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when you connect with people

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“When you connect with people from the core, you learn a whole lot more.”

-Author Unknown

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Relationships and connecting with others are among the most valuable skills any of us can have. Books, blogs, podcasts, seminars, and other resources on this subject abound, yet most of us fall short of the level of excellence and mastery we desire.

Today’s quote points to the importance of experiencing one another at a far deeper level than many of us are willing to go. We’re afraid because of the level of openness and vulnerability inherent in the depths those relationships require.

EXERCISE:

How can and will you be more courageous to express your core beliefs, values, and emotions to deepen your most valued relationships?

minds full of mystery

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“Human minds are more full of mystery than any written book and more changeable than the cloud shapes in the air.”

-Louisa May Alcott, author of Little Women

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Over the last few years, I have become increasingly interested in the power of our minds to influence our lives.

I recently recommitted to the practice of meditation, to more fully appreciate the mysteries and changeability of my mind.

In my initial efforts to meditate—years ago—I believed that I was doing it wrong, because of the adventures my mind would take during a ten-minute guided or unguided journey. With the incorporation of an app called CALM, I have learned to be more patient with my mental misadventures, and to improve my capacity to be present to my inner and outer worlds.

EXERCISE:

Consider meditation or another form of mindfulness practice to help you masterfully shape and change the world around you. Read about the most popular apps in the Psychology Today article.

Action Review

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FRIDAY REVIEW: ACTION

What does it mean to take action in your life? Here are a few action-related posts you may have missed. Click the links to read the full message.

“Our greatest glory consists not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.”

 

 

 

 

“It is hard to fly when something is weighing you down.”

 

 

 

 

“A person’s actions will tell you everything you need to know.”

 

 

 

 

The Very Best Ideas

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“The very best ideas can very often come from the quietest voice.”

-Sir Johnathan “Jony” Ive, Chief Design Officer of Apple Inc.

We are living in revolutionary times.

I am not referring to political, social or even global revolutionary activities.

Instead, I’d like you to consider that there is a revolution occurring in which the quiet voices and ideas of about one-half the world’s population—the introverts—are being heard for their insight and value.

Take a close look at yourself and those around you. Where do you/they fit on the introvert/extrovert spectrum? Pay particular attention to some of the quieter voices around you. What extraordinary ideas can you now discover, appreciate, and realize?

EXERCISE:

To dig deep into this concept, go to www.quietrev.com  to see where you can more fully take advantage of the quiet revolution, based on the work of Susan Cain.

The secret to living well

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“The secret to living well and longer is: eat half, walk double, laugh triple and love without measure.”

-Tibetan Proverb

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Over the six year life of The Quotable Coach, we’ve shared hundreds of posts exploring the concept of living longer and happier lives.

This Tibetan proverb could replace all of them with its simple wisdom.

EXERCISE:

Put forth an extra effort to practice the following ideas:

  1. Pay particular attention to the portion sizes and the quality of the foods you eat. Consider reducing your servings to 2/3 or 1/2 what you normally take, just to see what happens over a period of time.
  2. Our sedentary lifestyle is killing us! Where and in what ways can you expand your level of physical activity in this new year?
  3. Milton Berle used to say that laughter was a mini-vacation. How can and will you bring more chuckles and belly laughs into your life?
  4. Where and with whom would an abundance of love and affection brighten your world?

The Day’s Resolutions

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“I think in terms of the day’s resolutions, not the year’s.”

-Henry Moore, 20th Century British Sculptor and Artist

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Why do we do it?

You know what I mean. Why do we make New Year’s Resolutions, knowing darn well that as much as 90% of them are abandoned by the end of February.

Perhaps it is because a year is a pretty long time, and it’s hard to set out on a journey whose goal is so far off. It almost guarantees that obstacle and barriers will slow us down or stop us completely.

Today’s quote is like the one about eating an elephant one bite at a time, or that every journey begins with a single step. Perhaps daily resolutions are the way to achieve what we deeply desire—one day at a time.

EXERCISE:

Where and on what priority issues would making 365 daily resolutions help you make 2017 your best year yet?

Be at war with your vices

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“Be at war with your vices, at peace with your neighbors, and let every new year find you a better man.”

-Benjamin Franklin, American Founding Father

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I like bargains and two-for-one sales. This quote is a three-for-one! In Ben Franklin’s time, the word “vices” perhaps meant “behaviors that do not better oneself or another.” Today, I suggest we consider them  “bad habits” instead.

The idea of being a better person points to our ability to learn, grow, and improve as individuals.

Exercise:

What bad habits/vices will you declare war upon? In which relationships will you make a stand for peace? In what ways do you intend to be a better person in this new year?

Friday Review: Commitment

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FRIDAY REVIEW: COMMITMENT

What commitments will you make and hold to in 2017? Here are a few commitment-related posts you may have missed. Click the links to read the full message:

 

“The quality of a person’s life is in direct proportion to their commitment to excellence, regardless of their chosen field of endeavor.”

 

 

 

“Today is when everything that’s going to happen from now on begins.”

 

 

 

 

“Don’t compromise yourself. You’re all you’ve got.”

 

 

 

 

Hope smiles from the threshold

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“Hope smiles from the threshold of the year to come, whispering, ‘It will be happier.’”

-Alfred Lord Tennyson, 19th Century Poet Laureate of Great Britain

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Have you ever heard of the concept of “Creative Tension”?

It appears that Robert Fritz, the founder of this idea, mixed the positive nature of creativity with the frequently perceived negative nature of tension to coin this new catch phrase.

The creative aspect conveys a forward-moving, generative focus.

Tension, on the other hand, seeks resolution, and in this case, Fritz wants us to resolve the gaps between our reality and the desirable future to which we have committed.

EXERCISE:

Google the concept of “creative tension,” or check out this post about it online. See where it can propel you forward in the new year.

Ring out the false ring in the true

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“Ring out the false, ring in the true.”

-Alfred Lord Tennyson, 19th Century Poet Laureate of Great Britain

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It’s such a cliche to say “Ring out the Old and Ring in the New!” this time of year.

Tennyson’s twist has considerable merit if we all wish to lead richer and more rewarding lives.

Lies, deceit, and general falsehoods diminish, deflate, and demoralize our lives, leaving us empty and defeated.

Truth, on the other hand, sets us free to experience lives of integrity, character, and dignity, where communities, families, and organizations can blossom.

EXERCISE:

In what personal or professional areas would ringing out the false and ringing in the true make the biggest difference for you in 2017?