Imagine your life if you were a baby bird. Once you emerge from your shell, you begin taking in the outer world. In the beginning, all seems pretty safe and calm within the nest. Mom and Dad bring tasty bugs and critters to eat, and perhaps you have to fight a few siblings to get your share.
With all this food, you and your family grow, and the nest that was once safe and cozy gets a bit crowded. It is time for Mom and Dad to become empty-nesters!
Where and when have you had baby bird moments in your life? Explore the numerous times you needed to jump and unfold your wings as you began to fall, then soared to higher heights.
What personal or professional growth opportunities are calling you? When will you take the leap so that your life can continue to unfold?
“Watch the turtle. He only moves forward by sticking his neck out.”
—Lou Gerstner, former CEO of IBM
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My daughter Rachel’s favorite animal is the turtle. She has many stuffed animals and other tchotchkes to prove it.
It happens that she has lived a life in which she has stuck her neck out many times to move forward on various personal and professional priorities. In college, she did door-to-door sales for an educational products company. She worked 80-85 hours a week, with plenty of rejections along the way. Nevertheless, she pulled in about $25k each summer, as opposed to the 12-week, minimum wage jobs some of her classmates took on.
To what degree are you playing it safe in your personal and professional worlds? What top priority issue is calling you to courageously stick your neck out even if you were to progress at a turtle’s pace?
“As children we are taught not to play with fire, not how to play with fire.”
—Steven Kotler, American Author, Journalist, and Entrepreneur
Image from Unsplash by Peter John Maridable
Looking back to childhood I remember two times when playing with fire got me in big trouble. The first time was when Mom caught me playing with matches. The second was when I decided it would be interesting to put my paper napkin into our lit Hanukkah candles.
The control and use of fire was a pivotal point in human evolution and cultural advancement. Providing heat and the ability to cook food are just two factors that permitted the expansion of human activity across our planet.
How and in what ways can we shift our thinking regarding the potential risky fires of life, and harness their power more fully?
How would doing so with our children inspire greater creativity, innovation, and achievements to better our world?
“Don’t just go with the flow, take some dares through the rapids.”
Image from Unsplash by Benjamin Davies
If your life were a movie or TV show, how likely is it that it would be a blockbuster everyone talks about?
Mine would probably not be a big hit with most people. When I ask people who know me best to describe me, some words that pop up often include: dependable, disciplined, reliable, steady, cooperative, honest, loyal, and friendly.
Being a “Steady Eddie” has served me well, and I consider myself very happy with my reasonable, predictable life.
On the other hand, there are many displays in my office of my favorite quote: “When patterns are broken, new worlds will emerge.” This thought constantly reminds me to keep checking in to see where I am committed to something bigger, better, or just different from “going with the flow.” It’s at these times I periodically jump into the fast-moving or riskier waters of life, and go for it. It’s interesting to note that a high percentage of these times are associated with some of my most memorable and significant accomplishments.
What is one important area of your life in which it is time to jump into the rapids and be a bit more daring?
“Creativity is inventing, experimenting, growing, risk-taking, breaking rules, making mistakes, and having fun.”
—Mary Lou Cook, late Peace Activist
During the Personal Excellence Workshop that begins each of my coaching programs, my clients list their personal strengths. I am somewhat surprised that less than half of them include creativity in their list.
When prompted about their level of creativity, they humbly deflect, stating things like, “On Occasion / Not Really,” or “That is why I do _____ for a living.”
I suggest that we all are far more creative than we believe and that we all create our lives each and every day, for better or for worse.
How can you take Mary Lou Cook’s coaching to increase your daily level of inventing, experimenting, risk-taking, rule breaking, and mistake making to expand your creative capacity and make your life a lot more fun?