One of the main reasons I enjoy the coaching profession is that it is a very hopeful way of relating with others. We are constantly exploring new and different approaches to better our lives and have a more fulfilling future.
To this end, I encourage you to pursue the two-way street of being a coach for others and having a variety of coaches to support your own evolving life.
Identify one of your unique abilities or special talents and share it with someone in your world who could benefit.
Select a specific area of growth and development you most desire. Secure a coach, mentor, or other individual to support your progress in this area.
“A teacher affects eternity; he can never tell where his influence stops.”
—Henry Brooks Adams, American historian and member of the Adams political family
Photo from Flickr by Anne Adrian
Among the core values explored and discussed with my clients is their fundamental desire and passion to contribute to the lives of others.
When we examine the wide variety of roles each of them play in their professional and personal worlds, the opportunities seem limitless.
Who are the teachers, mentors, coaches, and other life supporters who have made the biggest difference in your life? Where have you noticed yourself “paying forward” valuable lessons to those whom you care about?
Where and with whom can you share your knowledge, wisdom, and life lessons to influence the lives of others, and more fully realize your unique contribution to eternity?
Examine all the roles you currently hold in your personal and professional worlds. If you are like many people, you may have to use toes as well as your fingers to count everything.
In what percent of these roles are you serving and supporting others? If you find the number approaching 80, 90, or even 100 percent, consider how much energy you have at days end for the most important person in your life – YOU!
There is wisdom in the flight attendant pre-flight instruction: Please put on your own oxygen mask before you assist others.
Take some time today to be a bit more “Self-ISH” (not selfish) by taking care of your own well-being and not leaving yourself behind, so that you can be your very best as you serve the people and organizations in your community.
“We write to taste life twice: in the moment and in retrospection.”
– Anais Nin, author
One of the habits that both supports and expedites results achieved during a coaching relationship is journaling.
Using some form of log book to capture tools used, lessons learned, and insights revealed is like doing more reps at the gym or taking extra practice sessions in your favorite sport to build greater muscle memory and mastery.
Consider purchasing a journal or notebook to capture the significant events that occur throughout your day. Feel free to use digital methods as well.
Experiment with selecting different times during the day to see what works best for you. Some of my clients place this notebook on their pillow to download their day and empty their minds before bed. Others place their journal on their office chair and reflect on the previous day before they begin the new one.
Feel free to reply to this email and let me know what works well for you.
“The only end of writing is to enable the reader better to enjoy life, or better to endure it.”
– Samuel Johnson, author, literary critic and lexicographer
When I first set out on the journey to begin writing The Quotable Coach, over a year ago, I wasn’t really sure what to expect. My initial success at blogging for the previous 18 months, based on readership, was modest at best.
Through the receiving of critical feedback, and now with almost 700 daily subscribers, we seem to have stumbled onto a format with content that, as Johnson suggests, helps people move forward and enjoy their lives a bit more (and also, at times, navigate obstacles and challenges).
Please consider partnering with me at this time by sharing the ideas and exercises found within The Quotable Coach series with others in your personal and professional life. (Perhaps you could forward them a quote you particularly enjoyed, or direct them to The Quotable Coach website.)
“A ‘coach’ remains something or someone who carries a valued person from where they are to where they want to be.”
– Kevin Hall, writer
Someone I admire once mentioned to me that when we define something, we limit it, and when we distinguish something, we open up the possibilities of what it can be.
Hall, in this quote, appears to be defining the word “coach” as either a person, or an event or thing that helps you go from where you are to where you want to be. The attribute of “caring for another” is also inherent in his understanding of the word.
Who are the people in your life that act as support structures for you, helping you to get where you want to be?
What are the things in your world that also act as supportive coaches and assist and support your journey?
Make some efforts this week to both acknowledge the coaches and to expand this list beyond its current scope.
I just got back from a conference where we were encouraged to create new and different approaches to accomplish our goals.
One thing we learned is that to create a strong brand, it’s helpful to have your own unique word. Given my love of quotes and my love of coaching, I came up with the word quotching, which is simply coaching through the use of powerful and inspiring quotes.
“Things turn out the best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out.”
– John Wooden, basketball coach
John Wooden is considered by many one of the most successful college-level coaches of all time. His record of championships and the number of superstar players coached by him are legendary.
Two of the primary gifts he imparted on his players were his great attitude and his work ethic. He always focused himself and his players on making the most of each situation – resulting in exemplary individual and team performances.
To what degree do you make the best of the way things turn out?
What adjustments can you make to your behavior and attitude, in order to win your own championships?