“Teaching others scales right back to us.”
—Seth Godin, Author
I have always had a passion for learning. As a child, I remember vividly my mother coming upstairs to read after our evening meal and some family time. Although she had only a high school education, she had the most expansive vocabulary of anyone I knew.
My own family, and my wife’s, were educators, so it was not surprising that my first career was as a teacher. After a few years, I shifted to business and found myself in teaching roles within the company. For the past 22 years, I have continued to be both student and teacher as I pursue my professional efforts as a coach.
Over the years, I’ve learned by watching others, applying what I’ve learned, and learned the most by sharing what I learned with others. The lessons always scaled back to me with even deeper meaning and impact.
How can you learn what you most desire by watching people you admire, practice what you learn, and scale these lessons back to you even more by teaching others in your professional and personal life?
As Seth Godin said in his latest book, What to Do When It’s Your Turn, “Teaching rewards us all.”
“To teach is to learn twice.”
—Joseph Joubert, French Esssayist
Have you ever considered that learning is a multi-step process? Do you recall times in your education when you would read, re-read, and literally memorize information to prepare for a quiz or test?
What happened to this information when you tried to recall it even a few weeks later? If you are like most people, non-essential information is wiped clean from your “cerebral hard drive,” to make room for information that is essential, or critical, to your existence.
A simple yet powerful technique to deepen and sustain things you wish to learn and master is contained in these three steps:
- Watch others who are very skilled at some behavior.
- Try to practice those skills for yourself.
- Teaching this skill to others will cement and sustain the lesson.
Remember it this way: Watch One, Do One, Teach One.
“It is not what you do for your children but what you have taught them to do for themselves that will make them successful human beings.”
– Ann Landers, famous advice columnist
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Consider for a moment that effective parenting is like coaching. Instead of simply pouring ourselves into our children or our clients, we take an inside-out approach to help them discover the wisdom within – and thus help them discover who they truly are. Lessons learned in this manner seem to have a far greater influence and impact.
Just five minutes ago, I received a call from my daughter Rachel, who was finishing her workday serving her clients at 9.30 p.m. on a Friday night. Listening to her go the extra mile to serve others was a very satisfying moment for me as a proud dad.
How can you use your coaching skills to bring out the best in your children, colleagues, friends and even clients?
“Teaching is an instinctual art, mindful of potential, craving of realization, a pausing, seamless process.”
A. Bartlett Giamatti, former president of Yale University
We have all heard the quote “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.”Think for a moment about the times when this quote has been most apparent in your own life. How often were you the student? How often were you the teacher?
Consider how we are always experiencing being both the student and the teacher in a seamless tapestry of continuous learning.
In the year ahead, how will you be the student and the teacher in your life and in the lives of others, to fully pursue the boundless possibilities and potential in yourself and in those around you?
– Buddha, spiritual teacher and founder of Buddhism
The phrase “perception is reality” seems to suggest that what we perceive, and how we perceive it, makes something real. But what if we simply don’t perceive an issue, a challenge, or a lesson to be learned, simply because it is invisible to us?
As a student, we first must see a situation and determine that there is value, opportunity or benefit. Only then is there the potential to hear the teachers and see how they might assist us in capturing the lesson.
Where are you stopped or stuck in your life? Where are your efforts being thwarted?
To whom could you go with this challenge to determine your readiness and receptivity to the lesson?
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