“Tomorrow hopes we have learned something from yesterday.”
—John Wayne, American film icon
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When you settle under the covers and reflect on your day, what factors bring you satisfaction and put a smile on your face? What represents a day well spent to you?
Most people would say learning something new, and making a positive contribution are keys to living a meaningful life.
What do you intend to learn and contribute today, to make for a much brighter tomorrow?
“Ships don’t sink because of the water around them. Ships sink because of the water that gets in them. Don’t let what’s happening around you get inside you and weigh you down.”
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As a citizen of Michigan, I greatly appreciate our five Great Lakes, the largest group of freshwater lakes in the world. The lakes have been traversed by native people since the dawn of time, and by western man since the 17th century.
Thousands of ships have sunk in these waters, and an estimated 30,000 people have lost their lives as a result. The most famous was the wreck of the SS Edmund Fitzgerald, which sank in a Lake Superior storm in November, 1975, with the loss of the entire 29-member crew.
What personal and professional waters are you navigating these days? What stormy or rocky events are causing you to take on water and giving you that sinking feeling?
How and in what ways can you bail any water that has entered your worlds, and begin sailing toward calmer, more prosperous seas?
“Nobody in the history of the world has ever washed their rental car.”
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Are you familiar with the “Endowment Effect”?
I wasn’t either, until I learned that it is our tendency to undervalue things that aren’t ours, and to overvalue things because we already own them.
Do you, like many people, have drawers, closets, or even entire rooms filled with items that you haven’t used or worn in years? What are these items worth to you, and what might it be costing you in having them take up space in your world?
Consider what you would actually pay for these items, if you didn’t own them already.
Imagine that you are planning to change your place of residence. The two criteria I’d like you to consider as you go through the things you own are:
- You will be downsizing your living and storage space by 25-35 percent.
- You must pay a substantial extra fee to bring all non-essential items along.
What would stay, and what would go?
What actions will you take based on your answers?
“You will not stop a steamroller by standing in front of it, but by letting it run out of steam.”
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Do you know someone who unleashes anger, judgement, frustration, and upset on you or others from time to time?
Once they’re on a roll, there seems no stopping them, but there is one technique that can take the steam out of them. Choose to demonstrate interest in them by listening even more fully to their issues and concerns.
Use well-structured open-ended questions and layering to gain a greater depth of understanding. With this technique, you will likely help them quickly run out of steam.
Where and with whom could you try this technique, to create more work-ability in this important relationship?
“The real question is not whether life exists after death. The real question is whether you are alive before your death.”
—Osho, Mystic Guru and Spiritual Leader
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Over twenty years ago I attended a seminar with almost 200 other people. The session leader posed the question:
Why do most people wake up in the morning?
After the audience provided all the expected responses such as to go to work, or to start the new day, he shared his own thought, which was:
People wake up in the morning because they did not die in their sleep.
When the shock of his answer dissipated from the audience, we began a most interesting and engaging inquiry into what it means to be fully alive. Common aspects of being “fully alive” included traveling, learning, extraordinary relationships, spiritual pursuits, and making a bigger difference in the world.
What adjustments and changes are you willing to make in your life to cause you to enthusiastically and energetically bound out of bed each morning?
What one action will you take immediately to build this into a life-changing habit?
“If your feet are firmly planted on the ground, you’ll never be able to dance.”
—Iris Johansen, Crime Fiction and Romance Writer
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Who do you know personally or professionally that is exceedingly stubborn, rigid, set in their ways, and rarely budges in their thinking and actions? These are people who almost never produce new and better results because they are living examples of Albert Einstein’s definition of insanity: doing the same thing over and over, expecting different results.
Who are the people you know that are open-minded, flexible, and even playful—people who “dance” with life, always exploring and creating new possibilities around them?
Where in your world is it appropriate to stand firm? Where is it time to be more flexible and dance to the music of your own life vision?
“When you want to fight fire with fire, remember that the fire department uses water.”
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When was the last time you were in a heated argument with tempers flaring and things getting out of control? If you cannot recall a specific event, just turn on a local, national, or global news program to see plenty of examples!
Rarely do such interactions result in win/win outcomes. Most of the time, we are left with win/lose or lose/lose results.
When we consider how to put out undesirable fires, all we need to do is take a bit of coaching from professional fire-fighters: use water to reduce the temperature of burning materials and extinguish the flame.
What new and more constructive ways of dealing with heated situations can you find to produce a better result for everyone involved?
“If you are irritated by every rub, how will your mirror be polished?”
-Rumi, 13th Century Persian Poet
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When was the last time you visited a fine jewelry store? Imagine yourself in one, examining all the beautiful diamonds and gem stones.
I am sure that If you were to go back in time to when these stones were pulled form the earth, you wouldn’t recognize them. They would be dull, rough, and unremarkable. It takes considerable rubbing and skilled cutting to bring out their brilliance.
How and where can you examine and appreciate the daily rubs of life as experiences and resources to bring about your personal and professional brilliance?