Friday Review: Negativity


What role does negativity play in your life? Here are a few posts related to negativity you may have missed. Click the links to read the full message.


And remember, no matter where you go, there you are.





Complaining is Draining.





Life is like photography. You use the negatives to develop.




Life is like photography

“Life is like photography. You use the negatives to develop.”

—Author Unknown

Image of a negative/postive signpost

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Many people ignore, suppress, or try to run away from the negatives in life. If you, too, utilize this strategy, try being a bit more like a photographer.

Consider how the best at this craft capture the extraordinary pictures, the ones that “WOW” us. Examine their observatory and reflective skills, their understanding of light and shadow, and other aspects of photography that bring out the brilliance of each shot.


How can you more fully examine and reflect on the negatives in your world to develop and have an even more wonderful life?

Complaining is Draining

“Complaining is Draining.”

—Author Unknown

Photo from Flickr by David Blackwell

Photo from Flickr by David Blackwell

The discovery process I use to determine if a prospective client and I are a good fit includes 20 criteria. Each item in the survey provides insight into the likely success of our coaching relationship. Over the years, I have placed greater importance on the attributes related to optimism and a positive attitude.

Although individuals who exhibit high degrees of skepticism and judgmental tendencies can achieve favorable results in a coaching relationship, people working with these individuals can find the relationship extra challenging and draining.


Examine relationships in your professional and personal lives that you feel are draining. What adjustments could be made to change the relationships for the better? Please take a closer look at your own attitude and propensity for complaining, and consider if working on yourself might be a good place to start.

no matter where you go, there you are

“And remember, no matter where you go, there you are.”

– Confucius, Chinese philosopher


Image from Flickr by docoverachiever

As a positive, optimistic, and upbeat person most of the time, it troubles me to see a lot of negativity in the world. Two related negative traits I observe often are blaming and victimization. When people demonstrate these qualities, the focus is always on others as the cause of a problem, and themselves as innocent victims.

Confucius is suggesting, with this quote, that we are always present in these situations, and if you dig a bit deeper, a part of this current reality puzzle.


How can you take a larger percentage of responsibility for the events and circumstances that make up your world? Where would adjusting your perspective, attitude, or point of view provide a shift in the way that people and events affect you?