of others that you have lost your backbone and sense of self?

Let’s face it—It is impossible to get everyone to like us. If you have tried to do so by bending over backwards, accommodating what other want, you are destined to fall flat on your face or at least lose your way.

EXERCISE:

Where and with whom in your world is it time to straighten and strengthen your backbone?

Where would a boost of personal integrity and resolve to live life on your terms have others look to you for leadership in your various communities?

“Live so that when your children think of fairness, caring, and integrity, they think of you.”

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“Live so that when your children think of fairness, caring, and integrity, they think of you.”

—H. Jackson Brown Jr., Author of Life’s Little Instruction Book

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Everyone is watching! Your friends, colleagues, and especially your children are always keeping tabs on you. They don’t miss a trick.

What do they see and hear? How pleased would you be if you were forced to binge watch the last 24 hours of your life?

Over the past few months our two adult children have been our coaches and partners as we prepare to move from Michigan to Pennsylvania to be closer to family and friends. It is very gratifying to quietly sit back and see their generous examples of fairness, caring, and integrity coming back full circle.

EXERCISE:

How and in what ways is your own good example the best coaching you can offer your children and others in your personal and professional communities?

FRIDAY REVIEW: INTEGRITY

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FRIDAY REVIEW: INTEGRITY

How do you define integrity in yourself and in others? Here are a few integrity-related posts you may have missed.

 

“Be impeccable with your word. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.”

 

 

“Never go to a doctor whose office plants have died.”

 

 

 

 

“Bad company corrupts good character.”

 

 

 

 

 

“What is the cost of not doing what you say?”

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“What is the cost of not doing what you say?”

—Author Unknown

What is your relationship to the character trait of integrity?

How do you relate to others who are more talk and less action?

To what degree can you be counted on in both good and challenging times?

What oaths, vows, promises, and other commitments have you made over the years in which your integrity was impeccable?

What has it cost you and those around you when your ratio of saying to doing exceeds the number one?

One place to look is in the area of trust and its impact on the important relationships in your life.

EXERCISE:

Please check out my Trust-o-Meter Assessment to explore potential ways you may wish to bolster your integrity and strengthen the trusting relationships you desire.