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If wisdom is understanding the long-term consequences of your actions

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“If wisdom is understanding the long-term consequences of your actions, judgement is applying that wisdom to make better decisions. Judgement, in effect, is applied wisdom.”

—Rohan Rajiv, Author of A Learning a Day Blog

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Wisdom and judgement work hand-in-hand, shaping the way we live and lead.

Wisdom is more than knowledge — it’s the ability to see beyond the moment and understand the long-term consequences of our choices.

But wisdom alone is not enough.

Without judgement, it remains theory, a quiet voice never acted upon.

Judgement is wisdom in motion — the daily practice of applying insight to decisions both big and small.

It prevents us from repeating mistakes and guides us toward actions that align with our values and goals.

When we cultivate judgement, we turn awareness into impact.

True growth comes not from simply knowing what is right, but from consistently choosing to act on that wisdom.

EXERCISE:

Value check your decisions today to determine how well your choices align with you values and long-term goals.

Applying this practice daily will decidedly impact the way you live and lead.

 

Your success depends on the risks you take

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“Your success depends on the risks you take. Your survival depends on the risks you avoid.”

—James Clear, NYT Best-Selling Author

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At first glance, the two ideas in today’s quote seem opposite — but together, they form the balance of living a meaningful life.

Success generally requires bold moves, stepping into the unknown, and daring to stretch beyond comfort.

Every achievement is born from someone willing to say, “I’ll try,” yet survival reminds us to discern which risks are worth it.

Not every risk leads upward, some lead to unnecessary harm.

Wisdom lies in knowing when to move forward with courage — and when to pause with clarity.

The art of living fully isn’t about avoiding risk, nor chasing everyone — it’s about choosing bravely, but not blindly.

EXERCISE:

What is your current relationship with taking risk?

What wisdom and experiences have your gained over the years to choose bravely but not blindly?

When we right-size our goals we often overestimate

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When we right-size our goals we often overestimate what we can do in the short term and underestimate what we can do in the long term.

—Calm App Reflection

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We often make the mistake of overestimating what we can accomplish in a short burst of time while underestimating the power of steady, consistent effort over the long haul.

Think about it: in a week or even a month, we may not see dramatic change, and that can leave us discouraged. But stretch the timeline out over a year, three years, or a decade — and those small daily steps compound into extraordinary outcomes.

Right-sizing our goals means being realistic about the short term while staying inspired by the possibilities of the long term.

It’s less about sprinting to quick wins and more about building momentum that carries us further than we imagined. Progress is a marathon — and the long view is where the magic happens.

EXERCISE:

Create a progress jar where every day you can add a marble or coin to a jar after completing a small tangible goal.

Over time, the growing collection will become a tangible reminder that small efforts add up. Consider reading Atomic Habits by James Clear to help you put this idea and many others into practice.

Our character is built when we do what we said we’d do

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“Our character is built when we do what we said we’d do — Despite how we feel.”

—Rohan Rajiv, author of A Learning a Day

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It’s easy to keep promises when energy is high and circumstances are favorable.

But true character emerges in the quiet moments when no one is watching — when fatigue whispers excuses or fear suggests retreat.

Integrity lives in the decision to honor your word anyway.

Each small act of follow-through lays another brick in the foundation of trust others place in us, and the trust we place in ourselves.

Character is not sculpted in grand gestures, but in the ordinary consistent choices to be faithful to commitments. Feelings fade, discipline endures and character — our most valued currency — takes root.

EXERCISE:

Where in your life right now could following through — despite how you feel — strengthen your character and your confidence?

Choose one commitment today — big or small — and keep it.

Notice how honoring your word strengthens who you are and who you are becoming.

 

Someday is a disease

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“Someday is a disease that will take your dreams to the grave with you.”

—Tim Ferriss, American entrepreneur and author

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“Someday” is a dangerous illusion.

Too often, we tuck our deepest hopes into the drawer labeled “later,” convincing ourselves there will be the perfect time to start.

The truth is that there really is no perfect time — there is only now.

Every day spent waiting is a day lost.

Whether it’s writing that book, starting a business, or simply calling someone you love, action transforms wishful thinking into reality.

Life is fleeting, and momentum is built step by step, not on a someday.

EXERCISE:

What dreams are you putting off?

What steps can and will you take today that will create the future in this moment, not tomorrow?

Words that come from your heart

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“Words that come from your heart will enter the hearts of others, and once there, they will have their effect.”

—Author Unknown

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Words have an energy that goes far beyond sound or ink on a page.

When they are spoken from the heart — with sincerity, empathy, and love — they carry a unique power.

Heartfelt words reach past defenses, bypass fear, and enter directly into the hearts of others.

Once there, they leave an imprint — sometimes sparking courage, offering peace, or even awakening possibility.

We’ve all felt it: the comfort of a kind word at the right time, or the inspiration from someone who believes in us.

Authentic communication matters.

When we speak with intention grounded in love and honesty our words ripple outward, touching others in ways that can change lives more than we’ll ever know.

EXERCISE:

Take some time today to identify and verbalize your heartfelt emotions during conversations with loved ones.

Notice their effect on them, on yourself, and the relationship between you.

It’s those little gestures of care and affection that keep love alive.

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It’s those little gestures of care and affection that keep love alive.

—Calm App Reflection

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It’s easy to think love thrives on grand gestures, but in reality it’s the little acts of care and kindness that nourish it day after day.

A warm smile across the room, a gentle hand on the shoulder, making a favorite cup of tea, or simply listening with full attention — these are the simple sparks that keep love alive.

Over time, love doesn’t need fireworks, it needs consistency, presence, and quiet affection.

Relationships deepen not from being perfect, but from the steady rhythm of everyday consideration.

In those small moments, trust grows, hearts feel safe, and bonds strengthen. Love can be lost in neglect. It quietly flourishes in the details of daily life, where the smallest gestures mean the most.

EXERCISE:

What little gestures of care and affection can and will you use to keep love alive?

Please read or re-read The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman for many more ideas to keeps those sparks burning.

Friday Review: Coach-ability

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Friday Review: Coach-ability

How “Coach-Able” are you? Here are a few related posts you may have missed.

How do the good and bad examples set by others offer you lessons on how to live?

 

 

 

“If you are not willing to learn no one can help you. If you are determined to learn, no one can stop you.”

 

 

 

“I will accept your influence, guidance, and direction if (and only if) I believe that you and I share similar goals.”

 

 

 

The list of things we care about is long

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“The list of things we care about is long. The list of things we can care for is short. Don’t confuse the two lists.”

—Gabe Anderson, Musician

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In today’s fast-paced world it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by the endless list of things we care about— causes, people, hobbies, and issues — pulling at our attention.

Yet, the list of things we can truly care for, in terms of deep commitment and responsible action, is much shorter.

Caring deeply requires time, energy, and emotional investment — resources that are limited.

Confusing these two lists can lead to burnout and shallow involvement that doesn’t serve anyone well.

Instead, focusing on a smaller number of things to genuinely care for allows us to make a meaningful difference.

Let’s be mindful of where we place our care, ensuring it is purposeful and sustainable, rather than scattered and exhausted.

EXERCISE:

Make a list of all the causes, people, and projects you care about.

This may take some time.

Narrow the list down to those you can realistically support and invest in deeply.

Prioritize this second list and evaluate your capacities before working through the items.