“Trust is a product of vulnerability that grows over time and requires work, attention, and full engagement. Trust isn’t a grand gesture — it’s a growing marble collection.”
—Brene Brown, American research professor, lecturer, and author
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The development of trusting relationships is considered by most people a highly worthy pursuit. Considering how it might be metaphorically related to a marble collection intrigued me.
As a boy, I never collected marbles although I played with them from time to time. For me, it was bottle caps and baseball cards. Examining my efforts, to shoot, flip, and throw these objects with increased mastery, I can recall the various friendships surrounding these times. The connections with the kids in the neighborhood had a richness that went well beyond us simply growing our collections.
What are some of the ways you develop and grow your own treasured collection of trusting relationships? Consider reviewing my trust-o-meter assessment for additional ideas to grow in this area.
“Truth does not carry within itself an antidote to falsehood. The cause of truth must be championed and it must be championed dynamically.”
—William F. Buckley Jr., 20th Century American author and commentator
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Where do you get your news? Who are the people and what are the sources you trust? What are some of the sources that bend the truth, provide widely divergent views and spins on current events, in pursuit of their own agenda?
In the past—and to some extent today—I was foolish enough to believe that the truth would always set us all free and that it was indeed the antidote to any falsehood.
These days, the truth itself does not always matter enough to set things right, given the many other divergent perspectives being advocated.
Where are you dynamically championing the truth in your various personal and professional communities? How can you better apply a “trust but verify” approach to the many sources of information coming your way?
“Jump, and you will find out how to unfold your wings as you fall.”
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Imagine your life if you were a baby bird. Once you emerge from your shell, you begin taking in the outer world. In the beginning, all seems pretty safe and calm within the nest. Mom and Dad bring tasty bugs and critters to eat, and perhaps you have to fight a few siblings to get your share.
With all this food, you and your family grow, and the nest that was once safe and cozy gets a bit crowded. It is time for Mom and Dad to become empty-nesters!
Where and when have you had baby bird moments in your life? Explore the numerous times you needed to jump and unfold your wings as you began to fall, then soared to higher heights.
What personal or professional growth opportunities are calling you? When will you take the leap so that your life can continue to unfold?
“Tell a lie once and all your truths become questionable.”
Who are the people in your professional and personal life that you trust implicitly? How do they rate in terms of honesty and integrity?
Alternatively, who are those you do not trust? To what degree do these people stretch the truth, exaggerate, or simply out-and-out lie in order to look good, avoid accountability, or pursue other self-centered objectives?
Trusting relationships are the foundation of strong personal and professional partnerships, and this strength can easily be broken. Once observed, future doubt tends to creep in and undermine what may have taken many years to build.
What can and will you do to strengthen, repair, or rebuild the level of trust with those closest to you?
Consider checking out my Trust-o-Meter Assessment for some strategies that may help.
“You own an army if you know how to win people’s trust and support.”
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Social capitalism and masterful networking are cornerstone skills of many successful people. Take a moment to examine the variety of people who have trusted and supported your personal and professional efforts up to this point in your life.
In his book, Achieving Success Through Social Capital, Dr. Wayne Baker documents the fundamentally understood concept that relationships are valuable not just qualitatively, but also quantifiably. When others help us, we tend to reciprocate by making efforts to help them.
With this giving and supportive perspective in mind, we can all build and foster our own armies to support our personal and professional objectives. We can also act as foot soldiers in the armies of our supporters.
Consider checking out Wayne Baker’s book, or email me and I will send you a PDF copy of my Masterful Networking Workbook, which can be read in 15-20 minutes.
“What is the cost of not doing what you say?”
What is your relationship to the character trait of integrity?
How do you relate to others who are more talk and less action?
To what degree can you be counted on in both good and challenging times?
What oaths, vows, promises, and other commitments have you made over the years in which your integrity was impeccable?
What has it cost you and those around you when your ratio of saying to doing exceeds the number one?
One place to look is in the area of trust and its impact on the important relationships in your life.
Please check out my Trust-o-Meter Assessment to explore potential ways you may wish to bolster your integrity and strengthen the trusting relationships you desire.
“Trust one who has tried.”
—Virgil, ancient Roman poet of the Augustan period
What criteria do you use to determine someone’s trustworthiness?
Select a particular person from your professional or personal community. Using the following questions, rate them on a scale of one to four, with four being high:
- Is consistent and dependable
- Is more focused on others than self
- Is a good listener
- Keeps personal confidences and avoids gossip
- Shows genuine care for others
- Exhibits honesty and integrity
- Is a win-win, consensus builder
Also ask yourself if this person walks their talk, even in the face of obstacles and challenges.
How would you rate yourself – or better yet – how would others rate you on the same trustworthiness scale? How can you always demonstrate yourself as one who would not ask others to do something you hadn’t tried yourself?