“At the end of the game, pawns and kings go back into the same box.”
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We live in a world of comparisons. Over the millennia, there have been kings and slaves, the wealthy and the poor, the elite and the untouchables.
Examine your own professional and personal worlds for comparisons such as executives versus clerical staff, movie stars, professional athletes, and attractive individuals versus the plain and less talented.
In chess and in life, kings and queens have far more advantages and opportunities to come out on top versus the pawns of our world.
What is the cost we and society pay each day because of this superior/inferior perspective?
How would viewing one another as equals with our shared humanness help us all realize a more wonderful life before we go back in the box?
“Sometimes the heart sees what is invisible to the eye.”
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The human heart is an extraordinary organ. Weighing about ten ounces, this fist-sized miracle pumps life-giving oxygen and nutrient-rich blood throughout our bodies, without missing a beat.
The heart, like our brain, generates a powerful electromagnetic field. The electrocardiogram (ECG) has a field more than 60 times greater (based on amplitude) than brain waves generate in an electroencephalogram (EEG).
Some researchers believe that this electromagnetic field can code and connect individuals beyond our five senses, potentially transmitting and exchanging both positive and negative energies.
How would viewing life from a more heartfelt perspective help you see more of the invisible wonders of life?
You may wish to explore the work of the Heart Math Institute to see what they have been working on for over 25 years.
“There’s a bigger picture. Just step back from the canvas.”
—attributed to Ilona Simone
One of my favorite Netflix Original Series is called Tales by Light.
Each episode highlights a specific masterful photographer, examining their world in great detail. The techniques they use to capture our world include a wide variety of lenses, and viewing their subjects from multiple levels.
From ground level to the top of a ladder, or a bird’s eye view from a hot air balloon or drone, their images reveal more of their canvas, and a far more interesting and beautiful perspective on their subject.
Where in either your personal or professional world are you simply too close to a particular subject? Where would stepping back to gain greater objectivity and perspective shed more and better light on your view of your world?
“The reason I talk to myself is because I’m the only one whose answers I accept.”
—George Carlin, Late American stand-up comedian and social critic
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George Carlin, who passed away in 2008, was noted for his black comedy. No subject escaped his probing and ingenious mind. He had a surprising and penetrating way of making aspects of human nature hilarious to millions of people.
Today’s quote points out that we are constantly talking to ourselves and find our own opinions, perspective, and general views on all subjects of greatest appeal and value. Carlin knew that our favorite subject was ourselves. He was clever enough to poke fun at it, making him one of the most popular comedians of all time.
Where and how can the understanding that each of us talks to ourselves and prefers our owns answers help you improve your relationships and the results you desire, personally or professionally?
“Better keep yourself clean and bright; you are the window through which you must see the world.”
—George Bernard Shaw, 20th Century Irish playwright
Image from Flickr by Jason Bain
It is early spring here in Michigan. With increased daylight, warmer days, and a few more birds chirping, many of us are embarking on some spring cleaning.
Two activities that are often on the list are cleaning or replacing the furnace filter, and washing the windows, to clean our air and brighten our views.
How can and will you clean your own perceptual filters and brighten your windows on the world to lead a more fulfilling and satisfying life?
Consider doing this exercise with your family or work community so that you can engage additional social support and increase the likelihood of success.
“Don’t be discouraged. It’s often the last key in the bunch that opens the lock.”
Image from Flickr by Hayley Mechelle
What current personal or professional issue has you upset, frustrated, and perhaps at a breaking point? Where are you ready to throw in the towel and give up on a matter of great importance?
You may even feel that you have tried everything possible and don’t have it in you to go on.
Beyond the RAH-RAH of the If at first you don’t succeed… stuff, how can you remain patient and persist in new and different actions to open the locks of opportunities you seek?
Seek out the support of a friend, mentor, family member, or coach to tackle this matter. They will likely help you find the inner strength to go on, and the added perspective to achieve what you desire.
“Keep the bigger perspective in mind, not getting caught in life’s little whirlpools.”
—Barbara Ann Kipfer, Author of Self-Meditation
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What are some of the events in your personal or professional life that have brought you down, upset you, or even caused you to feel angry?
Select just one event, and play with it through a variety of perspectives to see if you can rise out of the downward spiral.
Who in your world would barely notice the issue, or not be impacted at all? How would they view this issue?
Who do you know who would find the lesson in this issue and use the silver lining to better their life?
Who in your life is creative and innovate, always finding a way to achieve their objectives in spite of obstacles or challenges?
What new and different approaches and perspectives can you try to better navigate the swirling whirlpools that pull you down?
Consider asking some of the people you identified above for their coaching.
“The truth you believe in and cling to makes you unavailable to hear anything new.”
-Pema Chödrön, American Buddhist nun
Image of Pema Chödrön from calmfulliving.com
When was the last time you had a discussion with a friend, family member, or colleague in which they said, “I know” one or more times?
Consider that at such moments their beliefs and opinions are firmly cemented into their minds. Unfortunately, in many cases, they have literally stopped listening to any other perspective.
Turning this situation around, how often do you say “I know” to others, or just covertly think it to yourself?
Where and on what subjects are you clinging too tightly to your own point of view or perspective, making you unavailable to new possibilities?
How would an “I don’t know / I’m not sure / I’m curious” perspective create the greatest value?
“If you don’t read people well, you’re climbing up a wobbly career ladder, blindfolded.”
When you hear the phrase, “office politics,” what comes to mind? If you are like many, this idea draws strong reactions, including hate, disgust, annoyance, or for some, a bit of curiosity. Regardless of your feelings, office politics are a fact of life. In Workplace Poker, Dan Rust suggests we either learn to play it or we are likely to be played.
His advise on learning to read people includes:
- Minimize your own emotional reactions, and set aside preconceived notions, judgements, and expectations. You can’t get inside someone else’s head until you get out of your own.
- Learn to be a third-party observer. Notice how people speak, dress, act, and interact with others. You will gain a baseline of their behavior, which can be revealing and useful.
Consider picking up a copy of Workplace Poker if you have ever experienced bumps or dips in your career trajectory. This resource can also prove useful in many community and non-profit organizations.