“The opportunity to experience yourself differently is always available.”
—Yonger Mingyur Rinpoche, Tibetan teacher and Buddhist master
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How much feedback do you receive on a regular basis from the people in your personal and professional communities?
What additional sources of feedback do you receive from your environment?
Are people clicking on your website, liking your social media posts, and returning your calls, texts, and emails? How do your pets respond to you when you walk in the door?
Outside sources of feedback can help us become more fully aware of our strengths, weaknesses, and blind spots.
Actively seeking such ways of experiencing yourself differently can significantly enhance your personal and professional growth efforts.
Listen to an audio or watch a video recording of yourself from a recent meeting. Schedule a performance review with your supervisor and compare your perceptions of yourself with theirs. Ask your significant other or members of your family how you are doing. Wait to have them fully express their thoughts and opinions. What do you plan to do with this information?
“What would I tell my best friend to do in this situation?”
To what extent do you tap into the head, heart, and guts of those in your personal and professional communities for feedback?
A common practice in the business world is to seek the input and perspective of colleagues to help identify blind spots and additional opportunities for greater achievement.
In his book, What Got You Here Won’t Get You There, Marshall Goldsmith—considered among the top coaches in the world—uses the “feed forward” concept to advise and direct others toward more effective strategies and behaviors.
Unfortunately, many of us are far better at shelling out our wisdom and great council than accepting it. We all tend to think we are navigating our lives and careers just fine.
Today’s quote suggests that we can attach a boomerang to our advice monster to try our own brilliant perspective on ourselves.
How would your life improve if you increased your coach-ability through your own wise words and the “feed forward” from others you admire and respect?
“Professional is not a label you give yourself. It’s a description you hope others will apply to you.”
—David Maister, former Harvard Business School professor
If you say something positive about yourself, it is referred to as bragging. If others say similar things about you, it is considered the truth.
What do the people at work and in your career efforts have to say about you? How are you perceived and how do these perceptions compare and contrast from your own?
What would you like others to say and how do your words and deeds warrant such acknowledgment and praise?
Seek feedback from a small group of trusted colleagues. Let them reveal the unique abilities, superpowers, and best qualities they see in you. Ask them also about your weaknesses, and the limiting blind spots that may be holding you back from the professional levels you desire.
Thank them for their candid and generous perspective, and promise to act on their wise council.
For extra credit, consider a similar exercise with family and friends.
Feel free to reply to this post to let me know what you discover and how it impacts your life.
“You don’t always have to chop with the sword of truth. You can point with it also.”
—Anne Lamott, American writer and political activist
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Professional and personal feedback can be extraordinarily useful as we learn and grow into better versions of ourselves. Unfortunately, on some occasions, a bit too much tough love or hard reality are forced upon us.
When you have been on the receiving end of such sword chopping, how receptive do you tend to be? How carefully do you listen and remain receptive and coachable? If you are like most people, you might withdraw and stop listening to simply protect yourself from these perceived attacks.
Where, perhaps, have you been giving aggressive feedback to others in your professional or personal communities?
Where and how would a kinder, more caring form of feedback and sword pointing (versus chopping) create the openness in yourself and others and the growth and results you intend?
⏤P.T. Barnum, 19th Century politician & Founder of Barnum & Bailey Circus
The Greatest Show on Earth will sadly close forever in May 2017. It appears that after 146 years, no amount of promotion will overcome the numerous challenges facing the circus, including considerable shifts in public taste.
If you have visited Las Vegas over the last decade, you can see what Cirque du Soleil has done to reinvent the genre.
Are people losing interest in your products, services, or ideas?
How engaged and active have you been in promoting them?
What feedback have you received that has caused you to rework or reinvent your ideas in order to remain relevant in today’s world?
Consider picking up a copy of Blue Ocean Strategy by W. Cham Kim and Renée Mauborgne to get some fresh ideas in this area, and then promote away!
“If criticism is needed, do it tactfully. Don’t use a sledgehammer when a fly swatter will do the job.”
-Ann Landers, Advice Columnist
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Providing constructive feedback is the cornerstone of a healthy and productive coaching relationship. Criticism, or the more common term, “constructive criticism” can often have less than desirable and even destructive consequences.
A critical determinant to providing effective and optimal feedback is a trusting relationship in which both parties are focused and committed to the same objective.
How would a more tactful coaching approach be used in your world, to provide the valuable feedback you desire in supporting those around you toward enhanced performance and productivity?