Embrace beauty wherever you find it. It can magically uplift your life and sweeten your world.
—Calm App Reflection
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Do you have a sweet tooth? What are your favorite desserts, candies, or sugary beverages?
When and where do you indulge in these treats? How do they make you feel before, during, and after you devour them?
We all enjoy taking in the sweetness of life, and delicious food is certainly one way to do this. Consider — as an alternative to a tasty treat — consuming a little more beauty in your world to put smiles on your mouth instead of putting something in it.
How can you discover and consume more beauty from the world around you?
Who are the people and what are the places and things that uplift and sweeten your life?
Eating a scoop of ice cream during this exploration works even better!
“Still round the corner there may wait, a new road or a secret gate.”
—J.R.R. Tolkien, 20th Century writer, artist, scholar, linguist
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Many people live their lives going in circles.
Like a revolving door to one of those fancy hotels in a big city, if we don’t exit at some point we keep going around and around.
How often do you take new roads and go through secret gates?
Where are you both looking and stepping around the corners of your world to discover new wonderful places around the bend?
What may be stopping you from going beyond your safe, well-worn paths?
How would a bit more “Hobbiting” in your life lead you to new and wonderful places?
What adventures may await you!
“We are the only creatures that seek out guarantees, and in doing so, we snuff the spark that is discovery.”
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At the age of eleven I grew up seemingly overnight. My dad, who was then 41, had a stroke. Everything changed for the family. Dad’s recovery was slow; he was able to return to work in about six months with only limited residual impact.
For me, it seemed like my childhood was lost and I became more diligent and responsible given dad’s limited capacities. I felt the need to be strong and dependable to help hold the family together. Doing so seemed to please my parents very much, and I continued to play this role as I launched my own life and became a husband and father.
As our two children left the nest and Wendy and I became grandparents a few years ago, a spark of discovery returned. Observing young Weston — and little Ella now that we live 20 minutes away — has rekindled new sparks of curiosity and wonder in all of us.
Where do you find yourself seeking guarantees and sure things in your life? How has doing so diminished or snuffed out your spark of discovery? Where and how can you rekindle this sense of aliveness throughout this new year?
“Thou hast only to follow the wall far enough and there will be a door in it.”
—Marguerite De Angeli, 20th Century American writer/book illustrator
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Being persistent and staying the course is a solid approach to discovery and achieving excellence, offered to us all. These days it seems fewer and fewer of us take this approach. It appears that the pursuit of/grasping for pleasure and comfort and the avoidance of discomfort and pain has softened many of us to far more frequently pursue the paths of least resistance.
Over the years I’ve been repeatedly introduced to the Japanese concept of IKIGAI, which is defined as a central purpose or reason for being. Two of the most common perspectives on this topic relate to either a societal or personal view of life that can drive our daily pursuits.
What is your personal or societal IKIGAI? How has or can it fuel you to follow more of the long and difficult walls of life until you discover and open the doors to your destiny?
“When your past calls, don’t answer. It has nothing to say.”
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Or maybe it does.
Most of us have had the experience of meeting with an old friend or former schoolmate, in which the stories and discussions reoccur like Groundhog Day. It’s like a record that keeps skipping back to play the same old tunes.
In such situations, we often tune things out and feel our lives wasting away because we’ve already been there and done that.
Alternatively, what if the lessons of the past were never fully learned and they present themselves again, hoping you have new lenses to see what you may have missed on the first, second, or third go-around?
Discovering what’s new might actually be more up to you than what appears frozen in time.
What would be the value of not always using your caller ID when you see a call from your past? How might you listen differently to discover new value in their messages?
“Let others fill the blanks.”
—Liz Wiseman, Author of Multipliers
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There is at least one bright spot in our economy as a result of the pandemic having kept many of us home. Game sales of all types are rocketing!
What indoor, outdoor, high-tech, low-tech and even retro games from your youth have come off the shelf in your home?
For many families, the good old-fashioned jigsaw puzzle is making a comeback. Puzzle maker Ravensburger’s sales rose 370% in March!
Recall a time when you completed a puzzle with others, especially if those others were children. How did they act and react when you filled in the blank spaces compared to when they discovered the missing pieces on their own?
Where are you taking it upon yourself to fill in the blanks for others in your personal and professional communities?
Where would letting others fill in the blanks be the best strategy to take today?
“My joy in learning is partly that it enables me to teach.”
—Seneca, first century Roman philosopher
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My coaching relationships begins with several “discovery” sessions in which my clients crystallize and clarify what they wish to learn and how they intend to grow.
I often joke with them that they are pursuing “A PhD in Me” through this unique and customized relationship.
In the early stages, they may look to me or others they respect and watch how we lead, manage, coach, or communicate. Very quickly they begin practicing and engaging in similar efforts to further their mastery journey. Soon after, or even at the same time, I encourage them to play the role of coach, mentor, or teacher to share what they are learning with others.
Where and with whom can you be a teacher to more joyfully experience the pleasure of learning and contribute more of yourself to others?
“Your work is to discover your work and then, with all your heart, to give yourself to it.”
—Siddhārtha Gautama Buddha, founder of Buddhism
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No quote captures my business and personal coaching work purpose better than this one!
A large percentage of people I work with in the business world rarely experience a perfect fit between who they are and what they do.
I see this most often when people seek coaching because they have a heightened awareness of this gap in their fulfillment and satisfaction, and choose to make an intentional transition with this huge chunk of their life.
To put you in closer touch to the work you are meant to do, consider reading these books:
Of course, you can always contact me to explore how I may assist you in this effort.