“The world is full of good people. If you can’t find one be one.”
My dad, Martin Demp
In mid-December we had the unveiling of my father’s headstone. With the frigid temperatures at this time of year it was heartwarming to see the family and friends who showed up to honor this wonderful man.
As a person of few words, my dad let his actions set an example for the rest of us. By simply watching him in his roles of loyal son, husband, father, grandfather, great grandfather, and friend we were all coached on how we, too, could lead a meaningful life.
Who are the good people in your personal and professional communities? In what ways are you living true to their good examples to be on their list if asked?
“Mentoring is a brain to pick, an ear to listen, and a push in the right direction.”
—John C. Crosby, 20th Century American politician
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What is your personal and professional experience with mentoring and coaching? How many brains have you picked and how many ears have listened to you before they pushed or pulled you in the right direction?
Where have you been on the other side of this equation where you offered to be there for others in your various communities?
What qualities made these relationships most effective and successful? What lessons have made the most significant and lasting impact in your life?
Where and with whom can you be even more intentional and proactive in your mentoring and coaching efforts? Who can and will you be calling today to ask for or offer this valuable gift?
Being a mentor and a coach for others is one of the most satisfying and rewarding ways to spend a day. Teaching others and showing them new doors that lead to greater knowledge and opportunities is always accompanied with raised eyebrows and delighted smiles as new worlds emerge.
I have gained a sense of deep appreciation as I watch the parenting strategies of my daughter Rachel and her husband Chris as they direct and guide our three-year-old grandson, Weston. Each day includes new discoveries, new words, and new ways to play in and with his expanding world.
Wendy and I continue to mentor and coach our two children, now in their 30s. It is a pleasure to see how many doors they can now find and open on their own.
Who are the mentors and coaches that opened doors in your personal or professional life? How and with whom can you recognize their kindness and generosity by paying forward their gifts with someone deserving your special guidance?
“Life is amazing, and the teacher had best prepare himself to be a medium for that amazement.”
—Edward Blishen, 20th Century British author
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Have you heard of Sam Horn? If not, look her up, and strongly consider reading her newsletter and books.
She often shares a concept she calls The Eyebrow Test, which refers to the ideas, concepts, and life events that literally make your eyebrows move upward, demonstrating great interest, or in the case of today’s quote, amazement.
How and in what ways can you more fully engage in your own life to experience far more raised eyebrows of amazement?
How can you share such moments or help others in your world experience greater amazement through your potential roles as teacher, mentor, parent, or coach?
“The delicate balance of mentoring someone is not creating them in your own image, but giving them the opportunity to create themselves.”
—Steven Spielberg, American director, producer, screenwriter
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Over the past two decades I have had the great honor of coaching close to 100 individuals who were pursuing coaching careers. They all have the common desire and passion to make a positive difference in the lives of others through this special type of relationship.
I am often asked why I have not chosen to build a large organization with dozens of coaches utilizing my coaching approach. The quick and simple answer is that I feel people are better served by finding their own special coaching voice and style. In this way, they create a unique expression of their inherent gift and ability to support those around them.
How can your own mentoring and coaching efforts better support those around you in discovering more opportunities to create themselves?
“You can’t help someone get up a hill without getting closer to the top yourself.”
– H. Norman Schwarzkopf, US Army General
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When I was a young boy, my mother would always tell my sister to take me with her. I liked being with the big kids, and I really liked feeling included.
Today, I focus much of my life on helping others grow both professional and personally. Through this process, I’ve had the great fortune of meeting many wonderful people, and have gained much satisfaction through my efforts. I also found that I too got “closer to the top” in the priority areas of my own life.
Where could you advise, mentor, or coach others in your life?
How can you expect to benefit through your generosity and care?
“…is not just to share your riches but to reveal to him his own.”
– Benjamin Disraeli
I am often asked to share my perspective on the fields of consulting, mentoring, and coaching as a way of supporting others in moving forward. In doing so, I like to distinguish an inside-out contribution from outside-in efforts.
Masterful coaching emphasizes that the majority of the answers and potential lie within the proverbial athlete/client. As we help them discover their own answers and potential, the lessons learned stick far better than any outside-in concept.
In the multiple roles you may play as a parent, friend, colleague, and business person, how can you reveal the riches in others?
Who in your life will do likewise, bringing out the best in you?
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