Let go of some things in your life that you worked hard for

“Let go of some things in your life that you worked hard for, but that are now holding you back.”

Arthur C. Brooks, 11th President of the American Enterprise Institute

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Over the past several years, I have discovered and embraced the wisdom of the adage, Less is More. With two young grandchildren the idea of more love for people and less love of things really hits home.

As we add a new year to the mix, life seems to be accelerating. Spending our time and energy to hold on and maintain previously hard-won victories makes less and less sense with the acknowledgement of life’s impermanence.


Where is it time to let go of things you previously valued? How can your open hands help you grasp far more of what is even more important at this point in your life?

Don’t be fooled by the calendar

“Don’t be fooled by the calendar. There are only as many days in the year as you make use of. One person gets only a week’s value out of a year while another gets a full year’s value out of a week.”

—Charles Richards, Author of The Psychology of Wealth

Barry’s Watch

I own a Warner Brothers watch given to me by my wife over 20 years ago.

It shows Sylvester the Cat using a toothpick with Tweety Bird inside still very much alive.

What makes this watch extra special is that it has a small button on the side that illuminates the face in the dark or when the light is low. I refer to it as my “Lighten up” watch, to remind me to not be so serious and engage in life with a more playful spirit.

This watch has been sitting in a drawer and has not been worn since the beginning of the pandemic.

Fortunately, I seem to have developed an internal light that illuminates my life and lets me know what’s truly important.


What are your thoughts about today’s quote?

What is your current relationship with time?

What do you consider your wisest investments of this precious resource?

Please reply to this post if your care to share your perspective.

Friday Review: Value

Friday Review: Value

What do you value most in your life? How do you determine value? Here are a few related posts you may have missed.


“You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches.”




“We are drowning in information and starving for knowledge.”




“Look not at the vessel, but at what it contains.”




Spend as much time crafting the subject line of an e-mail as the message itself

“Spend as much time crafting the subject line of an e-mail as the message itself because the subject line is often the only thing people read.”

Kevin Kelly, Founding Executive Editor of Wired Magazine

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If you are a blogger or happen to read some good ones, you know that the subject line of each message is critical. Our time is precious and we sure don’t want to waste it on useless ramblings and nonsense.

A metric many bloggers consider important is the open rate of each post. This metric helps let them know if their readers are finding their efforts of interest and value. Wit and cleverness are often used to hook readers at least temporarily to read further to hopefully grasp their messages and nuggets of wisdom.

From the people I know, like, and trust, just the subject line “Message from (their name)” is enough for me to read further, knowing that my previous interactions with them have earned my attention and interest.


Where and with whom would your name alone be key words in the subject line of an email to guarantee the open rate you desire?

“Look not at the vessel, but at what it contains.”

“Look not at the vessel, but at what it contains.”

—Rabbi Meir, ancient Jewish Sage

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In recent weeks, the subject of death has become more prominent than usual in my personal and professional communities.

The focus on being sincerely interested and seeking to fully understand others results in numerous deep and meaningful conversations.

Of particular interest were the beautiful and soulful discussions of how the passing of certain individuals with hearts of gold and other wondrous virtues has impacted the lives of so many.


How often do you look beyond the surface of the people you meet?

What value and beauty would you potentially discover by doing so, starting with those closest to you?

“What would happen if you doubled down on service?”

“What would happen if you doubled down on service?”

—Robert Richman, keynote speaker and culture architect

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Did you know that it takes 5-7 times the effort and resources to obtain new customers than to keep existing customers?

With this statistic in mind, how much effort have you and your organization focused on new customer acquisition rather than making sure your current customers are delighted with you, your products, and of course, your level of service?

Customer loyalty is worth billions, however, we often slack off on our best behaviors once we close the deal. Much like when we say our “I Do” to our life partners. Given the divorce rate of about 50%, we all can see the need to maintain and more appropriately improve these relationships if they are to prosper.


What are some ways you can and will double down on your levels of service in your professional and personal communities? What would be the value of the loyalty generated?

“What is the problem that you are the answer to?”

“What is the problem that you are the answer to?”

—Author Unknown

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Consider all the roles and responsibilities you have in a typical day. How is it that you create value in your professional and personal communities?

Which of these efforts create the greatest intrinsic and extrinsic value for others and at the same time bring the greatest joy and life satisfaction to you?

Consider the overlapping of these areas as your personal and professional brand or niche. How much of your day do you expend in these efforts versus those that feel like an obligation or burden?


What are your special talents and unique abilities that light you up and solve meaningful problems in the world?

How might you realign your daily efforts to spend far more of your precious time doing what you were meant to do?

Watch What You Say Life Might be Listening

“Watch what you say. Life might be listening.”

—Author Unknown

Image of a calculator and a balance sheet

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Imagine you are given a special bank account when you are an infant, just learning to speak and understand language.

What you don’t know at the time is that the words you speak and hear have a form of value or credit to them. Some words contribute to your net worth, others drain and deplete your reserves. Some may even put you in debt, or a form of life bankruptcy.

Pay particular attention today to the words you speak and hear, personally and professionally. Notice how much value and wealth you create for yourself and others.


How can you fully listen and tune into the powerful and value-packed words of others? How can you more fully contribute to others by generously sharing only the richest and choicest thoughts?

drowning in information

“We are drowning in information and starving for knowledge.”

—Rutherford D. Rogers, Deputy Librarian of Congress

Image of keyboard, hands, coffee, and watch

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Did you know that the average person has five social media accounts, and spends one hour and forty minutes browsing their networks each day?

The average adult also spends more than twenty hours online, and watches over thirty hours of television per week.

How does your usage compare to these statistics? To what degree are you drowning in information?

Unfortunately, many of us simply assume that is “the way things are,” and that we simply need to keep up with the pace of life and swim for our lives.


Estimate what percent of the information you take in through social media and other sources is truly valuable and worth knowing.

Begin today, through a more discerning perspective, to remove or eliminate at least one such source until your head is fully above water.

“What you do today is important because…”

“What you do today is important because you are exchanging a day of your life for it.”

—Author Unknown

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Photo from Flickr by GotCredit

What is a day worth? If you were to calculate the monetary value of one full revolution of planet Earth, what would the exact value be?

The professional service providers who are my coaching clients often bill out at hourly rates. Just to make the math simple for this example, we’ll assume a rate of $200/hour. One 24-hour day would be worth $4,800.

Add that to the qualitative value you attribute to each day you spend with family, friends, and colleagues, engaged in enjoyable and meaningful pursuits.


Based on the scenario above, select a number which represents the value you attribute to a single day. As you look at today and look forward to tomorrow, how will you spend your “life equity” to make the most of this miracle called life?