“You can lean over backwards so far that you can fall flat on your face.”
—Ben H. Bagdkian, American educator and journalist
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Are you a pushover? How often do you let others in your world take advantage of you?
Where have you become so flexible to the intentions and interests of others that you have lost your backbone and sense of self?
Let’s face it—It is impossible to get everyone to like us. If you have tried to do so by bending over backwards, accommodating what other want, you are destined to fall flat on your face or at least lose your way.
Where and with whom in your world is it time to straighten and strengthen your backbone?
Where would a boost of personal integrity and resolve to live life on your terms have others look to you for leadership in your various communities?
Everyone is watching! Your friends, colleagues, and especially your children are always keeping tabs on you. They don’t miss a trick.
What do they see and hear? How pleased would you be if you were forced to binge watch the last 24 hours of your life?
Over the past few months our two adult children have been our coaches and partners as we prepare to move from Michigan to Pennsylvania to be closer to family and friends. It is very gratifying to quietly sit back and see their generous examples of fairness, caring, and integrity coming back full circle.
How and in what ways is your own good example the best coaching you can offer your children and others in your personal and professional communities?
“Whenever you do a thing, act as if all the world were watching.”
—Thomas Jefferson, 3rd President of the United States
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Thomas Jefferson was an American statesman, diplomat, lawyer, architect, and Founding Father who served as the third President of the United States from 1801 to 1809. He was the principle author of the Declaration of Independence and a significant proponent of democracy, republicanism, and individual rights.
Today’s quote points to the importance of personal character, honesty, and integrity in holding each other to the highest standards of personal conduct.
What might Jefferson think about our world today, where, for all intents and purposes, the world really is watching our every move?
How pleased and proud are you regarding your personal and professional conduct? Where is there room for higher standards you wish to live by and show the world?
Who have been the most influential people throughout your life, helping to shape your character?
Examine your most favorable and admirable traits to see when they were developed. What made you decide, intentionally or by default, to adopt your temperament, personality, and general approach to life?
On the flip side, what are some of your bad habits and less desirable character traits? What people or other factors influenced these qualities and behaviors to become your less than optimal self?
Take a good long and objective look at the company you keep. Where is it time for an upgrade? Where might you perhaps delete some viruses or other character software running in the background?
“A lie can travel halfway around the world while the truth is putting on its shoes.”
—Charles Spurgeon, 19th Century English Preacher
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Over the past year or so, most of us have become aware of the dramatic increase in “Fake News.” During the 2016 U.S. Presidential election, various news outlets went to considerable lengths to disentangle the outright lies and half truths, and get to the facts.
Unfortunately, on many occasions, the truth seems far less interesting than the fake news. Since all media outlets seek greater attention and higher ratings, the path to the truth can be slow and laborious.
Where and on what matters can and will you “lace up” the truth in your personal or professional communities, to bring far greater integrity to the world?
“Live in such a way that you would not be ashamed to sell your parrot to the town gossip.”
—Will Rogers, 20th Century American Cowboy Humorist
Image from Flickr by Martin Pettitt
Did you know that parrots experience peer pressure? Just like humans, they desire to fit in with others in their group. This is one reason they learn to copy the sounds and language of the people around them.
This morning at the gym one of the other regulars was talking with a trainer. I was shocked by the level of vulgarity, back-stabbing, and general gossip in their conversation, especially being in a public place.
How do your actions and use of language stand up to the parrot test? What adjustments might you make to have the town gossip say only good things, or at the very least, say nothing about you?